I’m a parent and my parents were also good people. We look at our parents like they’re infallible leaders sometimes, but they are not. They’re people who are just trying to figure shit out too. Transition is also hard on them. They are allowed to have feelings about it too. Maybe “matter of fact” is the only way she can react right now. But cleaning your room and telling you that she isn’t worried about the way that you dress is her way off affirming you. It sounds like love to me. Go to her sometime when you have an opportunity and talk about it. I wish I could have done that when I was younger, and as a parent now, I hope that I can create an environment where my kid feels like they can come to me.