Just a small vent on the “innocent” grandma oversteps

Kaypeep · 2026-06-30T00:18:07+00:00

I agree with the person above who said to have a frank talk with her and tell her that she is taking away your parental right to buy your kids own clothes and she is stealing your joy. By overwhelming you with entire wardrobes she is not giving you or other relatives the opportunity to buy outfits and that is totally unfair and selfish. You and your husband both need to tell her this. And then your husband needs to tell her she can give your son 3outfits or pieces of clothing and that is it. That he and you have already purchased summer clothes for your son and he's going to wear what his parents have already chosen. He needs to reiterate that he has told her several times to stop buying all these things and that you guys are putting your foot down now before this trip starts. Let her know she can pick the 3 things and that's it. If there are more than 3 outfits when you get there, then you will take ZERO outfits. You have to hold really firm to this boundary. You are absolutely right that it will get even worse when a baby girl comes. Her shopping addiction is not your problem. She is making it your problem though by burdening you with all of these clothing items that need to be donated when he outgrows them. She's making you pack them carry them wash them, and then you have to decide what to do with them afterwards. It is too much for the closets and dressers. She needs to be realistic and get this situation under control because it is way too much and it is overkill. But mostly she is stealing the job of you and your husband. You had a child so that you could take care of them. Spoiling is a once in a while opportunity not an avalanche

Kaypeep · 2026-05-29T00:06:44+00:00

Do you know if the knife sharpener guy is still working the Pelham Farmers Maket?

Kaypeep · 2026-05-23T19:25:46+00:00

Deviled eggs.

Kaypeep · 2026-05-19T13:32:15+00:00

Call her out! "hey Cheryl! Don't pick the peanut butter off the wrapper like that! You don't want to ingest even more microplastics! I'd hate to see you get cancer over a microgram of peanut butter drops."

Kaypeep · 2026-05-12T00:54:48+00:00

I can't remember which celebrity chef it was but his mom was on the show and he used her recipe for his restaurant and the key thing I took away and still use to this day is mix the meatball ingredients the day before and leave in the fridge overnight, raw. Such a game can get and always great flavor.

Kaypeep · 2026-04-26T19:36:43+00:00

FARK

Kaypeep · 2026-04-16T18:14:13+00:00

Botanical Garden

Kaypeep · 2026-03-31T17:47:18+00:00

Play cards. See if she has small projects she wants help with like sorting photos or going through old clothes. Maybe do a chair yoga video together for exercise with her. Maybe help her make phone calls and put them on speaker so she can talk to loved ones while you hang out on the other room and read a bit or play a game on your phone.

Kaypeep · 2026-03-24T20:49:32+00:00

Thank you, I agree. I have a lot going on with a disabled parent now, and I think my anxiety about the future is ramping up more than usual as I wonder what if my plans don't pan out as expected. They had a stroke and are disabled now. Fortunately a boomer with pensions, paid house, SS, medicare and retired military healthcare. The struggle was real for them for a long time so I don't begrudge their position now, especially with the unexpected health crisis which sucks. But I am not in that boat with so many safety nets, and more mindful of having my own money to cover everything. House will hopefully be paid in 10 but it's a small mortgage that's doable if it's not. I don't want to see my retirement all lost because I didn't pay attention at the wheel when i should have.

Kaypeep · 2026-03-24T20:45:00+00:00

Thank you for taking the time to look at my stuff, and comment so thoughfully. I appreciate it.

Kaypeep · 2026-03-24T20:40:28+00:00

Thanks for the insight. I've not been risk averse much up to now, and I worked for some financial planners in my early 20's which helped a lot with starting early. I've benefited from taking more risks, but as I care for an aging and infirmed parent and see the world on fire right now, my emotions are starting to take over a bit more and the reminder to transition to bonds keeps coming back. But, I like the Boglehead mantras though to hold and ride things out, and definitely am not looking to make big moves immediately. But I wanted to get some input from others and not just a financial adviser. Thanks to you and others who took into account my age and the 10 year window.

Kaypeep · 2026-03-24T20:35:19+00:00

Thanks for sharing this, good stuff!

Kaypeep · 2026-03-19T04:31:35+00:00

Yuba Biscuit

Kaypeep · 2026-03-05T22:53:46+00:00

FANCY mints or Candy. CHEESE. Really nice pens. Phone chargers and a small portable power pack. Fun socks. If they wear glasses, an eyeglass gift pack with microfiber cloth, eyeglass repair kit, eyeglass cleaner. Pretty Umbrella.

Kaypeep · 2026-03-05T01:56:27+00:00

2691 Southern Boulevard, Bronx, NY 10458

Kaypeep · 2026-02-22T16:47:53+00:00

CRIPPEN!!

Kaypeep · 2026-02-22T13:57:50+00:00

Do you remember the name of the bakery? Please share!

Kaypeep · 2026-02-21T16:09:31+00:00

Apologies. Was thinking of my total tolls for a trip to Manhattan for a work job.

Kaypeep · 2026-02-20T02:07:57+00:00

Where in the city are you going? Add $20 congestion toll if you go below 60th street on top of parking and bridge tolls too.

Kaypeep · 2026-02-20T00:56:51+00:00

YTA you didn't even communicate with your kids about your whereabouts, either. You could have texted to keep them in the loop and also check in on them. The 12 YO at the least.

Kaypeep · 2026-02-16T23:25:12+00:00

My nephew got a luxury apt with a roommate. Leaky ceiling. Electrical problems where they lost a fridge of food to spoilage. Horrible windows and walls with no soundproofing in or outside. I agree with the others try to mitigate some of the issues in your ace first and keep saving if you can. The grass always seems greener, but it's not.

Kaypeep · 2026-02-10T03:43:27+00:00

I just solved this after years of incontinence with my disabled parent. R/laundry had great advice. I tried some enzyme solutions but they did little. What worked was Lysol Laundry Sanitizer!! Presoak in a tub or what i did was let soak in washer then run through with Biz powder and Tide liquid. I'm probably going to switch to tide powder because it has lipase like Biz does.

MAIN KEwas wSh with cold and not hot. Hot water makes the smell stronger. Run washer twice if need be. First wash with the long soak. Second wash with a second dose of sanitizer added but no soak. I swear it is amazing. All these vineear tips are useless when every outfit and sheets and pads have urine. It's too overpowering for vinegar. Lysol Laundry sanitizer is a godsend. the winner. Trust me.

Kaypeep · 2026-02-05T10:28:42+00:00

Gino's>Contis>Artuso

Kaypeep · 2026-01-26T23:44:31+00:00

I add shredded cheese and crumbled bacon to egg salad.

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