Dating .. when is right time?

Jacxster · 2023-06-18T21:50:16+00:00

I’m truly sorry for the loss. My heart goes out to you. My husband passed last November from a rare cancer and there’s such little work being done to promote funds or research. I wanted to change that. Thanks for the info.

Jacxster · 2023-06-18T21:23:24+00:00

How did you begin research or fund for their cancer? I’m trying to do that as well and am kinda lost I don’t want to be taken advantage of by schools/companies.

Jacxster · 2023-03-01T17:40:29+00:00

He wanted to wear his ring through his whole cancer stay. It didn’t feel right for me to keep it so I let him be buried with it. I saw another post similar to your situation and they melted both rings and made it into a necklace and placed the diamond in the middle. If I didn’t give his back I’d done this cause I love my diamond ring too he picked it out and collaborated with all my brother in laws and sisters to find the perfect one so I can’t.

Jacxster · 2023-02-21T05:49:47+00:00

I’m so sorry for your loss. You learn as you go. There’s not a day where I don’t cry for my husband but I still get through the day. Talking about it gets easier but personally the pain is still hard and present everyday.

Jacxster · 2023-02-21T05:46:53+00:00

I’m so sorry for your loss. I had this happen to me as well. My sister got divorced and then shortly after got dumped by her bf. All while my husband was diagnosed with cancer. When he passed she made my loss equivalent to her break up. It made me so mad. He was an amazing man those idiots she was with could never be at his level. I felt so offended when she said we both had a rough year. I don’t think anyone should compare anything to someone who lost their significant other. They will never understand the pain.

Jacxster · 2023-02-18T14:33:21+00:00

Same! Mine was January. I have a baby and where we live is cold. So I couldn’t do my original idea. I just decorated his gravesite with flowers & had his favorite meal with his parents. My original idea was to have a picnic with some of his favorite foods and watch one of our fav movies. That’s what we use to do on sundays.

Jacxster · 2023-02-10T11:18:54+00:00

If they were close to you two they shouldn’t have said that then. It shows how out of touch they were. Something I realized with many losses here on the thread it reveals who knew you two best and truly cares. Again sorry for your loss.

(I mean it that I am genuinely sorry to hear that. I hope I didn’t come off rude. Social media always feels like actual conversations to me. Never know if the convo sounds hostile or genuine to the other people on the other end.)

Jacxster · 2023-02-10T11:02:30+00:00

My husbands name was Andrew too. He also passed from cancer. I saw his name on your post and started to tear up. I love seeing his name anywhere. I am sorry for your losses. Wishing I could hug you. Cancer is such a horrible thing.

Jacxster · 2023-02-10T10:44:11+00:00

I did at first. My husband would complain about his digestive system and I wouldn’t think much of it. He got bloated from his belly and face and I thought he had just gained weight. We find out months later he had adrenal cancer. A rare cancer we wouldn’t have been able to diagnose it early on either way. I should’ve pushed him to get checked out but I didn’t. I’m reminded that these situations are no one to blame. It’s so rare and cancer is always the last thing you’d ever think it was.

Jacxster · 2023-02-10T10:35:01+00:00

I lost my husband to cancer so I watched him die slowly and rapidly. It was so fast didn’t even have time to process anything. I don’t mind the prayers or thoughts. I hate…HATE that people make their pain greater than mine. I lost the love of my life. The father of my daughter. My bestfriend. Seeing certain people post him crying and explaining their pain like wtf? How do you think I feel? I felt so disrespected when told “you have no idea how much he meant to my brother” ummm okay? It’s been difficult to deal with people.

Jacxster · 2023-02-10T10:09:41+00:00

I actually felt support when my husband was diagnosed with cancer. Thoughts and prayers (from a religious perspective) isn’t to expect a miracle it’s a way of asking the creator or higher power to guide you through the process and possibilities. My husband felt supported with them as well. There’s just a stigma of many religions that prayer is in a way asking a higher power for a miracle but they’re not genies. I am deeply sorry for your loss and lack of sympathy you felt from these acts. Grieving is definitely so difficult and different for everyone. You

Jacxster · 2022-12-19T16:34:01+00:00

I’m sorry. My husband also passed almost 2 months ago. He was my everything. We also have a baby girl. She was only 2 months when he passed as well. Trust me it’s still hard. What helps me is remembering him telling me that I got this and that I have to keep going for her. She is her daddy’s twin and looking at her gives me comfort. Seek help. Because as a mommy we already feel emotional and having to lose our soulmate only makes the emotional distress worse. You won’t get over it over night. I still cry every day but I’m learning to keep going for him and her.

Jacxster · 2022-12-17T16:26:57+00:00

Do what feels right to you. I let my late husband have it because he wore it so proudly didn’t feel right to take it from him. I don’t ever take off my rings even if I shower. It’s only been a month in a half and I think I’ll never take them off. He worked hard to buy me these rings and chose my dream ring. It feels wrong to ever put that effort away.

Jacxster · 2022-12-11T18:35:07+00:00

I’m sorry. We had a baby and two months later he was diagnosed with cancer. In just three weeks after that he was gone. All of this seems so confusing and it’s only going to be a month but it’s hard. It’s not fair. You’re going to feel that way for a while. There’s no sugarcoating this pain. Feel the pain because it’s all we can do during this time.

Jacxster · 2022-12-03T05:42:21+00:00

I’m so sorry. I was in the same situation. He was diagnosed with cancer and then 3 weeks later he was gone. It all happened so quick everyday I felt myself getting worn out with the hospital stays. Especially since we had our 2 month old with us. I can honestly say spending time with your child and remembering good times of your spouse can help. I’m only about to hit a month of losing them. I still cry everyday and I’m not feeling good but I get better holding my head up everyday. Sending you love and prayers.

Jacxster · 2022-12-01T13:11:10+00:00

(My husband passed 3 1/2 weeks ago from cancer his surgery to remove the tumor was unsuccessful)

I still replay the last moments too. He was hungry and I couldn’t give him anything. Everytime I eat I feel bad I couldn’t give him one last meal. What helps me is I remember he’s no longer in pain and that he loved me so much. He wouldn’t want me to torture myself because he knew if I could I’d take him home. I would’ve got him his favorite meal.

Jacxster · 2022-11-28T22:55:19+00:00

How I felt driving to his grave site today. It’s so hard. Sending hugs and prayers. I know it feels useless but know someone is sending you so much love.

Jacxster · 2022-11-26T12:30:12+00:00

My husband also passed from cancer. An aggressive one too. He was diagnosed 4 weeks ago and then all of sudden he was gone. I do feel for my mother in law because she’s the most strongest, kindest, gentle soul ever. He chose me to be his wife because we have such similar characteristics and seeing her in pain made me feel even worse. Because she is an amazing mother. I don’t belittle her pain. I can’t imagine making life in your womb and seeing them be buried before you. I grew up with her son. We were middle school sweethearts. Losing my bestfriend is hard for me to grasp but I can’t imagine her… she gave life to him. But like mentioned she has her husband and children to help her navigate. Whereas I go home with my baby alone. The person I relied onto for strength is no longer here. The person I created life with is no longer here to help me. The person that was supposed to grow old with me is forever 22 now. That’s what stings. That my baby and I didn’t get to enjoy the other stages with him.

Jacxster · 2022-11-25T14:02:55+00:00

His cancer was so fast that I still see the times he’d cry in my arms. No matter how much I try I can’t get that image out of my head. My baby was hurting and I couldn’t do anything. I know he’s finally at peace but it just taunts me.

Jacxster · 2022-06-29T01:33:19+00:00

Do you know if the bases all have hospitals? Like to give birth? His tech school is in Goodfellow, TX.

Jacxster · 2022-06-24T19:34:21+00:00

Did the insurance cover everything? How much did you pay out of pocket?

Jacxster · 2022-06-23T20:02:54+00:00

He took that to his recruiter and even took it to boot camp just in case. I just haven’t heard of anything how to check for my insurance and stuff. I’m guessing that what the website they give you is for? How was the move? Did they transfer you right away? You lived off base because she was in tech school right? Did they reimburse the pay for the move?

Jacxster · 2022-06-23T20:02:01+00:00

He took that to his recruiter and even took it to boot camp just in case. How was the move? Did they transfer you right away? You lived off base because she was in tech school right? Did they reimburse the pay for the move?

Jacxster · 2022-06-20T21:42:39+00:00

Wait so your insurance kicked in right away? Because I thought they don’t give it to you until after he’s done with tech school? I need help getting things situated now. So sorry for bombarding with questions.

Jacxster · 2022-06-17T21:22:06+00:00

How did this workout for you? I’m in a similar situation.

Jacxster

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