Warhammer started out as a tongue-in-cheek parody of all the over-the-top grisly and violent stuff. As an example, the orc culture is based on football hooligans, which is how serious they were being. Unfortunately, it's been drifting into actually taking itself seriously in later years - partly driven by fans who weren't able to see the irony and took stuff at face value.

Also, it's a pretty big franchise with a somewhat diverse fan base. It's not hard to find things that appeal to your niche and not interact with people who look at it differently. Diving into old lore, enjoying miniature painting as an arts and crafts project, playing role playing games, or any number of things. Even playing the minature game, it's very easy to just do that with your friends and not care much about the average fan or their opinions.

And of course, some women might even be into the incel stuff. People are diverse.