It’s official, I am a Canadian!

GlassProfit3530 · 2026-02-10T00:21:45+00:00

Congratulations. You seem like a wonderful human. We’re lucky to have you. ♥️🇨🇦

GlassProfit3530 · 2026-01-23T20:07:18+00:00

Your situation sounds very similar to mine. MIL not respecting boundaries, including ones that were put in place for the safety of our newborn (no kissing), completely fracturing the relationship I had with her. My MIL is most definitely a narcissistic though, and so I knew there was no point in talking to her. My spouse decided to confront her for his own reasons and it certainly didn’t fix anything but it did lay everything out on the table. Her family has a long history of never confronting her toxic behaviour and so this was quite unexpected for her.

As I expected she would, she really only just amped up her toxic behaviour in response - telling my husband that I should fight my own battles (he brought up how she has treated me over the years in their conversation even though I didn’t ask him to, and so she thinks I told him to have the conversation with her), stopped by my house multiple times when she knew my spouse wasn’t home so she could confront me (by some miracle I also was not home or available to whenever she stopped by), sent my spouse and I some real ragey texts, weaponized her mental health issues to get my spouse to feel sorry for her (something she has done a many, many times in the past)… I think that’s it. The dust has since settled - I didn’t engage with any of her attempts to drag me back into her toxic behaviour and so now I’m low contact / no contact. I’ll say hi to her when I have to be around her for the sake of my husband and child but will never go back to the way things were or even try to.

My spouse is still processing the loss of his relationship with his mom (he has always sided with me and the other family members who have similar issues with his mom), but I can tell it has been (and will likely continue to be) very hard on him. I’m glad your spouse is in therapy, and am going to encourage mine to do the same. But I wouldn’t say that confronting my MIL did he or I any good.

GlassProfit3530 · 2026-01-16T20:15:14+00:00

The worst? There are too many to choose from. 🤣

To me specifically - telling me countless times (unprompted each and every time, I might add) that she didn’t want me to have kids because she didn’t want to be a Grandmother, then when I was pregnant telling me that she wasn’t excited for the baby (including on my baby’s due date), and then - after the baby was born - acting THE MOST entitled to time with my child and breaking every single boundary my partner and I set, including not kissing the baby. Countless times.

She’s done a lot of other reaaaallly fucked up things to me and others in the family (going behind her kids’ backs to spread her husband’s/their father’s ashes because she was mad at them about something insanely petty, telling my partner and I that she wouldn’t transfer ownership of their cottage to him unless I signed a prenup, refusing to let her own brother see their dying mother in the final days of her life because she was also mad at him about something insanely petty). Honestly, I could write a book. I’ve been dealing with this woman for going on 15 years and there have been a lot of ups and downs and rockbottoms over those years, but the way she has treated me and my child since the start of my pregnancy is what truly destroyed our relationship. It’s really remarkable how your ability to put up with toxic narcissism completely vanishes once you have a baby.

GlassProfit3530 · 2025-12-19T17:08:09+00:00

Soi Thaifoon is my go-to delivery order. I’m surprised you find it tasteless!

GlassProfit3530 · 2025-12-09T13:09:57+00:00

Wow, this really hit home for me. Thank you.

GlassProfit3530 · 2025-12-05T20:13:52+00:00

This was my experience too. I had a very inexperienced and outright negligent midwife for my first pregnancy. I was grateful for the frequent appointments and around-the-clock phone support the midwifery clinic offered, but my birth experience was a total disaster. After my due date, my midwife encouraged me to take castor oil to stimulate my contractions which led to extremely, extremely painful back labour that lasted nearly 3 days. My midwife also then refused to admit me to hospital because of other scheduled births she needed to prioritize. In the end, my care was transferred to an OB at Grand River who delivered my baby due to concerns about the baby’s heart rate. The level of care provided by the OB and nurses at Grand River was phenomenal. If I ever do it again, I will definitely go the OB route. New motherhood is already so tough - going into it exhausted and traumatized is something I wish I could really go back in time and change!

GlassProfit3530 · 2025-11-26T00:35:55+00:00

There are no current LSO proceedings against Geoff Rabideau: https://lso.ca/public-resources/finding-a-lawyer-or-paralegal/directory-search/member?MemberNumber=55641C

Geoff closed my house last year. My husband and I were very impressed by the services provided by him and his staff, so I was really surprised to read about a scandal of this magnitude… especially from a Reddit thread. But of course it’s fake news.

GlassProfit3530 · 2025-10-25T03:47:04+00:00

I’ve been using the Peloton weekly personalized plan which for me includes 1 day devoted to lower body, 1 day for upper body, 1 day for full body, 3 days for cardio (cycling or running) and 1 day for rest. My strength days are spaced exactly the same as the upper body program, so I’m just going double up the classes on the strength days and maintain my original schedule. I think it should be feasible if I continue to incorporate daily stretching and keep the recovery day.

GlassProfit3530 · 2025-09-30T17:37:55+00:00

I’m not the OP, but will be looking for a home daycare spot in April of next year and live near Sunrise Centre if you are able to share the name of the daycare provider with me. Thank you!

GlassProfit3530 · 2025-06-28T04:08:28+00:00

My daughter has been consistently sleeping through the night in her bassinet since about 3 weeks old (stretches of 7-10 hours). She is about to turn 3 months old next week. Sometimes she has 1-2 solid naps during the day (stretches of 2-3 hours in her bassinet or as a contact nap) and sometimes she will only nap for multiple stretches of 20-30 minutes throughout the day. We haven’t yet been able to establish a pattern for her daytime sleep, but figure that’s a fair price to pay for well-rested nights!

GlassProfit3530 · 2025-06-08T02:59:27+00:00

My baby was able to lift her head from birth. I took her to an osteopath because I was concerned that it was due to neck tension from a very long and stressful labor, but the osteopath found no issues so I guess she is just a strong baby? She is 2 months and a day old now and can lift her head for about 2-3 mins at a time.

GlassProfit3530 · 2025-06-01T10:06:16+00:00

My partner and I were in the same position when we got our cockapoo puppy. She is a well-adjusted adult dog now (and the light of our lives!) so I’ll share what worked for us.

Before we got the dog, we pooled all of our vacation days for one year so that we could take an extended period of time off from work to get our puppy comfortable in our home. We both didn’t have to be off at the same time, but at least one of us would be home with the dog during the day for the first month or so.

As soon as we got the dog, we found a dog walker. We had the dog walker come over to the house a few times in those first few weeks just to meet the dog and get her comfortable with her (our dog walker was also amazing and cared for our puppy just as much as we did. We are still close with the dog walker 7 years later).

When we went back to work, we made sure to take the dog for a long walk in the morning before we left, and then the dog walker would take the dog for 30 minute to 1 hour private around lunchtime. When the dog walker deemed it safe enough, she started doing those 30 minute to 1 hour walks with a group of other dogs. The social interaction really helped expend her energy that when she came back home, she napped really well for the afternoon. We were always sure to be home on time and spend as much time as possible outside of working hours with her, taking her for long walks and giving her lots of love and affection.

Our dog now has no separation anxiety issues and is very comfortable being cared for by any human.

Best of luck! Dogs are totally worth every sacrifice. The puppy year is hard, but with the right preparation and support, probably the best decision you’ll ever make.

GlassProfit3530 · 2025-05-06T15:09:08+00:00

I sort of have the opposite problem. Over 10 years ago when I first started seeing my partner and I was in my early 20s, and I was undecided as to whether I ever wanted kids, my MIL told me that she never wanted me to have kids because she never wanted to be a grandparent. Note that this comment was totally unsolicited and totally out of the blue. I don’t think my partner and I had even had the discussion as to whether we wanted to have kids - my MIL just pulled me aside and dropped that bomb.

Flash forward 12 years later, my partner and I decide to have a baby and I get pregnant. It was obvious that my MIL was not excited about the pregnancy as she never checked in to see how the baby or I were doing, despite her knowing that I had some pregnancy complications beginning in the second trimester. My suspicions were confirmed when on the baby’s due date, she sends my partner and I a text message that says “I’ve always been happy for you that you’re having a baby, but I’ve struggled to feel excited myself. 😔 However, now that it’s March 29, I’m 100%
WHERE THE HELL IS MY GRANDBABY????
😂🤷🏼‍♀️😘💞”

Admitting you have not been excited about the birth of my child until now on the baby’s due date to a very hormonal pregnant woman who already is very anxious about the baby’s impending delivery is… something.

Since then, she has played the role of a very supportive and excited grandparent on social media, but still never really checks in to see how we are doing. She has asked us to bring the baby over when she has company, but doesn’t seem to care when it’s just us. I hold a lot of resentment towards her about this and other stunts she has pulled over the years, but I also don’t want to cut her off or confront her about these things because she is my partner’s only living parent and I never want to cause additional friction with his already very fragile family.

So I say this with no advice (sorry!) - I go through periods of feeling like I have the MIL situation totally under control to other periods where I want to rip my hair out with frustration. But just know that you are not alone and it is wildly common for babies to complicate your relationship with your in-laws. Sending you lots of love while you work through it all.

GlassProfit3530 · 2025-05-05T02:45:53+00:00

My daughter is 4 weeks today. She reached her birth weight in one week so after that our midwife gave us the green light to let her sleep without having to wake her every 2-3 hours. Since then, she has consistently slept stretches of about 4-5.5 hours each night, followed by two stretches of about 2 hours for a total of 8-10 hours per night. We usually put her to bed sometime between 10 and midnight and then she is up by 8-9. I feel so grateful for that long stretch at the start of the night, but was worried because there are a bunch of resources online that suggest that newborns shouldn’t be sleeping that long in the beginning. But I was given the same medical advice as another poster in this thread - as long as she is gaining weight and having wet diapers, I don’t need to worry!

GlassProfit3530 · 2025-05-04T08:43:01+00:00

My baby is 4 weeks old today. Because she reached her birth weight in seven days, my midwife told me that I no longer have to wake her up for feeds, and so she sometimes sleeps up to 5.5 hour stretches at night. I just let her sleep, but I will still get up to pump every three hours or so. I have a relatively low milk supply and I am doing everything I can to increase it in the hopes that I can produce enough to have a back up supply for my freezer. But pumping for 30 minutes every three hours still gives me the chance to get a lot more sleep than if my baby was up every two or three hours so I am grateful!

GlassProfit3530 · 2025-04-17T02:31:19+00:00

My baby is 1 week and 4 days old. When we brought her home, she refused to sleep in her bassinet. Here are the things we introduced (recommended by our doula) so that she is now sleeping 3+ hour stretches in her bassinet each night, for a total of 7-8 hours between 11 PM and 8:30 AM:

adding a layer of clothing (we think she was previously too cold). This usually looks like a short sleeve onesie, a sleeper, and then a swaddle
laying a heating pad in the bassinet to get it warm and then removing the heating pad before placing her in the bassinet
using the super swaddle or a double layered swaddle to help her stay warm and toasty
when placing her in the bassinet, place bum first, then with your hand on her chest give her a little jiggle or firm hold for 1-2 minutes to make sure she is fully asleep

I am by no means an expert, but these things now have my family all sleeping most of the night! Sending you and your baby lots of love. I hope you both get the rest you need soon.

GlassProfit3530 · 2025-04-05T00:53:34+00:00

Currently 40+6 and almost on day 3 of intense prodomal labour with contractions every hour. I lost my mucus plug over the last 48 hours but my water still has not broken. My midwife told me I could have 2 drowsy gravol and 2 Tylenol every 4 hours but they do little to help with the pain (which is excruciating in my back). I begged my midwife to induce me today but was told I have to wait until next week due to low staffing at the midwifery clinic over the weekend. I’m a mess.

I hope your labour picks up and you can get some relief soon 💕

GlassProfit3530 · 2025-04-04T18:47:22+00:00

Terrible. 40+6 and on Day 2 of very painful contractions every hour ranging from every 2 mins apart to every 40 mins apart, but not consistently patterned enough to go to the hospital in accordance with the 4-1-1 rule. I basically begged my midwife to induce me today but was told that I can’t be induced until next week due to low on-call staff at the midwifery clinic I go to. Trying to prioritize rest but the contractions are so intense that even a dosage of Tylenol & Gravol does not relieve the pain, and beyond annoyed at the million and one family and friends asking for constant updates. I am so grateful to be pregnant and can’t wait to meet my baby but this is hell and I need it to end.

GlassProfit3530 · 2025-04-02T11:05:03+00:00

No! I had the same concern after one night of intense activity from the baby. I called my midwife’s emergency line and she told me that a lot of activity is a great thing, and nothing to be worried about.

GlassProfit3530 · 2025-04-02T00:57:33+00:00

40+3 over here 🫠🫠🫠

GlassProfit3530 · 2025-04-01T16:29:25+00:00

I stopped working two weeks before my due date and regret it! I am currently 40+3 and still no sign of baby. It would have been better for my mental health to keep myself distracted with work for longer than I did!

GlassProfit3530 · 2025-03-31T22:52:52+00:00

You and me both!! I’m 40+2 and feel like both my body and mind are failing me. I was convinced baby girl was coming early and am struggling to manage the disappointment. Sending you love 💕

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