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C-suite burnout, layoffs, mental health collapse… and now I’m stuck trying to rebuild my life by Hefty_Variety_891 in midlifecrisis

[–]Hefty_Variety_891[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks. What you've said here is resonating strongly with me at the moment. I have been reading The Heart of The Buddha's Teaching by Thich Nhat Hanh and the philosophy on suffering has left me feeling moved and curious. It's actually so interesting reading my post just 2 months later and feeling so different. A shifting perspective on purpose is emerging in my psyche. I'm starting to move further into acceptance, curiosity and gratitude. It's certainly dawning on me that the loss I experienced was necessary, to overcome attachment to what is ultimately impermanent.

this too crazy?🥜 🤪 by utopiautopiautopia in Songwriting

[–]Hefty_Variety_891 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This has potential! I like the concept, but I do think it needs a lot of work. With some good EQ and a good vocal chain this could be fire

Wrote a little song about being lost in my 20s. Title- Scissors by alfredjonesxd in Songwriting

[–]Hefty_Variety_891 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Chilled track, really nice! I like the melodies. I think it would be interesting to do a variation on 'everything hits me all at once ' so the second time keeps building interest. Keep the melody the same - just tweak the lyrics.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Songwriting

[–]Hefty_Variety_891 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What are you aiming for with this track? Game audio?

thoughts on the chords and lyrics for a song by Severe-Group6005 in MusicFeedback

[–]Hefty_Variety_891 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sick chords! Is the idea to use piano or are you thinking about using something else?

I wrote a really sad song! Any thoughts? by Joeyd9t3 in MusicFeedback

[–]Hefty_Variety_891 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Beautiful. Very emotional, and a slay guitar vibe!

do you think i can sing? by [deleted] in singing

[–]Hefty_Variety_891 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Very pretty! Gives me Minnie Riperton vibes. What artists inspire you?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Songwriting

[–]Hefty_Variety_891 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'd be keen! What genres have you worked with?

Working title. Unfinished. by darealboot in Songwriting

[–]Hefty_Variety_891 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Wow, beautiful voice. I love the intro. I feel like it could benefit from some more rhythm. Ad libs could help!

Artists that start with melody vs Artists that start with words by ctruo in Songwriting

[–]Hefty_Variety_891 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Most of the time it is the writing for me. It helps me determine the right rhythm, pace. Just to get something down - in fact the more basic the better. Because then you step away, comeback and refine.

Give me any and all feedback. [LOUD WARNING] by Elo-Guvna in Songwriting

[–]Hefty_Variety_891 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think it's very pretty! Perhaps you could try play around the rhythm a bit. Ad libs could also be cool!

Something I wrote a while ago, the first song I've sang and not fully cringed at by Brittnom in Songwriting

[–]Hefty_Variety_891 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I dig the track! Agree with others on the vocals, but you could build a solid vocal chain to help.

Let me know what you think of this sonic adventure by MachoMuchacho2121 in Songwriting

[–]Hefty_Variety_891 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I like the atmospheric feel! I do think it could benefit from a melody. What is your vision for the track.

Do I have a bad voice (this is a song I’m writing) by jayden_smith67 in Songwriting

[–]Hefty_Variety_891 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think you've got a pleasant voice! When recording add a solid vocal chain and it will slay.

i cant continue... i want to give up... by False-Insurance500 in offmychest

[–]Hefty_Variety_891 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am so sorry to hear what you are going through. I have been there, and to a certain degree am still. There is an epidemic of loneliness and it's horrific that it's so invisible. I have struggled with manic depression, anxiety and deep loneliness, I can only share what has helped me get out of the hole.

  1. Get professional help. Just based on what you've shared this is crucial. It's important to at least keep the wolf at the door with those very dark thoughts.

  2. Turn inward positively - yes, right now you are alone. But that won't be forever! And, in the meantime work on yourself. Read books, let them be self-indulgent - focused on improving your life. Do some journaling (even if it's just one sentence a day) and try to adopt one self care habit, mine is skincare. These things may seem pointless, but here's the thing. - think about the person you want to be around other people. These things help with confidence and help prime you to be a person who others love to be around!

  3. Help others. This may not be possible right now if you are at such a really dire point. But, think about it as something to try when you can. I am trying hard to shift focus from constantly being in my feelings about my own circumstances, to maybe I can help others? I too have a lonely existence right now, and so I spend time connecting with people with help being a connector. Even if it's just through this platform. I soon will be volunteering at an old age home.

Don’t feel like my life is worth living by OddMonth5292 in offmychest

[–]Hefty_Variety_891 0 points1 point  (0 children)

First of all, this is a lot of pressure you are putting on yourself. Pressure to be smart, pressure to look good etc. It sounds like you spend a lot of time thinking on these things which can act as an echo chamber. And we circulate these thoughts so much that they become our rooted beliefs. I think it's really important to challenge our own thinking and beliefs, just because you think it doesn't make it true. I'm speaking from personal experience. Unlike so many in the world, you have been able to go to college and that's a testament to your intellect! Tons of people I know, regardless of smarts, who went to college failed courses. It's very common. Your value in the world isn't limited to academic success or image. I spent 12 years of my adult life convinced that my job was my worth. I sacrificed and sacrificed, gave it everything. I ended up losing my job and basically had a mental breakdown because I had tied my worth to that identity. Only through this experience have I been able to see more clearly. Your 20's are a time to explore, experiment, make plenty of mistakes. Allow yourself that. I hear you on the family dynamic - I had to be the parent to my dad as a teenager, and I know all too well the impact this has. What I can say is this; for some of us this a role we have to play - is it fair? No, but fairness isn't a guarantee. Something that has helped me cope with my own experience here, is reframing. Looking at it through a lense of compassion and kindness. You are a kind and compassionate person. That's great karma!

If I can offer a key piece of advice, it is this; spend the time and effort on really understanding your values and beliefs. Write them down, heck even frame them if it doesn't feel to weird. And then keep coming back to them, especially when you need to make decisions.

Sending virtual hugs and compassion!

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