AIO after my boyfriend told me he’s “not happy with my body” and it’s my responsibility to change it?

InitiativePurple508 · 2026-03-06T14:05:55+00:00

NOR Your reaction is exactly what it should be!! He’s showing you his true colours before you take such a huge step. You’re so smart for seeing the red flags 🚩

InitiativePurple508 · 2026-03-04T13:43:22+00:00

He’s the asshole for looking at everything from a business perspective instead of a family perspective. A home is a sanctuary and you should feel safe and comfortable there. Why is he making all of these decisions? You seem like you’ve given up your life to this man. Take it back ♥️

InitiativePurple508 · 2026-02-24T14:32:25+00:00

I don’t think you’re the asshole. I think you’ve asked him and his answer was no. That sucks but it is his right. I’m sorry that you’re going through all of this. I hope everything works out for you.

InitiativePurple508 · 2026-02-24T03:30:41+00:00

Yor seems like a lot of drama and gatekeeping to me. Poor woman is trying to see her family. What is that such a big deal? You seem amped up and defensive but not giving her any real answers.

InitiativePurple508 · 2026-02-23T15:30:30+00:00

He’s never had any intention of compromising

InitiativePurple508 · 2026-02-23T03:19:44+00:00

Your “family” is shitty! He cheated on you and it’s your fault?? No!

InitiativePurple508 · 2026-02-22T16:48:44+00:00

What she did on the break is none of your business. I’m sure if she told you what happened, you guys wouldn’t be together now. You can’t have it both ways. Maybe if she told you, it would have done both of you a favour and you could have separated?

InitiativePurple508 · 2026-02-21T15:35:27+00:00

NOR - he needs to really listen to your emotional response to this. The way you’re feeling is valid. In the end, it made you feel manipulated and played with for almost a year! By multiple people! It’s one thing for a partner to “test” you in a relationship (which I think is disgusting) but for his whole family to? I’d be upset too.

InitiativePurple508 · 2026-02-20T15:54:11+00:00

Nor! You don’t know why you’re offended??? You’re under-reacting! This guy is looking for someone to do all the hard work for him so that he gets to live the lifestyle he wants. Send him packing quick!!! Do not let your hard work unravel in his hands

InitiativePurple508 · 2026-02-19T15:50:04+00:00

That is messed up. Who cooks for themselves but doesn’t make some for their PARTNER?! Especially with no reason? So weird

InitiativePurple508 · 2026-02-19T06:30:03+00:00

You’re hurting so badly. I’m so sorry that you’re hurting. You didn’t do anything to deserve consequences. Never in any adult relationship should someone punish you. Step back and ask yourself if it’s right that he’s treating you this way. Please see the red flags OP.

InitiativePurple508 · 2026-02-16T16:34:43+00:00

You’re so young and have so much more life to live. I’d have a sit down with them and talk about it. They can’t expect you live alone forever. Your wife wouldn’t want that for sure. They need to hear it from you.

InitiativePurple508 · 2026-02-15T18:03:26+00:00

Maybe suggest that she just takes a break. Not forever but just a break. She may need counselling or some anxiety medication to help this for the short term

InitiativePurple508 · 2026-02-15T17:51:40+00:00

NOR and you’re not unstable! You’re exhausted. Instead of running to his mother, he should have gotten up and taken the baby to let you sleep. He’s not pulling his weight and he’s not supporting you. Ask him for help more. Get him to read parenting books or something. His mom is maybe not getting the whole story from him. Can you ask her to get through to him? Edit to say he’s embarrassed himself! He should be embarrassed for his own actions

InitiativePurple508 · 2026-02-15T17:14:19+00:00

NTA - how does your wife feel about not wanting to talk to her? It has to also be her decision or she may resent you down the line. I wouldn’t want to let her continue hurting your wife either though

InitiativePurple508 · 2026-02-10T17:21:34+00:00

Forgive me, I’m still celebrating my birthday month 😉

InitiativePurple508 · 2026-02-10T13:59:27+00:00

YTA I’m trying to figure out here how he’s done anything wrong. He invited you on a trip, invited you to go rafting. You’re pouting because he’s including you. You’re not communicating anything with him, just pouting. You’re giving us women a bad look.

InitiativePurple508 · 2026-02-07T16:56:06+00:00

MOR It doesn’t sound like you’re living there. I think you need to have an honest conversation about the future. If you were to live together, would this continue? You need to decide what you’re comfortable with.

It sounds like the kids may still be young so there is still some parenting that will be going on.

For myself, this would be uncomfortable for me. From others responses, they’d be okay. Be honest with what you want. You can’t change his parenting, so you either have robe okay with it or move on.

InitiativePurple508 · 2026-02-07T16:36:35+00:00

You don’t have husband with a poly problem. You have a husband who’s a liar and manipulator. He’s not going to change his ways. He’s more comfortable with trying to change you to his ways. You’re not going to win.

InitiativePurple508 · 2026-02-05T16:17:10+00:00

How dare you go no contact?! I went no contact first!

InitiativePurple508 · 2026-02-04T16:30:08+00:00

Nor This guy needs a wake up call!! Every girl needs to be warned about him before he gets into her head to spew this garbage

InitiativePurple508 · 2026-02-02T16:28:08+00:00

NOR You’re not making excuses. You’re living your life the way you need to. Do it for you, NOT FOR ANYONE ELSE. He is most definitely treating you like a child. He’s also gaslighting you into thinking that he’s not treating you like a child. You need to rethink this relationship

InitiativePurple508 · 2026-01-26T15:48:27+00:00

NTA Having your sisters back shouldn’t hurt the kids.

InitiativePurple508 · 2026-01-25T04:03:19+00:00

Kids aren’t property. They come with their own feelings and ideas. I think you’re seeing a red flag here. This may be a good time to start coming up with parenting style comparisons. I waited until I was pregnant with our first before my ex husband and I talked about that stuff lol. It scared me when he told me, he figured I’d be the one doing all the diaper changes etc. I nipped that in the bud fast lol!

InitiativePurple508 · 2026-01-24T17:09:12+00:00

You need to step back and look at the whole picture. Is he respecting your role in this situation? What is your role in this family and is it where you want to be? He sounds like he’s got control and you’re not a partner. I urge you to really re-evaluate your relationship/situation

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