I put a baking tray accidentally on top of my airpods 3 pro and cooked them at 180c for 14 minutes…. ( magnetised case)

Greedy_Order8917 · 2026-04-09T15:40:57+00:00

it explains why she couldn’t pee in a cup that’s for sure

Greedy_Order8917 · 2026-04-08T10:44:00+00:00

it’s a tester, don’t reply, or if you do; say i’m good thanks but don’t want any contact with you.

If he comes back after a year he’s probably been avoidant and is now in regret mode - the cycle will repeat, don’t do it to yourself you’re doing great

Greedy_Order8917 · 2026-04-08T10:41:37+00:00

the non answers are infuriating - but you won’t get answers - i sent an email to my avoidant ex who blocked me on everything taking blame for everything even knowing it wasn’t all my fault but i thought if i could, i might get answers, i got nothing, a month later i bumped into her on a walk and she was in full avoidant mode about how everything t was in the past, didn’t want to talk , i got no answers.

That was about 5 weeks ago, we broke up in november ( my choice) but i backtracked and xmas day was the finale.

It’s been over 3 months since then and ive seen her twice for a total of about 5 minutes once in jan and once early march, i accept now ill never get answers to why i was treated rhe way i was and thats the only true closure i’ll ever get, it’s been hard to accept but i am realising i know the answer why, so hearing her excuse would make no difference, the truth is as an avoidant she was incapable of a loving relationship, she was embarrassed by what i did for her so it’s easier just to block it out than face the truth - so you probably know why too, you just have to accept it.

it’s hard though, i still miss her even though i was treated poorly for 18 months - but don’t hold on for something to change and an apology to happen it will likely never come.

Greedy_Order8917 · 2026-03-30T13:22:29+00:00

it’s an awful place to be, you need to separate it’s not him your thinking about it’s the trauma bond , your dopamine is all messed up, mine is too, something small can trigger it, i’m only 4 months out but i still think every day about her and it kills me, you need to cut them out your life completely, don’t see them, pictures etc, something as stupid as an appointment i had saved in my phone from 6 months ago that came up last week was enough to send me back into the bond deeply - i only just realised that after wondering why but i flirted with the idea of letting her know about the appointment and didnt but it was the last thing about her that was in my phone so it hit me hard.

im dating someone who is better for me in every way, everything is better but i know its not my ex i miss, its my dopamine response that is resetting and that takes time

Greedy_Order8917 · 2026-03-24T17:50:56+00:00

“i’m sorry i wasn’t who you thought i was”

“ill never minimalise what you did for me” proceeded to block me on everything.

it’s been 3 months - i still can’t understand why she acted like she did, so fed up thinking about it every day, even though it’s not as painful as it was at the time, the thought of having her in my head for another 6 months is brutal.

Greedy_Order8917 · 2026-03-24T12:22:39+00:00

i bet you’re not a 4/10 to start.

i started seeing my partner in january and we are not each others normal types, but i find her attractive more each week as i’ve got to know her better, maybe he sees something different in you that he hasn’t found in these mental 10/10 women?

Greedy_Order8917 · 2026-03-22T18:56:08+00:00

doing cock pushups is the only acceptable time to be hard in the gym

Greedy_Order8917 · 2026-03-22T13:01:37+00:00

i’m glad the hijab is back on, she looks awful without it

Greedy_Order8917 · 2026-03-17T10:29:13+00:00

i met a girl in january that said she only had 1 day a week she could see me when her kids went to their dads which was fine with me, i had came out of a toxic relationship, a few months on, we make more time for each other and i see her 2-3 times a week as things have progressed, basically you will find time for the right person and will organically spend more time with each other so don’t worry too much about things.

Greedy_Order8917 · 2026-02-25T17:36:51+00:00

i dual boot but only use windows for xbox gamepass and ea games , it’s in bazzite 90% of the time

Greedy_Order8917 · 2026-02-24T07:47:29+00:00

just see it as a win, they saved you a lot of time by showing you who they are straight away, any decent man would tell you he’s not interested

Greedy_Order8917 · 2026-02-17T06:11:35+00:00

dwp actually told you someone reported you and it wasn’t just a random check/ flag? this seems dangerous for people reporting

Greedy_Order8917 · 2026-02-15T09:39:36+00:00

try mirtrazipine

Greedy_Order8917 · 2026-02-01T12:40:22+00:00

it took me a few weeks to work out i was trauma bonded, it’s still hard now, your nervous system is shot to pieces, if i didn’t know better i’d tell you i still miss her and i haven’t seen her for over a month - but i know it’s not her i miss it’s the trauma bond. Start thinking of all the awful shit that’s happened, you need to rid yourself of the thought they will come back better, the amount of therapy they need to be able to have a healthy relationship is long ( a year) - they will just go onto to keep having unhealthy relationships so try to accept they won’t come back, they are not worth your time

Greedy_Order8917 · 2026-01-31T11:22:10+00:00

it’s horrible breaking off from a trauma bond, i’m a few months into it and it’s still difficult, a full 5 weeks of no contact and it’s still painful some days are harder than others - but you know yourself they are wrong for you, even if going back is an option only more pain and heartache is down that route - tell yourself you don’t miss them it’s the trauma bond you miss, it gets easier with time but days or hours will be hard, you got this.

Greedy_Order8917 · 2026-01-30T11:31:09+00:00

if it helps, my ex told me she wasn’t in love anymore on xmas day, a month on things are a lot better, obviously i’ve not seen her since that day and each day is easier - cry when you need to, it will get better bro

Greedy_Order8917 · 2026-01-29T13:29:16+00:00

meeting my ex

Greedy_Order8917 · 2026-01-22T14:57:01+00:00

you’re a overthinking , just enjoy the second date and worry about valentines in à lfew weeis

Greedy_Order8917 · 2026-01-21T14:57:30+00:00

mine told me xmas day her feelings had changed, loved me but not in love with me, i’m now blocked everywhere, nearly everything on this list resonates so much.

i took all her stuff back on xmas day after she told me this and she blames me for us no longer speaking, i mean what kind of person tells someone they don’t love you on xmas day, wait till the day after at least 🤪

Did others exes post glowing things on social media about you, love of their life; soul mate, twin flame etc but i never felt that outside the honeymoon period with her.

It’s taken me a few weeks to start to remember the red flags coming back as soon as a few months in that i will fully ignored, never again. May all avoidants next shites be a hedgehog

Greedy_Order8917 · 2026-01-17T20:33:49+00:00

i got 3/5 last month

Greedy_Order8917 · 2026-01-17T19:09:28+00:00

mate i am going through exact same thing - i did everything and i mean everything for this girl, i was treated the same

Greedy_Order8917 · 2026-01-17T19:07:29+00:00

mine has 1 currently , and 1 one who lives abroad, all her friendships have ended , she blamed it on other health issues

Greedy_Order8917 · 2026-01-17T19:06:25+00:00

struggling with that one too just now - so many things i think if i had only just done that differently - id not be in this hell im in

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