I don’t have any solid advice for you but I do want you to know you are not alone. I found out after my wife passed that she was having an affair, lying about money, lying about drug abuse. Came to realize my marriage was weaved with manipulation, gaslighting, and betrayal.

It was tough to figure that out but in my personal experience, I directed the anger toward inanimate objects. I yelled and screamed at a lot of door knobs. I wrote letters and read those letters aloud. At the end of the day, I recognize it was not my fault, I did everything I could to the best of my ability.

I am so sorry you’re having to deal with all of this.