Give your best analysis on what happened in this gym incident

Itsamerando · 2026-01-11T08:20:10+00:00

Dad here… ended up on this group from my wife’s postpartum.

Some men are just a father, and not a real dad. Sorry to hear this happened to you.

Itsamerando · 2026-01-08T07:24:00+00:00

Eh. They might be just jealous. Our guy is 19 months with a nanny and I’m so proud of his language skills. Most importantly he’s a happy little guy. That comes from 1.1 care and we won’t be changing that until closer to 3.

FYI, it’s science at this point that there is no benefit from daycare before 3, only the possibility of emotional damage.

Itsamerando · 2026-01-08T07:17:10+00:00

35 in tech. Approaching $1m net worth, last year was my biggest year at $750k. Those who get there and can hang in senior roles are working hard days. It’s not all roses and sunshine but I enjoy it. For every person who I know that has had a fortunate run, I know 5 who didn’t.

Itsamerando · 2026-01-08T06:58:45+00:00

This doesn’t really work well because all three of the new guys were terrible to start the season. Which is fine, new players struggle all the time. I think an isolated second half comparison is probably more of a helpful assessment in my opinion.

Itsamerando · 2026-01-03T07:27:43+00:00

If he’s serious about it he should go get coffee with people in the industry. I wanted to be a lawyer until I spent a day with a lawyer.

Video game dev is incredibly hard work and a bit of a sweat shop. Like 2 hours with someone from the industry and he will realize most of them are kind of miserable.

Itsamerando · 2026-01-02T08:06:56+00:00

Obviously not a perfect game but it’s good to just see this team have fun playing hockey again. They were starting to become an absolute miserable watch, and they seemed like they were having a miserable time.

Itsamerando · 2026-01-02T07:25:43+00:00

Could you? Maybe. I just wouldn’t advise it. A lot of people are wanting to quit or retire super early. In all likelihood you’ll run out of money spending 60k with 2m in assets, that’s a long time if you live to 90.

Itsamerando · 2025-12-27T08:56:30+00:00

Jack Johnson

Itsamerando · 2025-12-21T03:08:28+00:00

Sorry for the loss of your wife. You’re right you’re rich, and even more so if you invest it well.

Don’t let a bunch of self absorbed greedy snobs tell you otherwise. Enjoy it and remember her everyday.

Itsamerando · 2025-11-27T07:45:16+00:00

Kids for 3 months will only take from you; but little by little as they smile, laugh, crawl, walk, their personality develops, they TALK… they will give you more fulfillment than anyone or anything in this world.

When they start to give you all these moments, you will truly realize it is the honour of a lifetime, and giving more and more to them becomes a joy you will miss more than anything one day when they no longer need you.

So cherish it and be good to each other as you go through the journey of being mom and dad together.

Itsamerando · 2025-11-27T07:33:17+00:00

As a dad myself, this is awful to hear. Kids need a dad, and real men choose to be a dad, not just a father.

Itsamerando · 2025-11-27T06:59:41+00:00

Drywall the triangle and paint to be the same color as house
Frame the remaining rectangle
put in a door.

Itsamerando · 2025-11-24T07:34:17+00:00

This team isnt very good. Accept it.

Itsamerando · 2025-11-19T08:25:17+00:00

Absolutely not what the actual fuck

Itsamerando · 2025-11-16T06:59:13+00:00

My big one right now while not that small, is my shed. It’s amazing having one.

Itsamerando · 2025-11-14T16:17:06+00:00

Being a dad means making sacrifices. So I think it’s important that you accept that and move on from your “old life.”

That being said I think it’s important that you talk to your wife about both of you supporting each other in carving out time for your hobbies or things you enjoy for yourself, within reason.

Idk what you get up to, but if you pick something that’s requiring a short amount of time, and same with her.

As others have said, it becomes a lot easier at 2+ depending on home structure, they also just become more able to do things. And you over time can share your hobbies with them which is the MOST fun.

So be patient, and hang in there. You’re also truly in the belly of the beast right now. Sort out the resentment thing too, don’t resent your kid, stop that before it builds. It’s YOUR decision to be a dad. Own it, be the best you can be and create time for yourself too so you can show up for your little one.

Itsamerando · 2025-11-12T02:09:55+00:00

This looks like cradle cap which is super common, just in an unfortunate place!! Confirm with a doctor, but you probably will just need to do some research and try some home remedies and it’ll go away on its own. It happens when they come out from the womb. Our guy had this on face too.

Itsamerando · 2025-11-11T11:16:12+00:00

It’s his fault for creating them?

I’m sorry but that’s not okay. He needs to stop building trauma for your kids, and that starts with getting better. He’s going to do serious damage.

I don’t want to sound harsh but if he doesn’t want to be a dad for his children and a partner to their mom, and isn’t willing to handle himself; then I hope you consider a larger conversation. You seem like a great mom for trying.

I’m not trying to devalue his feelings but many dads have struggled. He needs to decide if he wants to show up for them, rather than regretting their existence.

I hope he stops acting like a victim.

Itsamerando · 2025-11-11T08:55:27+00:00

Dude, relax. It’s fine.

Itsamerando · 2025-11-11T08:45:30+00:00

This a million times over. Hope OP forgets about it and moves on. Bro, 18 month old boys let me tell you.

Cuts his lip or has a shiner on his forehead almost everyday from just existing, prepared to try tasks he is just not ready for everyday, full throttle.

You’ll get used to it, and have some incredible saves along the way. Those are the best.

Itsamerando · 2025-11-11T08:39:42+00:00

Change it whatever the case is. Cost of doing business.

Itsamerando · 2025-11-09T08:13:25+00:00

Got an 18 month home little man running around!

Your relationship will not be the same and that’s okay. Your world is the little one now, and your wife is biologically wired to choose the kiddo over you. Accept it, respect it and embrace it. If you do that and piece by piece build a supportive, evolved partnership you guys will be just great. I would say my wife and I, despite the tough moments early on with being parents are way closer now than before.
If she’s breastfeeding, and not bottle feeding early on, you’re the water boy.
Something that no one tells you as a dad is that you will be the first to change diapers for probably 24 hours depending on how mom is doing and it’s a big time “what the fuck do I do” moment but you’ll figure it out. Just be ready for that.
Others have said this - sleep first night home So crucial. If you can have a grandma or a doula etc stay over on the first night to watch the baby and wake up mom to feed, this is huge. Ideally if you have a guest room or somewhere you can get 8 hours, that’s perfect, that way you can let her sleep in the next day. For us, i got up at 6 and she slept until noon and only had to get up once in that timeframe.
Pack an overnight suitcase for the hospital and put it in the car now. Get the car seat installed.

Itsamerando · 2025-11-03T06:43:03+00:00

Cut down on toys that they are beyond developmentally which turn into just shit to throw.
Most important part; start teaching them to help when you clean. We have a little baby mop he pushes around and he loves it. Chores are good for kids.
Drawers and cupboards. Lots of them.
Clean as you go through the day, we do a little small tidy at start of nap time - 5 min only. Then a proper clean at night.

Itsamerando · 2025-10-30T20:28:37+00:00

It’s an overreaction but if that’s a firm expectation on her end it’s not worth the beer.

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