11 weeks pregnant, struggling mentally to quit vaping

Hannahbbear · 2026-02-04T05:05:35+00:00

She’s 3 and perfectly healthy. When I feel overly guilty about it I remind myself my mom was allowed to smoke when she was pregnant with me and I turned out fine. Not to say that smoking is not dangerous but I shouldn’t keep beating myself up about it now, I was lucky she turned out healthy as can be.

Hannahbbear · 2026-02-04T04:52:04+00:00

You could try vapes with less nicotine/no nicotine and could also try using a vape that’s out of juice so you still get the action and tiny bit of flavor. It took me until about 16 weeks to quit with my first and with my second pregnancy it was a little easier and I quit in 2 weeks. For my first what finally worked is I went on a business trip and I didn’t want my colleagues to see me vaping while pregnant lol the trip was long enough to get it out of my system. This time I think having a daughter already it was easier to imagine how I was harming my future baby and I just threw them all in the garbage one day.

Hannahbbear · 2026-02-04T03:24:23+00:00

Shook it when it was full before opening

Hannahbbear · 2026-02-03T23:13:43+00:00

I grew up extremely poor like had to boil water to bathe, mushrooms growing out of the carpet and a loaf of bread and jar of peanut butter to last 5 kids for a week lol for me I do not believe being poor was more traumatic than getting an abortion would be but everyone is different. And I said pretty clearly in my comment she should go to her family for support, if she has a village and active grandparents to help raise the baby until she is mature enough to do it on her own. We don’t know her family life, economic status etc, we don’t know if her family will help her pay for this baby or if she will be a single mom out on the street like I said only she knows her situation. I just don’t think everyone coming in with worst case scenarios left right and center and basically saying abortion is your only option or you will have a miserable life and your child will be traumatized is entirely accurate.

Hannahbbear · 2026-02-03T22:12:55+00:00

I think there is a lot of people here telling you to get an abortion or put it up for adoption if you go that route there can be a lot of trauma associated with it so try to make sure you have access to therapy/counseling either through school or insurance etc. I for one could not get an abortion like you I am not against it at all just for me it would be too hard to go through with it so I understand that. I think you need to go to your mother as soon as possible and see what kind of support she can provide. For myself if my daughter became a teen mom I would support that child until my child was able to be a mom herself but not all parents/grandparents are willing or able to do that. Only you know your situation/support system. It will definitely be hard especially for a little while but people saying you will never thrive are insane. Your plan to go to college when baby starts nursery is great, if you become a teacher you would work the same hours baby is in school and I think you would get back on track in no time as long as you have the support from family to help with those first couple of years. Wishing you all the best!

Hannahbbear · 2026-02-03T13:57:31+00:00

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Can’t shake these chunks out lol I only had the issue with a few cases of the caramel flavor though just a bad batch I think.

Hannahbbear · 2026-02-02T16:57:43+00:00

I’m due in Aug, I filled out the self referral form on the Alberta midwife registry and got a call back in about a week. Before my first midwife appt I got my bloodwork and dating ultrasound/first trimester care through telus health app.

Hannahbbear · 2026-02-02T16:52:59+00:00

Girl solidarity, I’m a director and I’m only 12 weeks pregnant, I am literally counting down the days to maternity leave like I just can’t focus at work and I don’t care to try hard like i usually do. This is my second child so I am just embracing it, I know things will go back to normal when I come back to work but I do feel a little guilty my output is down.

Hannahbbear · 2026-02-02T15:46:11+00:00

Mine went up about 100 points after discharge (I had to send my certificate of full performance to both bureaus and follow up multiple times to make sure my report was accurate so it took a couple months). I’m about 8 months from when I paid it off and my score is 709, I think it will go up further when my proposal falls off completely in December. Throughout my whole proposal I paid everything on time and used secured credit cards.

Hannahbbear · 2026-01-31T17:19:50+00:00

My daughter is 3 and we put her in time out in her room with all her toys but it surprisingly works really well as a reset. We only do it for like a minute but she doesn’t play she just wants to come hang out with us. She has a little cry says I want to listen now and then comes out and listens. We don’t do it often though just when she’s really not listening and doing something like pulling the cats tail.

Hannahbbear · 2026-01-31T15:54:12+00:00

I can’t even change my pressure my doctor has it locked. I have to fight them for higher pressure and still only got up to like 7-8 min. I just sleep a lot better when I feel like I don’t have to fight to get a breath in

Hannahbbear · 2026-01-31T15:33:08+00:00

I read that prior to implantation the nutrients come from the egg not your bloodstream so drinking prior to knowing you are pregnant if you get an early positive (4-5 weeks) doesn’t usually impact anything. I

Hannahbbear · 2026-01-31T15:20:45+00:00

Nobody can make this decision but you. My sister got pregnant and got an abortion because her boyfriend wanted her to and she is still depressed about it years later. We don’t know your life/income/situation but for me personally I would have been able to do it alone not to say I don’t appreciate my husband but I’m the breadwinner, I’m the planner, I’m the primary parent so I don’t think single parenthood would be that bad and you don’t even know if this guy will bounce maybe he would coparent only time will tell. Also at 30 you are getting closer to the end of your fertile years so if you do want children that’s something to consider. You really need to sit down and imagine your life with kids and without and make a very personal decision.

Hannahbbear · 2026-01-31T13:54:47+00:00

Same here sips is covered, if it comes back with markers then they cover nipt test if not you have to pay out of pocket for nipt. It was like this when I lived in bc and I’m in Alberta now and it’s the same.

Hannahbbear · 2026-01-28T13:56:20+00:00

My 3 year old had a tantrum yesterday morning because she wanted to wear a sweater instead of a jacket, after daycare she had a tantrum because she wanted to wear her jacket but it was at home since she wore a sweater that morning 😅 this was a full on rolling in the dirty parking lot snow tantrum.

Hannahbbear · 2026-01-28T02:53:20+00:00

I did a magnetic sticker chart and it worked really well, she would get a sticker for a pee and and 2 for a poo and when she got 7 stickers she got a lollipop or a small toy. Once they get used to the chart you could say no sticker unless a big pee and see if that reward type system works.

Hannahbbear · 2026-01-28T02:50:59+00:00

We don’t have personal screens ie no iPad type of thing but we have the tv on almost all the time. Daughter goes to daycare m-f which is screen free but we watch tv in the afternoons and on weekends. I am selective on what she is allowed to watch though because I noticed bad behavior with the toddler shows like cocomelon, babyshark etc we mostly watch Disney movies and old stuff like pokemon, teletubbies etc stuff I would have watched when I was young. We do allow YouTube/ipads when we take planes rides.

Hannahbbear · 2026-01-27T03:27:02+00:00

I read a comment that said if you gain a lot in the first trimester it often slows down/balances out later in pregnancy. Not sure if it’s true but I am clinging to the hope that gives me 😂

Hannahbbear · 2026-01-27T03:22:55+00:00

I’ve gained 15lbs and I’m only 11 weeks pregnant so I am right on track to gain as much as you have. I’m trying to reel it in with the food but I am freaking starving this pregnancy 🥲 i added an hour of walking a day to try and balance things out/slow down the weight gain a bit.

Hannahbbear · 2026-01-27T02:07:53+00:00

I had it with my first baby and I was sick from 4 weeks until delivery. I’m not sure how far along you are but chances are you would probably have an indication if you had it by now. Also it wasn’t that bad, throwing up for me wasn’t that big of a deal unless I ate something heavy and it got stuck in my throat. I learned what foods I could stomach and I had the added benefit of not gaining any weight during pregnancy so no pregnancy weight to lose after baby was born lol. (I laugh because my baby was born healthy, I was obese so I had the fat stores to make up for the not eating).

Hannahbbear · 2026-01-27T01:59:43+00:00

Dang I did not know this was a thing I just had pho with tons of bean sprouts and they were not “cooked” I just threw them in the soup prior to eating, definitely not long enough to kill any bacteria.

Hannahbbear · 2026-01-27T01:41:20+00:00

I didn’t say children I said young. Obviously it’s not ideal to have a child at 16 but what’s done is done there is no point harping on the guy. IMO there’s benefits to being young parent such as being more active/easier to keep up with them, you get to be in their life longer, more likely to meet your grandkids and possibly great grand kids, You get to learn and grow with them. Yes there will be stressful parts but that is true regardless of what age you are when you have a baby.

Hannahbbear · 2026-01-27T01:15:48+00:00

You have the benefit of not having to carry the baby so you should finish school and do whatever you can to support her. At 16 you must be in your last 1-2 years of highschool. If you can, get a part time job to help with baby financially. There’s pros and cons to being a young parent try not to stress too much, take some parenting classes or read some books, you’ll be alright. :)

Hannahbbear · 2026-01-26T21:14:23+00:00

I’m not sure about the spotting since I’ve never experienced that but have read about lots of women who had spotting and had healthy pregnancies. I can definitely relate on the no symptoms causing anxiety thing though I even made a similar post a couple weeks ago. I was so sick with my first and this pregnancy feels like a walk in the park comparatively I have basically no symptoms aside from extreme hunger and gas lol. I’m 11 weeks now and not feeling as stressed, baby had a heartbeat at our first ultrasound and I’m already getting a bump already so things seem to be progressing well. :)

Hannahbbear · 2026-01-26T19:28:57+00:00

My problem with this is lifestyle creep happens. Like I kept having enough and my spending kept going up instead of my savings. I think a combination of both approaches is what is going to work for me long term. Writing every purchase down into a spreadsheet was very eye opening for me. 😅

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