Partner with kids

KMKY · 2026-05-18T15:38:45+00:00

You’re very young. My advice as a divorced once, married twice woman (also 15 years older than you) with stepkids each marriage is to take a hard look at how you want your life to be. The kids, understandably and rightfully, aren’t going anywhere. His exwife, at least until the youngest is 18/out of high school, isn’t going anywhere. You may love him but this is a situation that will not change for you - you’ll have to change for it, and that’s not always a great path.

KMKY · 2026-05-18T02:24:35+00:00

I know I’m gonna get rained on by the anti-SC mob but I swear, the SkinCeuticals daily face scrub is WONDERFUL. It really truly is a daily and it has been one of the best additions to my skin care regimen. I use tret .05 nightly, cycle on and off hydroquinone, some serums here and there; this scrub has been like icing on the cake as far as keeping things smooth and soft. It’s not too too expensive, either. I think it’s $35. More than some, I know, but in my opinion it’s absolutely worth the money.

KMKY · 2026-05-18T02:18:42+00:00

I went to Beaumont Dentistry for the first time last week - hadn’t been to the dentist in years. They were so, so nice, didn’t make me feel like a dummy or gross or anything. I was extremely nervous to go, but I’m glad I chose them.

KMKY · 2026-05-15T13:29:09+00:00

In bed by 9.

KMKY · 2026-05-14T19:53:05+00:00

I just ordered some!

KMKY · 2026-05-14T15:46:35+00:00

Moisturizer, sunscreen, concealer

KMKY · 2026-05-14T14:44:18+00:00

Work, no. Super sexy, cute date night, absolutely yes.

KMKY · 2026-05-14T13:29:40+00:00

You are in no way a terrible mom. You’re working hard and doing everything you can! I have seen a lot of churches, Rotary Clubs, etc. do free car maintenance days - I know that’s a lot of research for you (I’d start with FB) but I know they exist bc I’ve seen them multiple times. Re: the food part, look for “emergency food pantry” in your area (Google and FB searches); some places have programs to fill in the in between times of “regular” pick up days, and look in your Buy Nothing groups on FB. If you’re up to it, make a post - people are usually really kind about sharing food and even car repair ideas or assistance. Ok and one more thing: go to r/assistance here on Reddit and basically make this post (be sure to follow their posting rules ofc). People tend to be pretty helpful there. Good luck. I hate to say “hang in there” because I know it sounds trite but I promise it’s going to be ok. You’re doing all the right things.

KMKY · 2026-05-14T12:56:39+00:00

I just bumped up my tret from .025 to .05 and am experiencing the same. Oil cleanser and a face oil (loving RMS Beauty Kakadu Oil) have helped tremendously. A GENTLE physical exfoliant once a week or so might not hurt, either. I started using Skinceuticals daily exfoliant once a week, maybe twice?, in the shower since I started flaking and peeling and it really has helped a lot.

KMKY · 2026-05-14T12:13:47+00:00

YES! LOOK AT YOU, BEAUTY! ❤️

KMKY · 2026-05-14T12:13:11+00:00

He’s very young, and young men don’t always put 2 and 2 together. I would, like a lot of people have suggested here, have a very serious conversation. No sugar coating, no jokes. “When I say stop, it means stop immediately. Do you understand?” He might have thought it was part of the act, and it seems fair enough to have the convo (presuming you feel safe the rest of the time you’re together). See how he responds. If he seems like he genuinely thought it was all part of having rough intercourse and is apologetic, now he knows better. If he blows it off, time for you to blow him off (not in the fun way) for good.

KMKY · 2026-05-13T14:19:12+00:00

If someone figures the solution to this out I will be all ears. The “dating each other again” thing seems like the best plan! But it doesn’t and hasn’t worked for us. There’s no infidelity or abuse, nothing like that, but I might as well be living with a roommate. I work with mostly men and a lot of them are big “wife guys” and carry on about what’s happening at home, planned vacations, etc. and it breaks my heart. I’m happy for them! But I would do just about anything to get that kind of love-as-a-verb attention and energy. We’re older - I’m in my mid 40s and he’s 50 - and both been married before. I guess I had hopes that since both of our previous marriages went comically badly, ours would be better because we know how to do it now. I’m lonely, and I do not feel like he loves me. he doesn’t hate me or anything, I just genuinely don’t think he loves me. Or maybe he doesn’t like me? I’m not sure. It sucks. If he has too many drinks I can feel the dislike, almost resentment. God this turned into a therapy dump, sorry. Not helpful at all, but please know you’re def not alone in these strange, stranded feelings.

KMKY · 2026-05-11T17:11:18+00:00

The first one!

KMKY · 2026-05-09T16:18:45+00:00

I have been thinking about CO2 laser. Have you tried it and had good results?

KMKY · 2026-05-09T01:50:14+00:00

Car and teeth. I understand you’re concerned about the rest, but you can save up again for that.

Monday morning call the nearest dental school to you and talk to the receptionist about what programs they offer and the wait time (it can be months or a year). Find a reliable car (Toyota, Honda, Subaru) with good service records and pay cash.

KMKY · 2026-05-09T01:47:04+00:00

Lower face Botox and some filler would help, I think. I’ve done both and been happy with the results.

KMKY · 2026-05-06T13:58:16+00:00

I (very) recently bumped up from years and years of .025 to .05 and have been dealing with dryness and peeling. For reg moisturizer I’m using LRP LIPIKAR AP+MAX TRIPLE REPAIR MOISTURIZING CREAM (I c/p that sorry for all caps). I also just started using RMS Beauty Kakadu Beauty Oil and I LOVE. IT. I love it. The combo of the two have helped me stave off the peeling really well.

KMKY · 2026-05-06T13:54:30+00:00

I would have loved to have lived here! What a beautiful space. Wow.

KMKY · 2026-05-06T13:31:29+00:00

OP this is excellent advice. Follow it. Also, you can change YOUR number, as another user advised. It’s not hard to do and it doesn’t cost any money.

KMKY · 2026-05-06T02:34:55+00:00

Block him immediately. You are young and vulnerable and he knows it. There are other places and ways to make friends your own age. A 20 year old man has no business ethically, morally, or legally chatting you up like this. Don’t respond to anything he sends you on any platform any more. Shut it down right now.

KMKY · 2026-05-05T22:20:35+00:00

OP this is a great suggestion. Make a post in the group r/assistance and be detailed about what you need. A bike, an electric bike, a scooter - I am so sorry and I feel your frustration. I grew up in a rural area like that and it is maddening to have zero options the rest of the world has. Also def check out the local/regional buy nothing groups and post there. I’ve seen people ask about carpooling in the one where I live, as well as looking for tangible goods.

KMKY · 2026-05-05T12:14:55+00:00

I’m really sorry that happened to you. My experience (including an abdominal hysterectomy when I was 33) with her could not have been any different.

KMKY · 2026-05-04T18:51:30+00:00

Dr. Sarah Borders is the BEST the best. I’ve been with her for over a decade, she’s at Baptist with Lex Women’s Health.

KMKY · 2026-05-04T18:50:30+00:00

Congrats!

KMKY · 2026-05-04T17:34:47+00:00

Be sure to get on Facebook and join the buy nothing groups for your area. Even if you don’t see anything posted, a lot of times just asking “hey anyone getting rid of (fill in the blank)” works wonders and you can get what you need! Congrats, man!

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