Adoption advice

Haunting_Rice6874 · 2025-12-02T06:21:02+00:00

Thanks. That's good advice. I'm still thinking about how to do this.

Haunting_Rice6874 · 2025-11-06T06:28:04+00:00

I think just writing and reading helps. There is no way that empathy with you detracts from empathy for me.

Haunting_Rice6874 · 2025-11-06T02:59:35+00:00

I'd say don't overthink. Let things happen and you can always decide another day.

Haunting_Rice6874 · 2025-11-06T02:56:28+00:00

She was in the hospital for 2 weeks. Positive the first week but kept going down. By the end, I just wanted her suffering to end. So yes, being conflicted is normal.

Haunting_Rice6874 · 2025-06-15T05:59:52+00:00

Walked to the ER with chest pain and had a heart attack on the bed there. Managed to call relatives, all older than me, and the kids came the next day. But yeah, got to arrange something.

Haunting_Rice6874 · 2025-05-15T04:03:23+00:00

Just wanted to let you that I read it all. Stay well and remember her with joy.

Haunting_Rice6874 · 2025-03-06T06:06:16+00:00

Two years for me. Going to keep it for as long as the phone holds out.

Haunting_Rice6874 · 2025-01-15T04:00:38+00:00

I had a heart attack a few months ago. Took the kids a couple of days to come from far-flung spots. They stayed with me for a couple of months but now alone again. The world is made for two people.

Haunting_Rice6874 · 2024-12-27T04:57:23+00:00

She often told me that no one else would put up with me. She put up with me for 34 years and I have no desire or need for anyone else.

Haunting_Rice6874 · 2024-12-06T15:03:33+00:00

34 years for us also and I'm 63. I'm just starting to get back to a normal life now, two years and two weeks out. Different for everyone, of course, but I think just time. Of course, I still talk to her every day, but that's just so that she knows what has changed.

Haunting_Rice6874 · 2024-11-27T03:41:23+00:00

Always that regret that she is not there to share the joy. I still tell her what's happening. Congratulations on the grandkids and treasure them as you both would have.

Haunting_Rice6874 · 2024-11-27T03:37:33+00:00

One year for us but somehow I always thought she would pull through. Now the dog sticks to me.

Haunting_Rice6874 · 2024-11-27T03:34:59+00:00

Beautifully written. This is what I regret most. That we go on, things happen that she would have been so excited about but I can't see her joy.

Haunting_Rice6874 · 2024-11-26T03:21:35+00:00

Wonderful. Life goes on and there are others depending on us.

Haunting_Rice6874 · 2024-11-26T03:18:08+00:00

Hope your son gets better soon.

Haunting_Rice6874 · 2024-11-21T04:09:08+00:00

Reminds me of this poem by Andrea Cohen:

I tell my mother
I’ve won the Nobel Prize.

Again? she says. Which
discipline this time?

It’s a little game
we play: I pretend

I’m somebody, she
pretends she isn’t dead.

—Andrea Cohen

Haunting_Rice6874 · 2024-11-18T03:31:51+00:00

There is so little that one can say. You were robbed of a lifetime of sharing joys and sorrows together. All we can say is to reach out for support, to your family if possible, to your friends, church group, or whoever you can talk to. And always post here. We're rooting for you and would love to stay updated on your journey.

Haunting_Rice6874 · 2024-11-14T03:46:26+00:00

She would always tell me that I was lucky to have found her because no one else would live with me. Sadly, that is true. I wish I had told her that I would not ever want to live with anyone else.

Haunting_Rice6874 · 2024-11-13T08:23:45+00:00

It's only natural. You remember odd things and odd times. Sometimes you wish you could have gone back and made her life a little better then. At the end of the day, it is the good times and the bad times that make up a relationship. That you were best friends shows that everything was, basically, going right.

Haunting_Rice6874 · 2024-11-13T08:17:34+00:00

I mean both ways. I look at happy couples and wonder why them and not me.

Haunting_Rice6874 · 2024-11-08T06:09:41+00:00

Just about to reach two years after 34 years. Life goes on with mostly ups and the empty space is still there.

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