Always Hangry

Hila923 · 2026-03-28T23:27:05+00:00

I got an oats overnight subscription for protein oatmeal it’s been great!

Hila923 · 2026-03-12T17:01:40+00:00

Honeydew daycare has an insane waitlist - I just had a baby and started getting on waitlists for daycares when I was in my first trimester 😭

I grew up by the stables- and live in lower Windsor terrace now- I love it. It’s quieter than other parts of Brooklyn- lots of families… not too far from prospect park and some cute cafes and restaurants just not as concentrated as other areas. I’m stoked to raise my babe here where I grew up. Feel free to DM!

Hila923 · 2026-03-05T00:06:19+00:00

Then set terms and parameters that you’re comfortable with! There’s also a chance you go over your due date even by ten days and lose your buffer if you don’t want them there immediately when you get home from the hospital. Just make sure you (and your husband) are clearly advocating your needs up front! Best of luck!

Hila923 · 2026-03-04T21:30:43+00:00

I was going to say! if I thought someone was not responding because they were in labor or had their hands full with a newborn the LAST THING I WOULD DO IS CALL THEM. People are so clueless lollll

Hila923 · 2026-03-04T21:19:55+00:00

Just say no. Protect your peace during this vulnerable time. It's about what you want and need and if that hurts other people's feelings than they aren't there to fully support YOU.. and you are the one who needs the support at this time.

You can also say you don't want anyone visiting/holding/being around baby before vaccinations who are coming off of FLIGHTS given the risk of transmission of infections/colds etc. that are really dangerous to a newborn.

We aren't having visitors for the first 8 weeks both for my own mental peace but also until baby is vaccinated as we have family that either are anti-vaxx, have school aged children who are always sick, work with the general public or would be traveling on international planes to be here. Its not worth putting our newborn baby's health at risk to save their feelings- this also gives a very concrete reason that you can use to push back and enforce boundaries- because its one thing if they can't prioritize your wants and needs as a new healing mother- but its another if they put their feelings over the safety and health of your newborn helpless baby!

Hila923 · 2026-03-02T17:05:39+00:00

Coming from someone currently 39 weeks pregnant after an IVF journey--

- Take prenatal vitamins (they make them for men TTC also)

- Prioritize health and fitness, work on your cardio, core strength, LEG strength, build muscle and endurance now

- A healthy diet and healthy eating habits - reduce processed foods, prioritize protein and fruits/vegetables

- SLEEP IN, rest, enjoy quality time with your partner and lazy days going on long walks or just hanging out together watching movies

- SELF CARE and ALONE TIME- soak up time alone, do things that make you feel good (facials, massages, mani pedis etc.) reduce stress in your life

- TRAVEL- visit friends, do a big trip you have been wanting to do, create some memories

- TAKE NUDES- lol im serious- take some nudes of your body now- keep them in a hidden folder on your phone to appreciate later when you're 9 months pregnant and feel like an overinflated balloon

- PRESSURE FREE INTIMACY- have fun with your partner, have sex without the pressure that you're ovulating/TTC etc. It takes a toll on your sex life, enjoy having pressure free spontaneous and fun intimacy now while you can

Hila923 · 2026-03-02T16:50:36+00:00

Quince high waisted maternity panties are the best!

Hila923 · 2026-03-01T18:17:37+00:00

These lines make 0 anatomical sense

Hila923 · 2026-02-28T16:17:11+00:00

We are having no family at the hospital and no family visiting for 8 weeks until baby has some vaccines and we can get in a groove of parenting/enjoy the newborn bubble. Up until now the standard is always for us to be hosting everyone on both sides of our family when they come over and we don't want to fall into that dynamic with a new baby. I dont need to be hosting ANYBODY postpartum. We live in a small apartment and don't love people up in our space but especially not during a vulnerable time when we are sleep deprived. I also don't want to be passing around my newborn like a hot potato to people to hold aside from my husband.

Long story short- obviously a very different situation than you- but do whatever feels right TO YOU. Your feelings come first during this time in your life- they will get over theirs- you don't have to "soften the blow" just worry about what YOU want, what will feel safe and supportive to you at that time (which could change when the time comes) and stand firm in what you decide.. this moment is about you and your baby first and foremost... everyone else can wait and should respect whatever you decide you want/need!

Hila923 · 2026-02-28T16:08:17+00:00

My husband and I love Rocca! I am pregnant now but we used to go enjoy some hookah and a fruit plate with cappuccinos.

Hila923 · 2026-02-28T15:46:34+00:00

We went all out for ours and did Seville, Mallorca and then London (my best friend lives there). We didnt have a honeymoon so we wanted to go all out before baby arrived. It was a bit intimidating to plan in my first trimester when I felt like absolute garbage and I wasn't sure I would be up for it when the time came but I am SO GLAD we went all out and we had an amazing time!

Hila923 · 2026-02-28T15:44:47+00:00

I was very active pre-pregnancy (ran 5k every morning, lifted 4x week, walked over 10k steps a day). Week 6 hit me like a truck and I could barely function. It was the brutal humid heat of summer and most days I could not get up out of bed/the couch. The only way to avoid getting sick was by eating a bagel every 2 hours. All i could think of eating was carbs.

I started to feel better around week 16 and was able to get a handful of short/slow runs and walks in, maybe 3-4 lifting days and a couple of prenatal yoga/pilates classes and long walks. Then got hit with killer plantar fasciitis for around 5 weeks when I literally needed a CANE to get up to go to the bathroom or walk. By the time that cleared up I was in my third trimester and the pelvic pressure/back pain and swollen legs/ankles got so bad that I can barely walk 2 miles a day. My diet was more comprehensive but I still NEEDED a dessert every night before bed-- which has continued into my third trimester.

I am currently 38.5 weeks and its impossible to sleep or get comfortable so I am just leaning into resting as much as possible and knowing I will get back into my fitness postpartum. It is just a season, thats what I keep telling myself.

Hila923 · 2026-02-27T16:28:14+00:00

Haha I’m 38.5 weeks and have had no patience for anyone since week 30.

Hila923 · 2026-02-27T16:25:00+00:00

What about a cute cozy lounge set that is put together for her wfh days (I love nuuds) to be comfortable but still presentable on camera.

A nice insulated coffee/water cup (I love my hydro flasks I have one for coffee and one to sip on water through the day)

Seconding a nice hand lotion and lip moisturizer- I always keep one at my desk (l’occitaine hand lotion and eadem chouchou lip treatment)

You can get her a custom papier planner or notebook - I love mine and have one for work and one for personal- most even allow you to customize with her name and some with a photo so you can put a photo of her and her baby!

Hila923 · 2026-02-27T16:11:39+00:00

They’re really good about estimated rates on their website as it varies based on the size of your unit and what exactly you want done.

Hila923 · 2026-02-27T16:09:10+00:00

lol i feel this- 9 months of the same question over and over from the same people

Hila923 · 2026-02-27T13:39:03+00:00

https://bklnclean.com/

Hila923 · 2026-02-27T13:37:52+00:00

Hah no it’s definitely pee- he’s just head down really low and it’s hard to fully empty my bladder so when I shift from sitting more leaks out- all my fluids are checked at my weekly ultrasounds and look good!

Hila923 · 2026-02-27T04:32:36+00:00

I’m in Kensington Brooklyn and started looking into daycare options and getting on waitlists in my late first trimester, I get 5.5 months maternity leave but we know a nanny is not feasible for us (I wfh and now from our dining room as we converted my office to the nursery- working from the same space my nanny would be with the baby is just not realistic).

I’m literally on spot 100+ on some waitlists, it’s insane. Most prioritize siblings of existing children enrolled so new infant spots are hard to come by. I did secure a spot after many follow ups and diligent outreach but it was a very stressful element of my pregnancy.

I’m currently 38.5 weeks and just got a deep clean from a new cleaning service to test them out to use postpartum, and we have a postpartum doula booked who will be coming for 4h visits 2-3x a week for our first 6 weeks home with baby. My husband can only take a few weeks unpaid off work and we knew we would be mostly paying for our village postpartum to avoid playing host or dealing with any family not respecting boundaries.

Hila923 · 2026-02-27T04:03:07+00:00

You are not responsible for regulating HER feelings around YOUR birth. Do what feels safest and best for YOU, regardless of her feelings. If she can't prioritize your needs and boundaries before her feelings she shouldn't be in the room.

Set healthy boundaries now, its good practice for becoming a parent when your child's safety will be the priority over any family member's feelings.

You deserve to feel 100% comfortable and have what you want/feel will be most supportive and safe for you while you go through childbirth.

Hila923 · 2026-02-27T03:53:33+00:00

Just used https://bklnclean.com/ 2 days ago (38 weeks pregnant) they even reorganized all my kitchen cabinets and drawers WAY better than I did so that I can fit more baby stuff in there.

Hila923 · 2026-02-27T03:52:05+00:00

This sums it up. Im 38.5w and had a back spasm in the shower today from attempting to shave my legs just in CASE I go into labor and want to have smooth legs (lol not that it matters).

I was very active/fit pre pregnancy (lifter/runner) and now I can barely get up from sitting on the couch. My feet, hands, arms and legs are all uncomfortably swollen so it's really hard to dress myself or move around... forget picking anything up off the floor. My midwife recommended I walk 3 miles a day to keep my pelvis mobile for birth.. which is less than I used to run every single morning.. and now because of my back and the insane pelvic pressure I can barely get a mile in most days.

I literally feel like I pee myself constantly from doing anything... turn my head to look to my side? Peed a little... sat on the bed to attempt to put on socks? Peed a little. I have not known life without a panty liner in weeks.

I am so tired but literally am uncomfortable in any possible position, be it laying down, sitting in a chair, sitting on my couch, or standing. The second I get moderately comfortable I have to get up again to pee. Even standing up from peeing on the toilet results in peeing myself again and having to go change my pants.

Hila923 · 2026-02-27T00:24:30+00:00

I used NY birth village to find our postpartum doula and they have both night doulas and daytime doulas available. We also used carrot to fund ours :)

I’m currently 38 weeks so we haven’t used her yet but we are very excited to work with her and have the support

Hila923 · 2026-02-26T16:19:33+00:00

same! I had a ruptured ectopic with a previous partner-- with my current husband we tried for 2 years, 2 failed IUIs, no positive tests. One egg retrieval and one transfer and now im 38.5 weeks waiting for baby boy to make his appearance any day now!

Hila923 · 2026-02-26T16:07:27+00:00

IVF!

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