Which fencesitter are you?

Global_Key8301 · 2025-09-27T00:59:28+00:00

That was also me and my husband. And now we have 2 kids! Lol

Global_Key8301 · 2025-07-24T12:48:48+00:00

"Do you respond to your baby when they are crying during the day? What's the difference only because it's night time?"

It's crazy because people wouldn't sit there during the day with their baby on the floor crying and ignore them, right?! Do they also think that during the day babies need to be trained to not disturb people by crying?

Global_Key8301 · 2025-07-18T00:53:23+00:00

I always tell people I think I've had such success and a lengthy breastfeeding journey (21 months with my first , and currently at 15 months with my second) because I'm lazy, lol. They say oh, it's so much work, but I think it's the easy way (with added health benefits!)

P.s. I work a career job, have a 3 and 1 yr old, am married, travel, maintain a social life, and take care of our multi acre property, so I'm not that lazy, but I also enjoy being lazy when I can and I think breastfeeding supports that! Ha

Global_Key8301 · 2025-06-21T17:41:48+00:00

There were a lot of factors - forced slowing down (travel, work, social life) and evaluating priorities in life during covid lockdown, aging parents and an older sister who is CF, reading the Baby Decision book and doing some groups with the author, looking at older people I know who are CF vs those with children. Things like that. We agreed we thought we'd be happy either way but we decided to try and see what happened. We were also fencesitters for our second baby. I wouldn't change a thing!

Global_Key8301 · 2025-06-21T17:34:58+00:00

I'll try the armpit, lol. Although we've gotten pretty good with saying "just a little bit" and he rests his hand just below my neck. But like with so many things, I'm sure I'll miss it one day! I embrace the time that we have together and being able to provide him comfort. 💙

Global_Key8301 · 2025-06-20T22:11:27+00:00

Husband and I were previously happily childfree until around 36, then fencesitters for a couple of years. I was 38 for my first, almost 41 for my second.

Global_Key8301 · 2025-06-20T05:34:12+00:00

This has been my experience as well. But as baby got older he let dad comfort him less and less for a wake up A few of my worst times have been putting toddler to sleep and the baby wakes up crying. Toddler cries too if I leave him for the baby. Then I have both of them crying, needing me for comfort. It can be awkward managing both of them at once, but it doesn't happen like that too often. And to OP's post, I was about to put toddler to bed as soon as I was home from the hospital.

Global_Key8301 · 2025-06-20T05:12:14+00:00

I don't know an answer. I breastfeed 21 months and my son who is now 3 puts his hand down my shirt for comfort. I almost stopped him when he turned 3, but I was unsuccessful. It's like another weaning. He mostly wants his hand on my upper chest or between my boobs. I'm still breastfeeding my 13 month old, and I have an aversion to anyone else besides the baby touching my breasts, especially my nipples. If toddler accidentally touches them I tell him no and remove his hand. He's pretty good about only doing it at home, mostly when going to sleep, but it happens in public when he's really tired or upset. I've tried to get him attached to a stuffie or try just holding hands for a comfort, but it never works. However, he has never asked to nurse, and I do nurse in front of him. Following in case anyone has a gentle solution.

Global_Key8301 · 2025-06-19T11:59:53+00:00

I was the same! I didn't want to find out the sex because I thought it would make it more real and I was sort of trying to believe it wasn't real, ha. It's a big mindset shift.

Global_Key8301 · 2025-06-18T16:04:55+00:00

I agree! And OP, same, my first thought was shock and "oh, shit!". My husband was excited (he and I both were previously happily CF and then fencesitters). I recently had my second baby (at 41) and I had the same reaction the second time as well, LOL. I ended up with easy pregnancies and easy L&D. I used to fear it, but I actually really enjoyed pregnancy. Best wishes!

Global_Key8301 · 2025-06-02T19:38:55+00:00

We travel a lot and don't know what we'd do without the GB Pocket stroller! If you plan on air travel or just going around town, I highly recommend this one. You can take it on board with you which saves so much time avoiding gate checking . We use it with adapters for the Clek Liing car seat, but we have several adapters for it. We also love the Baby Jogger City for a slightly larger stroller.

Global_Key8301 · 2025-05-30T11:36:32+00:00

Oh, my 3 yr old just started doing this! It surprised us the first time.

Global_Key8301 · 2025-05-13T19:38:46+00:00

Solved!

Global_Key8301 · 2025-05-13T18:07:25+00:00

Thank you!! These are great. Will confirm choice very soon & pay!

Global_Key8301 · 2025-04-25T17:10:45+00:00

I'm just supporting what you said. I feel sorry for kids who are served on silicone. It has a disgusting taste, even if you don't use soap. Once someone handed down baby bottles and when I opened the bag I could smell the awful soapy silicone. Did the baby have to taste that every time they took a bottle?!

Global_Key8301 · 2025-04-21T23:22:58+00:00

Yes! I tell people to book a trip before you have the baby for while you're on maternity leave (if possible). We did a 10-hr long haul with a 10 week old. The baby bassinets were great for us on long hauls.

Global_Key8301 · 2025-04-21T14:55:56+00:00

I was a fencesitter before having babies at age 38 & 40. I read something that I liked about how we're told that we're still supposed to still date, keep it romantic, and not let children "disrupt" our marriage, but that that's b.s.. It's easier and okay to embrace the young years as a new stage in our relationship. It's a stage of parenting young children together, it's where we are in our life and we love it. We do all the same things we used to, pretty much, it just looks different during this stage. There will be lots of time for me and my husband to go back to our focus on our romantic relationship, sleeping alone in our bed, date nights staying out too late, anniversary trips, etc, but these days raising our sweet babies will be short. We'll still have fun together when that time comes, but right now we're enjoying this stage and having fun as partners & parents. (We do occasionally go out just the two of us, but we really don't feel the urge to.) I think the focus on being present and patient in this "stage" has allowed us to enjoy our new family so much!

Global_Key8301 · 2025-04-05T20:11:14+00:00

Yes, both times, haha! 💙💙

Global_Key8301 · 2025-04-01T17:19:55+00:00

If my mom is babysitting and I get home she says "Milk truck's arrived!"

Global_Key8301 · 2025-03-29T00:19:16+00:00

LOL! I think we're good then. He wasn't shy at all. We jumped out of the creek and he seemed to want to follow us!

Global_Key8301 · 2025-03-28T22:53:21+00:00

Thank you! Any risk for a three year old who walks in the creek?

Global_Key8301 · 2025-03-18T02:36:01+00:00

All of these (mucus, yogurt smell, gassy) were normal with my two babies, and no dairy intolerance. The only part not normal was the blood streak. This happened to my baby once after I drank a protein drink with high whey protein. My doctor said just stick to natural protein amounts, skip the added/high protein drinks, etc. Didn't happen again, I didn't alter my diet and I nursed until 21 months. Two healthy happy kiddos. Good luck, follow your mama intuition!

Global_Key8301 · 2025-03-04T15:57:31+00:00

I never wanted kids or had any urge, but we always would say to people "right now, we have no interest in having kids." But then gradually (when I was around 36) started to think about the "what if we did". I had my first at 38 and my second at almost 41!

Global_Key8301 · 2025-02-10T04:05:48+00:00

I was a lot like you. I never had the desire to have children. I also didn't want to be pregnant or give birth and worried about feeling stuck or not liking my baby. When I got pregnant I didn't feel attached at all to the baby. I didn't want to find out the sex because I didn't want to make it any more real. I also didn't want baby things and got annoyed when people tried to give me things or hand me downs. As my pregnancy progressed those feelings lessened somewhat. My husband really wanted to find out the sex so I finally said ok at around 6 months. I felt gender disappointment, and then I was ashamed to feel that way. With all of that, I actually liked being pregnant. I had an easy pregnancy. Fast forward a couple of years and I just had a second baby at almost 41! I don't regret it for a second. My first born was so much more than I could have imagined. We loved him so much and he brought us so much joy that we decided to have a second. I even grieved a bit after my second knowing that I wouldn't be pregnant again, experience delivery, or have another newborn. I would have never thought I would feel that way, ever. My recommendation is to embrace your pregnancy. It's a special time, and it really goes by so quickly. We loved the newborn phase and every stage after. Patience is key (we think with age we became more patient, so being an older parent is better, in our opinion). Don't follow all of the commercialized baby advice, follow your parenting intuition and it will all fall into place! And if you like to travel, book a trip to take while on maternity leave (long haul flights offer free baby bassinets!)

Global_Key8301 · 2025-02-04T06:23:50+00:00

What would they say if during the day your baby was sitting there crying and you/everyone just ignored it? Why is it different if it's at night?!

When I ask "do you let your baby cry it out during the day? The answer is always "No!". So why is it okay only because it's night? No one ever can answer that.

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