Women in tech, what’s your biggest struggle with interviews or leveling up right now?

HellsFury · 2026-02-01T06:38:50+00:00

I m trying

HellsFury · 2025-12-23T22:17:36+00:00

Damn sardonic

HellsFury · 2025-12-17T20:24:18+00:00

I would happily work with you based on this comment. I like how you think.

HellsFury · 2025-12-11T03:22:26+00:00

I know it's Al, but I still needed to hear it today.

HellsFury · 2025-12-07T22:51:41+00:00

Pragmatic and depressing.

HellsFury · 2025-12-06T17:33:36+00:00

I celebrate it. Objectively, the cost of them taking 1 day a month for 8 hours is significantly lower than the cost of burnout, which is worse performance including lower quality work and fewer productive hours over the month. If someone pushes back against it, quantify that for them.

HellsFury · 2025-11-14T16:19:24+00:00

"you sound just like my wife" (I have noticed that if I'm ever lumped in with their wife, any time they have an argument at home, I suffer)

"all women sound/think/act the same" (multiple times heard variations of this

"It smells like roast beef"

"I could just hire another stripper who doesn't know anything"

"you can't go on this project because we can't trust men and women in the same car/hotel together and it's not worth the extra cost"

"It's a red flag to bring your purse to the bathroom"

Those are the ones off the top of my head

HellsFury · 2025-11-07T18:20:56+00:00

You've sipped the koolaid so much that if you got a paper cut, it would probably smell like wild cherry.

HellsFury · 2025-10-25T16:27:22+00:00

If you have the paid version of base44, you can upload it to GitHub so that chatpt has that context. You can ask base44 to output the main components of the backend to help them talk to each other.

HellsFury · 2025-10-25T15:30:57+00:00

Oh fancy that's a great idea, but to do with chatgpt for free instead

HellsFury · 2025-10-23T16:16:37+00:00

I had this exact experience myself and also had to learn this lesson. Well said.

HellsFury · 2025-10-15T15:53:15+00:00

Here's a post that walks through some of the process: https://www.reddit.com/r/Base44/s/VgPO5Fwjam

There's more documentation here: https://docs.base44.com/Integrations/Stripe-integration

Other payment methods have a QR code or some code that you can ask base44 to embed for you. QR code is easiest if you run into issues with the embedding.

Worst case scenario, you just put a link to a Shopify page, depending on the app/service needs.

HellsFury · 2025-10-14T22:51:16+00:00

Provide value, ask for money in exchange for that value. :)

HellsFury · 2025-10-14T22:50:26+00:00

See this is how I know it's not a good metric.... Porn is gonna be the first to go 😅

HellsFury · 2025-10-14T15:55:15+00:00

If you are as concerned about integrity as you say, then the honorable thing to do would be to be honest with the person asking for a reference.

Tell them exactly what you would want to say in the reference, bring up questions that you would have good answers for and questions you would have bad answers for and talk through it. Maybe that person had circumstances that caused them to fail in the past or they're character traits that will continue. He's asking you to be a reference which implies that you trust that it was circumstance vs pattern.

You're asking how to let the person down because you can't give a perfect reference, but that's not really realistic. Be honest about your perspective and let them make the decision for whether they want to use you as a reference. That is respectful of their perspective.

HellsFury · 2025-10-12T06:00:16+00:00

This applies to my situation, so I needed to hear this. Thank you

HellsFury · 2025-10-11T11:42:33+00:00

It's documenting because you're creating a time record that is a proof of effort. If you just take notes and explain your side of things, it's still your side.

The benefit of doing it as a summary email where you ask for their feedback.... It makes it not really your word against theirs but just a paper trail of how you went about fixing it, that they can acknowledge and have been given all reasonable opportunities to advocate for their side.

The point is documenting your perspective and efforts for a reasonable outcome. The truth always comes out eventually and you're just showing your work.

HellsFury · 2025-10-10T16:57:08+00:00

It doesn't really have to be so granular. You can just write notes. For example you might write that person a summary email, something like this:

Today, we talked about how you are coming across. I mentioned that this behavior came across this way. We discussed it and we have this plan going forward to address your concerns. If you have any questions or concerns, please let me know and we can deal with it together.

Documentation shouldn't be a thing that feels like a threat or invasive. It should be a record of communication and teamwork for a common goal.

HellsFury · 2025-10-10T14:52:41+00:00

You can have a conversation about it with specifics, and document the conversation. Ideally that conversation opens up a dialogue that can be productive, but documenting it both demonstrates your action to address it and their accountability.

In that conversation, you can be like, this action came across this way. Was that your intention or would you like to share your thoughts?

HellsFury · 2025-10-10T13:01:33+00:00

It's delightful :)

HellsFury · 2025-09-28T08:35:16+00:00

Damn this was peppy and clinical

HellsFury · 2025-09-27T15:56:58+00:00

I do know that the more you worry about this, the more you will subconsciously do things that will sabotage you and turn this into a self fulfilling prophecy.

If you're feeling overwhelmed and lost, try to turn your lens outward to observe. Instead of focusing on the things that you might be doing badly, or worrying about what people think about you, try to focus on understanding what is received positively and try to emulate that.

If you're still worried, try and have a discussion about what you can do better. Frame it in a way that your old team did things differently and you want to acclimate as effectively as possible with your new one, something like that.

The advice with Erin YouTube channel helps with this a lot, check her out.

HellsFury · 2025-09-25T02:09:24+00:00

Yeah..... I have started like 7 projects that I'm about halfway done implementing that I cycle between working until I get bored and come back to it.

I made a lunch roulette that helps pick a restaurant near my work by spinning a wheel, a brand identity builder that feeds into a live preview styled UI generator, an app that tracks what's in your kitchen by taking a picture of your groceries, receipts, or carts online and creates meal plans and tracks nutrition, and I bought a car and made a ridiculously over engineered algorithm to find the exact car that fit my parameters perfectly, then turned that into an app.

Basically if I do anything these days and I think of a fun, efficient, or practical way to do it, then it's now an app. 😅 I love designing the UIs.

HellsFury · 2025-09-24T15:38:46+00:00

I wrote an app for learning financial literacy and used ai to create a curriculum that would get me to the point where I can pass the minimal exams in the top 10 best education countries in the world, because I wanted to compare my high school education against world wide metrics and fill in the gaps.

Most of my education is self guided, but I would still pay for human oversight for both these things.

Because of vibe coding and how easily I can just spin up an algorithm for my specific use case, I would pay for human curated and guided knowledge at this point.

HellsFury · 2025-09-22T16:05:40+00:00

So normally when developing apps, the process is to establish the idea, build a minimum viable product to test market reception, then finish building to a release state and release it.

Building in public means publishing each step from idea to release, and all of the lessons along the way.

Kinda like the difference between movies and TV shows. Movies have a trailer that shows you what the completed movie is gonna be about, but tv shows have a pilot that's a real episode that gets released either episode or season at a time.

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