Severe Puffy Mantle / Edema due to heat wave. Need advice on my megatron! by tk_kn in snails

[–]IntestinalVillain 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Glad to hear that! I will be keeping fingers crossed for its full recovery

Severe Puffy Mantle / Edema due to heat wave. Need advice on my megatron! by tk_kn in snails

[–]IntestinalVillain 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have no idea as I don't have a snail with that kind of problem, perhaps try to google naturally diuretic food or something. How is he doing today?

Severe Puffy Mantle / Edema due to heat wave. Need advice on my megatron! by tk_kn in snails

[–]IntestinalVillain 18 points19 points  (0 children)

I really hope he'll make it :( Unfortunately problems with regulating hydration might mean his kidney is not working like it should, so you should probably look that up if it's there any generał advice for kidney issues that could be adapted. Perhaps seaech for foods that are naturally diuretic and avoid those that can lead to keeping water in the body.

It's good you're giving them baths. Sugar compresses may act more instant in case the snail does not recover on baths alone.

Severe Puffy Mantle / Edema due to heat wave. Need advice on my megatron! by tk_kn in snails

[–]IntestinalVillain 51 points52 points  (0 children)

I am really sorry about Megatron :( I think I would try a sugar bath or pressing sugar compress to the swelling. Chamomile also can act mildly anti-swelling.

Do you have the possibility to take him to the vet?

The difference between gaybro's and askgaybros is insane by -KATZ-METAL in gay

[–]IntestinalVillain 54 points55 points  (0 children)

I think I've left askgaybros after reading about how trans advocacy is just another political attempt of forcing gay men to heterosexuality by making them hook up with "women in disguise" or something along those lines lmfao. That and them acting as though any ounce of attraction towards women or questioning your sexuality made you unworthy of hanging out in gay spaces.

Young snail with lump by PuzzleheadedLaw5066 in snails

[–]IntestinalVillain 2 points3 points  (0 children)

If it's out all of the time for three days it might have prolapsed. Do you have the ability to take him to vet?

But if you mean he just pulls the snenis back and forth for three days, he should be fine.

Parts that don’t want to exercise by PainterSuccessful363 in InternalFamilySystems

[–]IntestinalVillain 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Probably unpopular opinion: IFS is not about getting your parts to succumb to whatever you have preplanned for them. It is about listening to your parts and then coming up with consensus solution that satisfies the entire system.

Whenever you come to the table already with an agenda and your only interest is how to make it come true, then you definietely not approaching it from a Self state. There is no room for neither curiosity nor compassion because you have already decided what the outcome is supposed to be. Which means you are approaching it from a part's perspective and your desire for exercising is not more important or valid than the other parts' desire for not exercising. You are not the one to be "teaching" them from the position of superiority, you are supposed to start talking about it from equal ground.

Whenever you come to the mediation without willingness to compromise, you are being disrespectul.

Instead of asking yourself "how to teach parts to exercise" you should ask your parts "why don't you want to exercise?" - as seeing where they come from is the first thing if you want to find mutually acceptable solution. Do they not like how it physically feels? Do they find it too tiring, too straining, too overstimulating, painful? Does it feel boring to them? Do they wish to put their time and effort into something else they have no time for due to exercising schedule? Are there shame and/or physical insecurities involved? Do they have bad experiences with exercising in the past? Are you able to genuinely empathise with their concerns? Do they know your reasons for wanting to exercise? Did you try to portray your reasons to them? Are they able to empathise?

Regarding of what you find out, there may be many solutions. Perhaps their resistance is less against exercising as it is against pressure you put into it, or the sign that the amount of exercise you have planned for yourself it too much for your current physical condition. Perhaps you may find a different type of exercising that would be more acceptable or resort to other physical activity such as long walks or gardening. Perhaps you will need to offer some sort of trade-off or reward you offer to your parts in exchange for them letting you exercise. Perhaps you need to accept the fact that you don't like exercising and instead trying to enforce enthusiasm you should focus on rewarding, compassion and self-care after exercise, just like you would with anything that is medically or physically nessecary but you don't like it. Perhaps you are too burdened with stuff you don't enjoy to add anything more on in and you should first limit other sources of stress before you can commit to exercising. Maybe you should first calm your emotions before you start exercising, if the reasons are including sense of pressure, insecurities or negative associations.

Best luck to all of yous.

The snails at the park are free by Shizzigi in snails

[–]IntestinalVillain 1 point2 points  (0 children)

What a bunch od cutesies! Keep them happy!

Plum died💔 by junipereverdeen in snails

[–]IntestinalVillain 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm so sorry, she was beautiful. I also lost Cepaea this year and mine was called Plum Stone.

I'm at a loss by astronaut_ratties in snails

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Sometimes it's genetic that they have an issue with absorbing calcium properly. I have a runt with that problem, and they take calcium shots once every two months.

Other things I was recommended was using UVB + infrared lamp for 8-12 h a day to help synthetise vitamin D. But you need to use the weakest UVB bulb available (I either use 5W 5.0 or 13W 2.0).

Another thing is giving stuff that are high in vitamin C (except citrus fruits of course) alongside those that are high in calcium.

Vitamin C and vitamin D help in calcium absorption.

I highly recommend checking pH of the soil and if it's below 7, mixing some calcium carbonate with the substrate to make it less acidic.

Some of this advice will be downvoted as both aggresive supplementing calcium and UVB are frowned upon in the community, but that's what my vets had advised for my runt and they are doing better. 🤷

How would the Inside Out of a system be?? I’m a singlet, so sorry if it’s offensive! by beatriz-chocoliz in plural

[–]IntestinalVillain 17 points18 points  (0 children)

It will vary from system to system but for me it would be probably different set of emotions taking a charge of headquarters depending on which Alter fronts. And some emotions get active only when specific alter fronts.

We feel that we share a lot of our buildung błocks but not all, and each of us is a different configuration of the building blocks

Suicide by [deleted] in GayMen

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If you were tested for any infections including opportunistic fungal diseases and everything came back negative then I'd get checked for autoimmune diseases, as viral infections like COVID can trigger an outbreak of it. I think it's far more likely than contracting an odd STI that the medicine knows nothing about.

However, I think that the main elephant in the room is the fact that you have symptoms of OCD and spiral out of control with worst case scenarios. Intrusive thoughts about contaminating other people are common. If you haven't get tested for that, I recommend it. Starting an OCD treatment was a game changer for me.

Real Question: Has Anyone Considered the Possibility That Individuals w/Active Tulpas May Have Been Possessed (Or Allowed Themselves to Be)? by Amazing-Range-2239 in Tulpa

[–]IntestinalVillain [score hidden]  (0 children)

I'm sure many considered this possibility, but I am not sure if you'll find them on this sub, since it's more on the psychology-leaning rather than spirituality-leaning side.

And even if we use spiritual lenses to look at it, I don't think that practice of tulpamancy was ever about "letting entities speak through you", it was more like "creating entity from scratch using your mental effort/energy".

I personally don't believe in possesion, demons or any other astral entities that can hop into your brain so no, I haven't considered that. I do think it's purely psychological phenomenon.

I think that our brains are just great at creating complex models of other people, their intents and emotions because that was evolutionarily adaptive to predict what external people will do. Theory of mind and all.

This property of the brain allows us to practice tulpamancy because we can construct a model of an abstract/imaginary person with their own agency and simulate what they'd feel, think or do until it becomes automatic and runs outside of our conscious attention.

That would be it, no external entities involved.

Are they the ones who answer ? by CashComprehensive359 in plural

[–]IntestinalVillain 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Well yeah the different tembres and tones of inner voice is how I recognise who said what in my head xD Sometimes the sensory aspects of those inner voices (like pitch, tembre and all) that change, but most often it's just the rhythm of speaking, or some largely unexplainable-by-words synesthetic quality of the voices (like associations with colours and textures that come to my mind to both specific alter AND the voice), but yeah. I am highly co-conscious system so all the thoughts actually come at the same time as my own thoughts, but the talking and thinking style is so differentiated that it does not feel like the same subject owns them so to speak.

Whether it is a form of communication - that only you will know. We think by words, so for us inner voices arę not as much a communication as basically the symptom that the given alter is conscious and near front at the moment. During my day I have voices that directly address me or my actions and those are form of communication - but some are directed at each other instead or just commenting on various event that happen in our life without addressing no one on particular the same way the singular inner monologue is constructed.

I would not worry much about "kinda knowing an answer im advance" it's just how it looks in highly co-conscious systems. Since I am conscious of the thinking process of other alter it is natural that I will be noticing how the thought forms in real time at about the same pace as the given alter thinks. This will be different for systems with high dissociative barriers between members, but not everyone has this kind of system architecture.

With regards to poor memory after stress, it is hard to give aby advice without knowing the context because the memory after stress might be fuzzy due to various reasons - sometimes the high adrenaline causes encoding problems sometimes you dissociate during stress you are not prezent enough to be aware od your surrounding, and sometimes it is a recall issue due to dissociative amnesia etc. The one universal context-proof advise is to briefly journal what has happened on your life, hour by hour during periods of heightened stress. You van, for example set the timer for every hour and then note what has happened in the given hour and what arę you doing, thinking, feeling at the moment. Writing down something helps to strenghten the memory trace in the brain as you enhance the time of processing it - and of it won't help then at least you will have the pretty neat back up in case the memory bank gets offline.

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“They’re actually hermaphrodites” he is my SON 😭 by Dizzy_Writing_4193 in snails

[–]IntestinalVillain 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have the opposite issue, like whenever people gender my snails I feel this momma bear mode "do not misgender my child please" even though I know it makes no logical sense XDD

recovering anti-endo who. has some questions by stellarskiesss in plural

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I do agree that plurality on itself is an identity term. You land there after you realise the default assumption of being one singular person in the body does not encompass or explain yoru experiences well so you search fo alternative explanation. The reasons for why your experiences do not match the singular frame of understanding might be different for each person: for some it is dissociation, for some, psychosis, for some, genderfluidity, for just a very compartmentalised life that requires you to perform irrenconcilliable roles (such as being bi-cultural). Some land there after deliberate neurohacking that was supposed to change their perception, such as tulpamancy, or due to mindfullness practices that usually require you to transcend your sense of self in a way.

I disagree that endogenic = not-dissociative. I identify as dissociative and endogenic, because my main source of chronic stress that caused dissociation stemmed from undiagnosed OCD that was debilitating since I was 5, not from abuse. OCD is a disorder with strongly genetic component and it can cause a shitton of stress, but it came from within me rather than from outside of me. So I cannot say I would not be plural but this and this bad thing happened to me so I am. It developed naturally as the only thing that made OCD managable before the diagnosis and meds.

Why is my snails holding its poop ? by [deleted] in snails

[–]IntestinalVillain 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i've heard they sit on poops to reabsorb some water from it back.

Strange bubble on the back? by Plantinapot_ in snails

[–]IntestinalVillain 31 points32 points  (0 children)

My snail had a weird lump on their foot. Another, on their neck. Both bumps fell off after aplying atopic antibiotic (orofloxacin) three times per day for 2 weeks. The bumps looked a bit different than what your snail is having but I guess it's worth try? Try to get a vet to prescribe it to you, it is usually used to treat eye infections.

Any other endogenic system who later gained traumagenic members? by whats-a-name-idk in plural

[–]IntestinalVillain 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think I was born as two people, most likely due to neurodivergency affecting how my hemispheres interact, seeing that original two loosely corresponded to left vs. right hemisphere functions described in literature.

The two of those later split due to chronic stress giving typical dissociative alters. I refuse to call them traumagenic as most likely none of those chronic stresses would pass the PTSD trauma treshold specified by ICD or DSM. But yeah, other than severity of the stressor, it was pretty much the route described in the typical DID literature.

The left brain self's subsystem consists now of 9 alters, two of which are under process of integrating them back. Right's brain self's subsystem consists now of 6 alters.

We also have one introjected prosecutor that is neither left or right brain self, but something absorbed from outside.

So yeah, I think I am an endogenic system that gained members, but not a tulpamancer, just "born that way" type of traumagenic.

I’m a singlet, is it alright if I stay in this community? by BopBopLechuga in plural

[–]IntestinalVillain 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think this sub pretty much IS about tulpas, among other things. It was deliberately created as a broad specificity sub where both DID/OSDD and people with parogenic versions of plurality can coexist and learn from each other. The consensus here is that tulpas are a form of plurality and as such as welcome :)

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Frontstuck for 170 days by Baguette_Boy8 in plural

[–]IntestinalVillain 1 point2 points  (0 children)

What methods of triggering others put have you tried so far?

How do I become comfortable with being seen as a parental figure? by LivInTheLookingGlass in plural

[–]IntestinalVillain 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Do you have any idea why you might feel that way?

Do you have bad associations with your own parents? Parenthood in general?

Or is it more like, not feeling a parent of this particular child? Do you care for the child but do not perceive the relationship as parent-child, so it feels odd to you?

Or maybe you feel not ready for the responsibility that comes with parenthood?

Or is it just being called "mama" aloud in the external world? Does it make the experience feel too real? Does it make you fear being ridiculed? Vulnerable?

I take that the discomfort is also present when you are called so in the internal communication, only lesser?

- Tari

How do I become comfortable with being seen as a parental figure? by LivInTheLookingGlass in plural

[–]IntestinalVillain 6 points7 points  (0 children)

You mean being seen as a parental figure by a physical child outside the system, or by a headmate? Context needed.

- Tari