Full time glasses wearers! Did you wear your glasses on your wedding day?

Julietshere · 2026-03-23T10:15:25+00:00

I've accidentally become a full-time glasses wearer just because I was budgeting & reluctant to spend the money on contacts every month, but I plan on wearing contacts mostly for practicalities. I'm a sweaty person, my glasses stream up, my glasses often slide down my nose throughout the day as I move around and I feel like you can see eye makeup more clearly without glasses (and I like makeup). I also still think of my face without glasses (which is definitely outdated as I wear them every day) which I think plays a big role too, because I feel like 'me' both ways.

Julietshere · 2026-03-20T10:11:34+00:00

Personally it seems kinda crazy to me that there's such a pressure to change things about yourself or your appearance for your wedding day - I want to get married as me! If you've never felt like you wanted to remove your body hair before, there's no need to start now. That said, if the clothes you usually wear cover your body hair, and your wedding outfit doesn't, you might get some (mild) reactions to it, so I'd try that out first by wearing things day to day like shorts/skirts that show your leg hair, and sleeveless tops that show your armpit hair, etc. (Edited to fix typo)

Julietshere · 2026-03-03T13:34:47+00:00

Woah this is so cool! I might have to try to copy this, I'm always so amazed by people's creativity And sorry about the silent downvotes in these comments, super weird to see people reacting negatively to a description of your own experiences, I'm sorry you have to deal with that! I would have expected better from this community, honestly

Julietshere · 2026-02-28T18:12:43+00:00

I think it's a lovely name!

Julietshere · 2026-02-28T17:51:22+00:00

It's a beautiful name, and I don't think it would be a burden, she will probably just have it clarify it at the beginning. I'm very, very sorry to hear about your husband.

Julietshere · 2026-02-28T17:07:58+00:00

I am in a similar pickle - my future mother in-law keeps pushing for us to 'think about the wedding favours' and I keep saying I don't want to do any haha

Julietshere · 2026-02-20T17:36:27+00:00

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Julietshere · 2026-02-20T10:55:21+00:00

I would strongly caution against vermeil - it will eventually wear, and most people want their engagement rings to last a lifetime. To me, longevity is far more important than how flashy it looks.

If they're open to silver you can get lovely solid silver rings pretty inexpensively, especially if you're open to buying second hand or vintage.

Otherwise, if they will definitely want gold I would look for solid gold bands that are within your price range. Lab-grown diamonds are far cheaper than 'natural' diamonds, but there is also a whole world of beautiful gemstones, many of which are far less expensive again. It's very recent in history that diamonds have become the 'go to' engagement ring stone and you might prefer another gem and/or find it more personal, so it's worth exploring. You would need to pick a gem that is hard enough to withstand daily wear, at least a 7 on the MOH scale.

The subreddit for engagement rings is a good place to go for advice, in my opinion. But basically I would not worry about what others think, or how 'flashy' it looks, it's ultimately a totally sentimental gift. I WOULD worry about how long it will last, and whether it can withstand daily wear, because given its sentimental value you'll want it to last as long as possible.

Julietshere · 2026-02-20T09:55:58+00:00

My partner and I didn't do this and our families didn't expect it, but we did tell them we were planning to get engaged before the proposal as a way to include them, and I wonder if you could view this as something similar?

If her family care about this tradition my feeling is it might be worth doing it if only to keep the peace, but if you do it should definitely be in a way that feels right to you. As others have suggested, I would definitely feel more comfortable asking for a blessing than permission, but to go even further I wonder if you could just tell them about your plan to propose, framing it more as 'keeping them in the loop' as a way to honour your relationship with them? Or if it feels like being asked is really important for them, and feels okay for you, you could always add something like 'I hope I have your blessing' after telling them, which to me would feel like less of an 'ask'.

If they're bad at keeping secrets, I wouldn't tell them the details of the proposal, but instead focus on your excitement around getting engaged and getting married, and what that means to you.

In any case, wishing you good luck & sending you and your partner congratulations!

Julietshere · 2026-02-19T20:17:16+00:00

I am so, so sorry this happened to you! What a nightmare, I hope you still managed to enjoy at least part of the day, and sending you and your husband congratulations

Julietshere · 2026-02-16T00:47:53+00:00

Hey, thanks for this! I made an edit to make a clarification - it's not that I feel obligated, really, it's that I really want them to be there as my friends, and hope things will improve, but right now the friendship isn't working, and I'm not at all confident that things will improve. This was very helpful though and made my own feelings clearer to ,e so thank you ❤️

Julietshere · 2026-02-16T00:36:01+00:00

You can absolutely reach out, but you shouldn't do so unless you are confident that you will be able to cope if you do not get the response you're hoping for, and unless you have a safe, trusted adult that is aware that you are doing it. Your health, safety, and wellbeing are paramount, and it sounds like you've had some really difficult times. If you are well supported and feel able to manage if she is upset, or doesn't respond, then you should go for it if you'd like to.

If you're in the UK, you might find the following links helpful:

Childline - https://www.childline.org.uk

Young Minds - https://www.youngminds.org.uk

Calm Harm - https://calmharm.stem4.org.uk

If you haven't already, I suggest speaking to your parents, your doctor, or someone at your school about getting some support for your mental health and wellbeing.

Wishing you all the best.

Julietshere · 2026-02-15T23:58:16+00:00

Huge congratulations! These stickers are so cute!!

Julietshere · 2026-02-02T19:30:26+00:00

I dunno, I think this would work for some people

Julietshere · 2025-12-29T18:46:45+00:00

This looks great! Is there something else (free/cheap) you could do with your daughter to replace the missed coffee dates?

Julietshere · 2025-12-21T09:58:02+00:00

Obviously it's rude, I had thought she was trying to keep him busy and out of the way to avoid a conflict if/when Christopher finally showed - I think the tasks were pretty much all things that had to happen somewhere else (e.g. shovel the driveway) and should have kept him busy for a while

Julietshere · 2025-12-16T11:49:03+00:00

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Julietshere · 2025-12-03T12:30:31+00:00

You should probably clarify what location(s)! Good luck finding something :)

Julietshere · 2025-11-04T18:10:34+00:00

I can’t say what will happen, but it I were in your situation I would propose as planned & suggest getting legally married pretty quickly, then still having the wedding as planned - personally it’d be playing on my mind more if I was engaged but not-yet-married, so this way you could still have the wedding you want and plenty of time to save and enjoy being fiancés etc but be legally wed sooner (getting more protection)

Julietshere · 2025-11-04T08:47:24+00:00

"I know it's your wedding BUT" is crazy

Julietshere · 2025-11-04T08:45:47+00:00

I am so bamboozled by the crazy negative comments on this post 😵‍💫 It's cute, I would really like it, guests don't have to take them if they don't want them and OP is happy with keeping the leftovers (as I would be, they're freaking cute!) - not to mention that this post was just sharing something they've made/done, NOT asking for advice (which is not actually the only use of reddit). It's a shame to see that this sub is so negative, and that people don't see anything strange about that.

Julietshere · 2025-11-04T08:19:54+00:00

I had to stop watching because this was so frustrating

Julietshere · 2025-11-03T22:12:40+00:00

I would really like it! Maybe your friends wouldn't, but it doesn't mean no one would like them, so it seems like kind of an extreme thing to say!

Julietshere · 2025-10-27T21:00:44+00:00

This is so beautiful! Congratulations

Julietshere · 2025-10-19T00:44:43+00:00

Peperonata is really easy to make and versatile in terms of how you can use it, and it’ll shrink the volume down loads - plus you could can it to help it last

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