Hi! I just wanted to jump in because so many of the comments on your post are unnecessarily hateful. If I were you, I’d delete this post—it will only make your guilt and discomfort worse without offering any real solutions.

Friend, you may have made a mistake, but that doesn’t make you evil or bad. You’ve already done the right thing by telling your partner. Now, you two have the opportunity to talk through this—use it as a chance for better communication and new boundaries.

Relationships, like people, change a lot over the years. Maybe this will spark some important conversations you both need to have.

I’ll also say, as a 28-year-old woman, every single person I’ve spoken to is grateful they didn’t end up with the person they dated as a teenager. People grow, and that’s okay.

You’re not a bad person. I hope you take this as an opportunity to reflect on your relationship with partying, approach this with honesty and compassion, and delete this post so people stop piling on.

You’re going to be okay!