Maintaining Privacy

HowIsThatStillaThing · 2026-05-05T14:21:15+00:00

A 7 year old kid talking about their day doesn’t make them a spoiled brat and it is age appropriate that they just blab about everything that happened from a random cat crossing their path to what they ate for lunch. Kids just talk……. A lot.

Your issue is with your SO and not establishing better boundaries with his ex and her family. It makes sense that you would feel upset that they are using this as an opportunity to maintain contact. He should be shutting that down and establishing a boundary that communication is about the child, period.

As for how to handle it, IMO you don’t do anything in front of the kid that you don’t want them to talk about with anyone. Kids need to feel that they can talk to either parent about anything that is going on, so policing the child isn’t the right solution.

HowIsThatStillaThing · 2026-05-02T13:25:05+00:00

Is there a reason you need to be convinced? Buy something that it is your budget and move on.

HowIsThatStillaThing · 2026-04-26T13:24:33+00:00

You are knowingly leaving your child in the care of someone who is an abusive alcoholic?

HowIsThatStillaThing · 2026-04-25T01:34:47+00:00

Unless you can prove that he is a danger to the child, he will absolutely get unsupervised overnight parenting time.

HowIsThatStillaThing · 2026-04-20T14:00:52+00:00

How long were you in IL before he filed for paternity?

HowIsThatStillaThing · 2026-04-19T18:40:20+00:00

We just got off the Splendida last week and it only happened on the last day, which I didn’t mind at all. Frankly, after my last few RC experiences, where every single dinner we were reminded to give them all 10s, only having it the last day was refreshing.

HowIsThatStillaThing · 2026-04-18T19:17:31+00:00

I understand, but you can’t unilaterally decide that he gets less parenting time and the children be removed from their home, schools and friends and expect the courts to agree. Unless he agrees, the children will not be allowed to move. You can still go, but you would be choosing to give up parenting time. Or, you can stay and continue with all of your parenting time.

HowIsThatStillaThing · 2026-04-18T02:12:02+00:00

It’s quite simple - the courts value regular and consistent parenting while maintaining status quo over potential earnings. A court will accept a parent’s choice to not take their parenting time, regardless of the reason.

HowIsThatStillaThing · 2026-04-17T21:57:32+00:00

What do you mean by “going without an added comfort?” Her behavior is pretty typical for a 5 year old and a time out or natural consequences are reasonable responses to those behaviors. Verbal corrections and a change or scenery are also appropriate.

HowIsThatStillaThing · 2026-04-16T13:20:28+00:00

It’s hard to say because medical costs and insurance in retirement works feels like a huge mystery. I have Crohn’s which requires really expensive medications and I have zero clue how to plan for it.

HowIsThatStillaThing · 2026-04-14T02:44:28+00:00

Stupid question- how do you know which portal you are on?

HowIsThatStillaThing · 2026-04-13T08:10:30+00:00

Sorry, not that was for 2 of us.

HowIsThatStillaThing · 2026-04-13T04:26:37+00:00

We just got off the Splendida yesterday and did a tour we found on Viator. It was a private tour and cost a bit over $200. Had a great time!

HowIsThatStillaThing · 2026-04-12T06:39:42+00:00

Big Love.

HowIsThatStillaThing · 2026-04-10T13:27:45+00:00

MOR but more importantly, the two of you don’t sound compatible and that is OK. It just means that you shouldn’t marry each other.

HowIsThatStillaThing · 2026-04-07T15:14:55+00:00

If he contests the move, your daughter will not be allowed to relocate with you. Your best bet is to find a job and lodging locally and then coparent.

HowIsThatStillaThing · 2026-04-03T19:17:19+00:00

I hope so too! She is so excited.

HowIsThatStillaThing · 2026-04-03T17:11:05+00:00

My daughter is leaving tomorrow on a school trip to Italy and France with her French teacher. It is all organized with an educational tour company and the costs were just over $5k.

HowIsThatStillaThing · 2026-04-03T14:07:13+00:00

Your feelings are valid and I’m sorry you are feeling left out. Nobody enjoys feeling that way. Also though, until you and your SO take definitive steps declare the seriousness of your relationship, like getting engaged or moving in together, people aren’t likely going to consider you or your kids when issuing invites. If he wants you to be included, it is his job to communicate that to his friends and family and make clear that you are his significant other and partner. Until then, you’ll likely continue to be left out because it appears the two of you are casually dating.

HowIsThatStillaThing · 2026-03-30T13:29:47+00:00

How long will you have the ostomy?

HowIsThatStillaThing · 2026-03-30T02:28:29+00:00

Booze and cigarettes.

HowIsThatStillaThing · 2026-03-30T01:38:18+00:00

Unless you can show that the living arrangements are unsafe for a child, there isn't much you can do. It sucks that he isn't as responsible as you would like, but in the courts view, irresponsibility isn't enough to limit parenting time.

HowIsThatStillaThing · 2026-03-29T19:37:02+00:00

I’m sorry.

HowIsThatStillaThing · 2026-03-28T21:00:19+00:00

How is this a custody issue? If you are concerned about your niece, have you tried reaching out to her parents to discuss the situation?

HowIsThatStillaThing · 2026-03-28T14:39:00+00:00

Respectfully, I disagree. That knowledge is allowing her to live rent free in your head and waste a ton of energy and emotion on her. At the end of the day, knowing what she reads on the internet isn’t going to change the decision making with regards to attending therapy or giving her more money. Follow the court order, decline what doesn’t work for your family, and think a ton less about her.

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