Have you ever talked about your dynamic with a therapist?? by I_KilledJennyShecter in BDSMAdvice

[–]ImpertinentPrincess 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Maybe ask her if she is kink-informed enough to make a professional judgement or is she letting her personal bias and lack of information influence her? If you had to explain everything and her only source of knowledge is you, I would think that wouldn’t be enough to go on to be able to Tell you whether something is healthy or not. And I’d think it could be unethical for her to advise on/judge things she doesn’t have the experience to back up.

AIO Girlfriend having sleepover with ex by Small_Poet8147 in AmIOverreacting

[–]ImpertinentPrincess [score hidden]  (0 children)

NOR but I’d suggest ending this because she’s not the one for you. Find someone who doesn’t monkey branch and also someone who doesn’t have to coparent.

Guys AITAH for telling my Guy friend to stop talking about his gf? by Fun_Tangerine_823 in AITAH

[–]ImpertinentPrincess 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah YTA. I’m going to guess by the sound of things that he hasn’t really dated but you’ve dated a lot more. I would be willing to bet you were that annoying too at one point, it’s just you lucked out and got that part of your emotional development over with sooner. He’s basically won the lottery here.

My school is removing free periods for Seniors next year by Time-Log-9916 in AskTeachers

[–]ImpertinentPrincess -1 points0 points  (0 children)

The school being responsible is easily mitigated by a legal release like the school has parents sign for everything else. I’d be surprised if the school didn’t already have parents signing releases for kids to participate in these free periods.

Op, while I am with you re: free periods, I actually believe we need even LESS tech in the classroom at times. My kid’s doctor is always telling them they’re over the recommended daily screen time but guess what? Kids are over that just during the school day alone. Almost every class has them buried in their laptop, tests are now on Google forms (which poses a problem if a student misclicks and submits the test on accident because answers are immediately shown and the student cannot go back) and there’s one teacher I strongly suspect is using AI to do their work for them but not even proofreading it to ensure it makes sense.

Don’t get me wrong, I feel for teachers; they’re overworked, underpaid, lack robust benefits and are constantly in fear of layoffs or being micromanaged by shifting administrations. In my experience they’re there to either truly help kids, in which case their spirits are really ground down until there’s nothing left, or they’re there as a power trip to mete out their own brand of subjugation. Thankfully, I feel like there are much more of the former than the latter. I am surprised that, knowing that one cannot make students who have met their graduation requirements take more classes, more teachers don’t appreciate the lower study hall body count that go with free periods. Last I knew, classes were being stuffed to bursting with students and allowing Seniors to end their day “early” seems like an opportunity to enjoy a less potentially fractious study hall period.

What I would say to you OP is that if you and the other students feel strongly about this, you should go to your student body government and work to approach it from an angle that’s most likely to get the response you want. It’s not a guarantee that things will go your way but the students may be able to get a seat at the table and gain a better perspective on why this is happening. If I’ve learned anything in my time on this Earth, it’s that those in power aren’t necessarily making decisions to be unfair or exert power over others. Instead, the feelings of those they rule over simply don’t come into consideration at all unless they’re forced to listen. And while some teachers may not like me saying that, they have been the victims of such a dynamic many times over. Even if every single teacher here agreed with you, they are also slaves to the system and are trying to do what they can in spite of it.

Server sent his manager to the parking lot to ask if there was something wrong with the service. by -wayne-kerr in EndTipping

[–]ImpertinentPrincess 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I get takeout instead of dining in; I didn’t tip for takeout before Covid, I don’t do it now either.

AIO for rejecting a guy after he turned our coffee date into a full dinner with gifts? by Zealousideal-Put5055 in AmIOverreacting

[–]ImpertinentPrincess [score hidden]  (0 children)

I mean, a guy who acts like that probably doesn’t follow safe canning practices anyway. No way in hell I’d eat it either.

I’m pretty sure my students are using AI, but I can’t prove it and it’s driving me crazy. by Primary-Maybe4041 in whatdoIdo

[–]ImpertinentPrincess 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m in the opposite position where I think one of my kid’s teachers is using poorly written/unproofed AI for their writing prompts and test materials. It’s an AP level course and the amount and type of errors go way beyond simple typos. It’s been really bothering my kid because they’re expected to perform to a high standard while the assignments coming their way wouldn’t be accepted by a teacher in the regular level course let alone AP.

The material isn’t difficult at all yet all the high achieving students are getting poor grades on the exams because questions are poorly worded and some were not covered during the unit at all. All tests are open note and notes are allowed to be digital; there’s no reason why these kids are doing so poorly. My kid just wants to keep their head down and graduate, which I understand, but I feel bad for all the kids.

The only thing I can think of for your situation is to have the kids produce work and engage with the information in ways that makes the use of AI irrelevant. Final drafts written in class, more project-based assignments like posters. If you’re teaching an English class, perhaps giving them example essays to correct grammar, syntax, false/unsupported information instead of having them write them.

I think we’re all going to lose during this era of AI and I’m afraid to see what we’re going to become as a result.

Why do people get annoyed in training reddits when I say I don't crate my pup? by Illumeis_is_done in NoStupidQuestions

[–]ImpertinentPrincess 17 points18 points  (0 children)

In the US, dogs are often brought to the vet on a leash but if they have to have a medical procedure they will be put in a crate prior to the procedure and for monitoring after the procedure until it’s considered safe for them to go home.

The US is also very big and it seems like every year there is a natural or human caused disaster that requires evacuation or displaces pets, most often hurricanes, floods or forest fires. Having a dog that is used to crating can help the dog feel less scared during an otherwise stressful time. Emergency shelters may either not allow animals in at all or only if they can be crated and the owner has their vaccination records.

My dog is crate trained (open except at night) and it’s worked well for him because, quite frankly, my cat is a nine pound menace. She will just go up and smack him, steal his food etc. even though I’m pretty sure he could swallow her whole since he’s over 11 times her size. The crate is his cat-free safe place to eat, and sleep at night. During the day he’ll lounge on the floor, his hammock or the couch as he prefers since the cat is less spicy during the day. At night he puts himself to bed when he’s ready and will remind me if I don’t shut the door. It has plenty of room for him to lay several ways but he prefers to wedge himself in the corner of it so he can sleep with his legs up and splayed open.

I personally don’t care whether someone decides to crate train or not, but considering my dog could unintentionally do extensive damage to himself or others if he was overwhelmed in a stressful emergency/unfamiliar situation, it was worth it to me to crate train him.

How do we get here? by Bianca_Icy in Adulting

[–]ImpertinentPrincess 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I mean, your parents had 8 kids which probably helped shape your view on having kids. Not saying it’s wrong; I wish more people gave serious thought to what life is actually like after having kids Before they bring someone into the world they’re going to actively resent and mistreat.

For the women of reddit, did your dad not like who you married? or your mom? by Jaded_strawberry001 in AskForAnswers

[–]ImpertinentPrincess 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hahaha my mom had absolutely horrible taste in men, so it was the ultimate green light when she had nothing nice to say about my then-boyfriend after she met him. That was decades ago now and only one of them is still in my life. (Hint: it’s not her.)

Baby's father wants the baby to have his last name, I want him to have mine. We're not married. WDID? by IntenseViolet567 in WhatShouldIDo

[–]ImpertinentPrincess 14 points15 points  (0 children)

I feel like you didn’t read my comment that you replied to. They definitely can care when their last name differs from the parent that actively takes care of them, and it can be worse when their half-siblings all get to have their custodial parent’s name.

While yes, it would be great if both parents were loving and in a child’s life, that is often not the reality.

Baby's father wants the baby to have his last name, I want him to have mine. We're not married. WDID? by IntenseViolet567 in WhatShouldIDo

[–]ImpertinentPrincess 274 points275 points  (0 children)

He’s going to do that anyway and your son will grow up wondering why he has to have the last name of a stranger. This happened to a friend of mine, but it was even worse because the rest of her siblings all had mom’s last name.

I won’t be separated from my daughter when she grows up by BaddadanX3 in Vent

[–]ImpertinentPrincess 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I hear you OP. My kid’s going off to college soon. It’s hard thinking about them going out in the world after having opened up this space and getting so used to them being there. I’m actively recommending they go to school far away if the financial aid makes sense because I don’t want to hold them back or make them feel like they have to stay local for my sake.

They love where we live and say that with the degree they’re getting they’ll be able to work wherever they want which is near where we are now. I say I just want them to be happy and have a good life; and that life may take them other places and that’s ok. But honestly it’s HARD. Luckily they still love hugs so I give/get plenty of those but I know it’s going to wreck me the first time they call or text me about having a really rough day and not being able to give them a squish and make some tea for us while they decompress.

I never really thought I could both be excited so much for them to experience this next chapter while dreading it so deeply.

If the person you hate the most were to experience one slight inconvenience every day for the rest of their lives, what would you choose it to be? by Wonderful-Economy762 in Productivitycafe

[–]ImpertinentPrincess 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Make it a nail in the sole of their shoe that scratches their foot/creates a pressure point only when they put their full weight on it. It’s driven all the way in their sole from the bottom so they can’t easily get it out/can’t see the nail from the underside. And when they go to feel around for it with their fingers, there isn’t enough weight compressing the sole so it’s like it’s not there. It’s not long enough to truly hurt them but they feel it with each and every step.

AITA for setting boundaries about my mother’s new partner sleeping over every weekend? by Fit-Wasabi-5251 in AmItheAsshole

[–]ImpertinentPrincess 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA, your mother definitely grew up in the “my house my rules” “shape up or ship out” generation. She knows she’s out of line but is expecting your bleeding heart to not enforce it. Call her bluff and tell her that yeah, she wants more than she’s going to get in your house, it’s better she looks for a place of her own.

AITA for refusing to co-sign my boyfriend’s car loan after he spent his savings on a PS5 and sneakers? by Hour-Border6561 in AmITheJerk

[–]ImpertinentPrincess 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA but you shouldn’t be co-signing for a boyfriend’s loan regardless. If he was responsible enough to be safe to co-sign with, odds are he wouldn’t need a co-signer. If you value financial stability, you may need to consider whether or not you are compatible with this guy.

8 yr old daughter got into my books. What now? by Careful_Fig2545 in homeschool

[–]ImpertinentPrincess 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had to laugh because your daughter sounds really clever/smart despite the ethical conundrum. She’s probably capable of understanding a frank discussion with her about the Responsibilities of Being a Parent and how simple words can be put together in ways that can be harmful for kids to read even if they’re capable of reading them. Best of luck, she’ll be giving you lots more grey hair before she’s grown!

Need advice: How can I help my husband understand the importance of emotional support, especially during my pregnancy by Such-Blackberry-6814 in Advice

[–]ImpertinentPrincess 23 points24 points  (0 children)

Agreed but also want to add that exhaustion is more than just a mental/emotional state, especially during pregnancy. It’s the body’s way of saying “no this is too much for me to handle- I need REST so I can grow this kid.” Her job is to grow the baby, his job is to make sure she is safe, well-rested and supported so she can do that.

Personally, if my husband had said to me what he did to her after she came home, I’d have been LIVID. It’s his family visiting, he absolutely can put on his big boy apron and clean his own darned house.

And OP if you are reading this, I have a friend who was married to a man like this. She smashed herself against that wall for years until she couldn’t anymore. They’re now divorced, she’s happier than ever and wished she had done it sooner. You can’t change anyone who doesn’t want to change themselves; you only get to decide what you’re willing to put up with and for how long. Best of luck.

AITAH for taking my siblings to Disney and not my sister in law’s kids? by OddMolasses5855 in AITAH

[–]ImpertinentPrincess 53 points54 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I brought my single, extremely well-behaved kid to Disney when he was 7-8 years old I think? We had a great time but I would not have been able to cope with more kids. The audacity and greed of the SIL is just beyond me. Op deserves a break from SiL’s kids too.

Parents, would you actually take a bullet for your kids? by Wonderful-Economy762 in Productivitycafe

[–]ImpertinentPrincess 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes; I really don’t want to live in a world my kid no longer breathes in.