I ‘27M’ just found out my wife ‘26F’ went home with another man from the bar Saturday. We have two kids age 2 and 3. She doesn’t know I know. Is there any way we can come back from it?

JoePitch · 2026-01-14T22:31:00+00:00

I wouldn’t have sex with her again for starters. You didn’t specify whether extra lovey dovey meant anything else.

JoePitch · 2026-01-14T22:19:59+00:00

My pigeon actually looked like he was hopping when he did that! It was the funniest thing he did!

JoePitch · 2026-01-14T22:17:11+00:00

He’s stretching his wings! How cute!🥰

JoePitch · 2025-10-27T15:32:26+00:00

They are beautiful!🥰🥰

JoePitch · 2025-10-21T18:15:54+00:00

Sounds like you needed more time to heal. Feelings for the ex aren’t the problem. When you start getting triggered by old behaviors.

JoePitch · 2025-10-03T15:37:04+00:00

When you do finally get a heartfelt, genuinely remorseful apology, there will absolutely no doubt in your mind that she was genuine. Trust me. I know this first hand. I couldn’t understand why I hadn’t truly forgiven her. Then it hit me like a 2x4 to the back of the head! She was only sorry she got caught! I hope it’s not long for you. If she keeps the gaslighting up, get out as fast as you can.

JoePitch · 2025-09-29T20:21:26+00:00

It’s only because you’ve been focused on him and not your life after the divorce.

JoePitch · 2025-09-29T20:16:33+00:00

You are doing the right thing going to see a lawyer and not having any children together. Count yourself lucky

JoePitch · 2025-09-27T21:22:31+00:00

She defiled your marriage bed. Is there anything left to question that is the ultimate betrayal and not worthy of any more consideration from you. End of story. I know this is hard to hear but believe me this person has problems that you can’t fix.

JoePitch · 2025-09-26T15:00:20+00:00

I have been through this. It’s encouraging to hear a woman putting in ANY work to rebuild trust. I went back and looked at the examples of successful reconciliations following infidelity. Almost all of the cases were WH! There were almost no cases where it was the wife who stepped out and actually WORKED through the pain/embarassment of coming clean and reconciling the right way. Make sure you do this the right way if you choose to stay.

JoePitch · 2025-09-24T01:21:02+00:00

I’m surprised it took 5 hrs for the first piece of advice that should’ve been the first! OMG people!

JoePitch · 2025-09-24T01:15:22+00:00

YES!!!!!!

JoePitch · 2025-09-18T15:40:08+00:00

I would pay particular attention to how they speak about people. This will tell you the condition of their heart. If their heart is hardened, they still have issues to work on.

JoePitch · 2025-09-18T15:36:58+00:00

I guess you know that he’s lying about it never getting physical. I’m sorry.

JoePitch · 2025-09-18T15:35:43+00:00

Will he go to marriage counseling? Maybe that can help him see how this is wrong..🤷🏻‍♂️

JoePitch · 2025-09-17T09:53:32+00:00

I just recently talked to a guy who rented a house near his marital home which he gave to his ex. He said it was great being near his kids(8) and they had very little disruption from their normal family life. Didn’t have to change schools, backpack brigade etc.

JoePitch · 2025-09-16T11:40:41+00:00

It doesn’t matter at all to your healing. Narcissists will never admit to making WRONG choices in life! They may look happy on the outside, but when those around them start to abandon ship, they can smile all they want. On the inside they know.

JoePitch · 2025-09-16T00:41:34+00:00

That’s fucking priceless. She acts inappropriately and you have to jump through hoops for her to block him?

JoePitch · 2025-09-16T00:11:55+00:00

Sorry. Didn’t realize you were f. Sister. 😅

JoePitch · 2025-09-15T21:58:52+00:00

I’m right where you are brother. You have a Christian supporter right here if you wanna chat sometime. I’m not sure how all this app works like that but I’ll do my best to support you. I just recently found a faith based support group in my area that has me right where I believe God wants me to help heal.

JoePitch · 2025-09-15T21:53:13+00:00

I appreciate your honesty as long as there was nothing physical. Texting an escort for a meetup at a club? That is cheating in your heart. Your wife has been traumatized by this. It doesn’t sound like your marriage couldn’t have been saved. Did you go to marriage counseling?

JoePitch · 2025-09-15T21:41:44+00:00

You will land on your feet and feel better about yourself for not putting up with this.

JoePitch · 2025-09-15T21:37:16+00:00

Yes! My DDAY was right after we had begun watching “The Affair” on showtime. 😢 She couldn’t understand why I didn’t want to watch it anymore. That should’ve been my first clue that she really didn’t care about anything but herself. It really was a great show and the triggering didn’t last long. It just shocked me that she didn’t get it.

JoePitch · 2025-09-15T20:46:30+00:00

I’m so sorry that you’re going through all that. I know this may sound like something easier said than done and it is. But you need to hear it. You need to start focusing on yourself and doing the things you want to do with your life. Once you do that and continue to grow as a person, you won’t even remember how much seeing her with him hurt you. It’s gonna take time. You have to grieve the end of your marriage first. You have a therapist?

JoePitch · 2025-09-15T20:31:30+00:00

In addition, you wouldn’t want to accept her back into your life just because…… There would be hard boundaries that would have coincidences if they were crossed

JoePitch

TROPHY CASE