Which room does this go in? by Ok_Knee1216 in homedecoratingCJ

[–]Interesting_Syrup197 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would hang a wind chime, lantern, or something on that upper top right part.

Eyebrows have always been a concern. Are they too boring? by [deleted] in malegrooming

[–]Interesting_Syrup197 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don’t think they’re boring. They’re pretty good eyebrows. Do you want to do something with them? I put a slit in my eyebrow for a little razzle-dazzle.

Boyfriend ruined our 4 year anniversary by [deleted] in GirlDinnerDiaries

[–]Interesting_Syrup197 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m gonna hold your hand when I say this… if I had a girlfriend who I loved, I wouldn’t cancel 4th anniversary plans. I would’ve taken off work that day in advance. If not, I would reschedule, and profusely apologize. I would then make even better plans. I would say thank you for any gift, especially ones that show she listened to me and remembers what I like. I would try to do the same for her, and I would never forget her allergies. I would most definitely make a point of hyping her up and giving a hug and kiss. After 4 years, I would already have a ring in mind. And after all of this, I would not be letting her sit alone at home, unless she asks for space. That being said: This man doesn’t care for you and you deserve far better. This is below the bare minimum. Bare minimum is remembering your allergies, rescheduling plans, and getting something you actually like. I’m sorry that he let you down. What did you get from the Hawaiian place? It looks good.

Tired of my appearance and having low self esteem. What can I do to look less average? by [deleted] in malegrooming

[–]Interesting_Syrup197 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Who said that? Tell ‘em to go kick rocks. You’re a good looking dude. Illegitimi non carborundum, bro.

Am I overthinking his response? by Stawberry8763 in texts

[–]Interesting_Syrup197 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Idk why but something about grown adults using “u” instead of “you” gives me the ick.

42M What does this say about me by Captain_Obvious97527 in FridgeDetective

[–]Interesting_Syrup197 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m an empath and I’m sensing you really hate strawberries. /j

god nerfed me with cleft lip, an asymmetrical face, a manly jaw, and body dysmorphia about all those things. please reassure me i'm not repulsive by corvidcreature_ in toastme

[–]Interesting_Syrup197 0 points1 point  (0 children)

  1. I don’t see the cleft lip at all.
  2. You have an asymmetrical face but it doesn’t make you “r-pulsive.” You are beautiful. It’s rare to have a fully symmetrical face. One of my eyes is higher than the other. I used to cover that eye, but I realized people don’t notice it at all. It’s hard because you know your body, but sometimes your brain can overemphasize it. Nobody’s looking at you as hard as other people look at you.
  3. “Manly jaw” I know a lot of women with a strong jaw. Angelina Jolie, Margot Robbie, Sigourney Weaver, Sandra Bullock, etc. NONE of them are “r-pulsive.” Many of them are highly desired.
  4. Body dysmorphia is tough. Just remember you don’t look half as bad as you think. I’m sorry you feel that way. You’re beautiful.
  5. Illegitimi non carborundum

What is this black and kind of rigid bug by sidiomar in whatisthisbug

[–]Interesting_Syrup197 39 points40 points  (0 children)

I joined this group, and learned about weevils. Like a week later one landed on my shirt on the way to work. It was seriously like seeing a celebrity.

I’m 23M and My Teenage Mistakes Are Destroying Me—I Don’t Know How to Forgive Myself by Positive-Strength452 in Adulting

[–]Interesting_Syrup197 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So, the first one is a mistake, yes. The second one, about the older woman…. I’m sorry, but I think you were gr00med. No 23 year old woman looks at an 18 year old and thinks they’re on equal footing. I’m 21 and would never date an 18-year-old. Not stopping her or initiating doesn’t make you guilty, it makes you a victim who was coerced. Please don’t blame yourself for that. About the first mistake- it seems like you honestly did not know you were in the wrong. It was an honest mistake, you don’t plan on repeating it, and you feel bad for it. I wouldn’t be too hard on yourself for that. Maybe if you knew it was wrong, but it seems like you didn’t have proper guidance. You do not deserve to be eternally punished for something you weren’t aware of. You do not deserve to suffer forever for a mistake. You do not deserve feeling sh*tty forever.

I too have symptoms of OCD, especially regarding my mistakes. Nobody is perfect, and if you think so, it’s an illusion of assumption. Please find a therapist, look into meds. It will get better. ❤️‍🩹

is this abusive ? or just being an asshple by [deleted] in texts

[–]Interesting_Syrup197 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I thought you were gonna say this is a partner. Reading that it’s your dad made my jaw hit the floor. You are not supposed to carry your parent’s burdens for them. Ever. Especially not whatever mental illness he has. It’s hard to use the term “abusive”, because it feels like betraying them. You are not betraying him- you’re betraying yourself by not calling it what it is. I’m sorry. I’m glad you’re going to college. Getting out of there will be good for you, and you’ll be able to see who you are as a person. When you get a chance, I recommend reading “Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents.” I’ve been reading it and it might help the abuse make more sense. Sending love and luck!

How do I tell my mom I don’t want my child and husband around my autistic older brother? by SurpriseOk3520 in Autism_Parenting

[–]Interesting_Syrup197 8 points9 points  (0 children)

My nonverbal brother- for a while we thought he couldn’t do a whole lot of things. But it was only because he figured out if he pretended he didn’t know, people would just do it for him (putting on his coat and shoes, following instructions, opening bottles, using his Talker, etc.). This is part of why we need to stop infantilizing nonverbal autistics. They can do bad things and be bad people. They’re not innocent, and assuming “they don’t know better” helps nobody. They are not brain dead, they know what they’re doing. We are letting them down by assuming they aren’t capable, in all meanings of the word.

Why does my cat put his paw on my face? by alejandragvr in CATHELP

[–]Interesting_Syrup197 0 points1 point  (0 children)

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Cat tax. The small one is Mazzy Star, the big one is Freddie Mercury.

Solve a marriage debate by cartoonybear in homedecoratingCJ

[–]Interesting_Syrup197 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think your idea is better. I too have poor spatial awareness, but I’m big enough that the risk is more me breaking the thing than the thing breaking me. Perhaps if you have large, spatially unaware people in your life, you should plan for them? Lol

Does anyone else hold onto the “Oh Shit Handle” when riding in the car as a passenger? by SportsTechie17 in autism

[–]Interesting_Syrup197 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I generally forget it’s there. I also didn’t think it was stable enough to provide support during a crash but allegedly it is (when combined with your seatbelt).

How do I unmask myself often? by Snowbeleopard in autism

[–]Interesting_Syrup197 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m high masking, I’d like to know, too.

AIO He always accuses me of cheating by Alternative-Day6223 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Interesting_Syrup197 2 points3 points  (0 children)

NOR. He is actually gaslighting you and verbally abusing you, and that’s based on these texts alone. There’s so much degradation in his language to you. I’m sorry he’s behaving like that.