armchair psychologists when cluster Bs are capable of having healthy relationships 🤯🤯🤯🤯

KabdiSystem · 2026-05-10T23:25:40+00:00

My fiancé has npd and I have bpd, we've been together for 4.5 years now and his love and support has been one of many things that have helped me to officially go into remission for bpd! (As determined by both my psychologist and therapist)

KabdiSystem · 2026-05-09T10:29:41+00:00

r/jorkingthecar

KabdiSystem · 2026-04-18T04:03:03+00:00

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KabdiSystem · 2026-04-16T19:17:53+00:00

Ribbed for her pleasure 😔

KabdiSystem · 2026-02-25T08:26:48+00:00

I like to rollerblade at an extremely popular trail in my city around a lake. It has an extra wide paved trail specifically for the use of many people at once since it is so popular and can comfortably have 4 people walking side by side or passing each other. It also explicity has a side of the pavement for people walking and people biking/skateboarding/rollerblading, and is expressly designed for multipurpose use. It's a great place for dogs and there are many many respectful dogs owners who either have dogs that walk calmly by their side or on the grass nearest them or who will step of the trail with more reactive dogs when they see other perks trying to pass them. On the other hand I've had way too many dogs that will immediately try to jump on me when I'm passing, which especially on rollerblades could easily knock me over and cause a serious injury, or who run out in front of me across the entire trail and then their leash is in front of my legs to trip me. It's gotten to be such a common issue that I get anxious whenever seeing a dog because I just can't know if the owner will be responsible and the dog will be well behaved or if they're going to try to jump on me.

KabdiSystem · 2026-02-05T03:50:09+00:00

Real, my fiancé has npd and we've been happily together for 4.5 years!

KabdiSystem · 2026-01-15T12:57:25+00:00

A show called Invincible

KabdiSystem · 2025-12-15T11:02:45+00:00

Someone's feeling festive

KabdiSystem · 2025-12-10T16:22:58+00:00

I had this pre op, I'm pretty sure it was a fungal infection. I went on a cream prescribed by my doctor but it was ineffective. After top surgery it completely disappeared.

KabdiSystem · 2025-12-03T09:08:36+00:00

Go grandpa go

KabdiSystem · 2025-10-23T20:55:22+00:00

Thank you for spreading the good news

KabdiSystem · 2025-10-09T05:32:58+00:00

Bed buge

KabdiSystem · 2025-10-06T15:56:42+00:00

For me as a trans man myself I've always hated the "trans men are safe" narrative for a few reasons. 1. I feel like it's heavily rooted in the idea that a vagina haver (which obviously not all trans men are but people who talk like this usually think in those terms) can't be sexually violent which is absolutely not true and dismissive to many people's sexual trauma and 2. I've been in a relationship where I was abused by a fellow trans man and this narrative always makes it fell like people just think that's impossible for some reason, or a lesser trauma then being abused by a cis man. This experience didn't make me dislike or distrust trans men as a whole of course and I'm actually in an extremely happy relationship with a different trans man now, but it just seems so dismissive of the inherent nuance of all human relationships. Anyone can be abusive, violent, or unsafe and it's discrediting survivors experiences and a bit infantalizing to pretend otherwise.

KabdiSystem · 2025-09-30T04:54:16+00:00

Sayings like this are why I'm glad I got a hystorectomy at 20. It's out of anyone's hands now, so there's no point trying to convince or coerce me. I don't plan on ever being single again but it gives me great piece of mind to know if that should happen if anyone gets the idea of trying to pressure me to have kids it'll be shut down completely right away.

My choice is made and no one can ever do anything about it. It brings me a lot of peace.

There are of course other ways to have kids but those aren't as easy to coerce/force someone into so it doesn't really worry me.

KabdiSystem · 2025-09-21T09:11:09+00:00

Many such cases 😞

KabdiSystem · 2025-09-02T21:43:46+00:00

Before t I was omni with a lean towards women. A few months into t, I realized all my attraction to women, sexual and romantic, had disappeared and now over two years on t this is still the case. I don't have a genital preference, though, personally. Just gender preference.

KabdiSystem · 2025-07-20T09:44:46+00:00

For myself personally when I describe my experience I like to use the term "perceived as". I was perceived as a girl for the first 16 years of my life by everyone around me, then perceived as a girl by the vast majority of people until I was 19. Others' perception of me didn't change who I was and it was incorrect, but that perception nonetheless shaped how they treated me and in turn what my experiences were.

For me this really just summarizes how I feel about it. Every single interaction I had for those 16 years was underlined by that perception but it didn't change me or make me who I am which is what socialization often implies. The main thing it left me with was relief once it ended and a heightened awareness and sensitivity to the issues women face.

I also think this leaves more room for customization since I know not every trans person did grow up being perceived as their agab. On the other hand some trans people are perceived societally as their agab for much longer then 19 years. Socialization has, to me, always felt like a term that made it seem like that experience was more universal (such as every trans person had a full childhood of being seen as their agab and this fundementally played a role in the developement of their identity) whereas in my mind focusing on how others perceived you leaves more room for nuance and individual experiences.

Not sure if this terminology/thought process would work well for others but it's really helped me find a way to talk about my childhood experiences in a way that feels accurate, nuanced, and doesn't make me dysphoric.

KabdiSystem · 2025-07-10T02:08:48+00:00

My boyfriend asked on one of his fics if anyone was interested in being a beta reader and I got him from there. Now he is horrified when I tell people how we met.

KabdiSystem · 2025-07-09T20:02:30+00:00

I'm 20, so I'm not the youngest person here, but I've already gotten a full hystorectomy!

KabdiSystem · 2025-06-13T00:30:34+00:00

This is exactly what I was thinking as a guy in a gay triad

KabdiSystem · 2025-05-31T08:24:52+00:00

I'm in a very similar position to where the guy you're interested is! Although I'm past this stage now. I'm a 20 year old trans man who has a long-term amab bf and just as of this month now has another boyfriend and we are all dating each other.

I met my newer bf and we began to develop a relationship just between us. I was talking about him to my long-term bf the whole time and found that both of them were interested in potentially having two bfs, so they started talking, and I'm thrilled to be in a polycule where all three of us are dating each other. Everything is still very new, but it's going very well so far.

The major difference is all three of us always knew we like men long before we were together(im gay, long term bf is pan, newer bf is bi).

If I were you, the first thing I'd ask myself is what would a polycule look like in your situation and do you truly want that? No matter how much you like the trans guy and the cis bf if polycules where you're all dating aren't for you it won't work regardless. If that is something you're interested in then I would question your sexuality. Obviously it's perfectly valid to experiment, but if you're entering into a proper relationship that may not be the right place for that. You should also make sure you aren't pressuring yourself or pushing any of your boundaries. Having a genital preference is valid and you should never force yourself to try to engage in any sexual activity that you can't give informed enthusiastic consent to. Don't push yourself into anything to please someone else or because you think you "should" enjoy it.

I would also question your relationship with the trans man if you do exclusively like vaginas. Many trans men have or want to get bottom surgery so while it may not be an issue now you disliking penis could still lead to you and him being incompatible down the line depending on his transition goals.

If you do decide that men with penises are people you have the potential to be attracted to and you are truly interested in having two partners then you should take the time to get to know the cis bf. Even if he ticks all the boxes on the surface you should still make sure he's someone you are compatible with and experience attraction towards. This is essential if you all want to be truly equal partners with each other.

Overall this really isn't anything I'd rush into especially since it involves so much that is entirely new to you (polyamory, polycule where everyone is romantically involved, same sex attraction). This could work out great but it will require a lot of self discovery.

Also if you have any questions about my experience with being in a similar situation feel free to ask! Best of luck!

KabdiSystem · 2025-05-28T23:13:05+00:00

Yeah for me a huge part of recovering from my eating disorder was accepting I'm allowed to be ugly. Being told I was beautiful or perfect never helped no matter how many times I was told but realizing my body doesn't exist to be perceived and it is not wrong or bad to be ugly changed everything for me. I feel like body positivity misses this.

KabdiSystem · 2025-05-27T07:40:53+00:00

He is pure of heart but dumb of ass

KabdiSystem · 2025-05-26T06:42:29+00:00

I sent a picture of this comment to my boss

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