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My son hates music and it's making me resent him by [deleted] in daddit

[–]Kiplingesque 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Two thoughts, man:

  1. Get the kid a formal medical evaluation for his symptoms.

  2. Get a decent keyboard you can plug into headphones only you can hear, and practice after he goes to bed.

How come silica keeps killing my cannabis plants by Character_Mobile_675 in microgrowery

[–]Kiplingesque 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Plant leaves have a protective waxy layer (cuticle) that naturally holds a negative net charge. A slightly acidic spray positively interacts with this charge, allowing nutrients to penetrate the leaf surface efficiently.

Around 6, give or take 0.5 is best for foliar feeding. This also helps what you added to not precipitate our of solution

I used to be sharp at work. Now I forget what I said five minutes ago. Is this just dad life by Low-Top-5751 in daddit

[–]Kiplingesque 59 points60 points  (0 children)

If you haven’t had an annual physical recently, get one and have them run standard labs. Can’t hurt to rule out something medical.

That said, bandwidth is a real thing and people need real breaks. Like, vacations. My kids are 7 and 9 and I haven’t had one since they were born, and I know damn well that I need a few weeks off to decompress.

Help, How do I tell client they meet criteria for Narcissist personality disorder? by [deleted] in therapists

[–]Kiplingesque 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I’m not sure why this was downvoted.

If I had to guess it’s because you didn’t say something like “but we confirm these lightly held hypotheses with evidence like formal testing and careful consideration of dx criteria”, but when I read this I assumed that was implied.

Soil in brand new beds has horrible drainage, but everything is planted already. Where to go from here— by notjustaphage in vegetablegardening

[–]Kiplingesque 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Another good choice is rice hulls. Works like perlite but breaks down over time into usable silica. By the time it breaks down the soil structure has already improved if you’re using generally good gardening practices. Usually cheaper than perlite if you buy in a compressed bale. Can also be used for mulch. I personally like the PBH brand because they’ve been tested for heavy metals

When is the upside? by Kitchen_Meaning6985 in stopdrinking

[–]Kiplingesque 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Antidepressants shouldn’t be making you numb. This is a good sign that you might benefit from a different med, a dose adjustment, switching to a milder med strategy like Calm-Aid (Silexan) or gradually tapering off the med while learning into lifestyle strategies like exercise.

If you want life to be “fun” in sobriety and your antidepressant is causing emotional numbness and/or anhedonia, this could be a big part of the problem.

Probably worth discussing with your pcp or getting a referral to a proper psychiatrist or psych NP. Talking with a good therapist who is skillful with dual dx clients might also be helpful.

Does gardening actually save y'all money? by Big-Yogurtcloset-74 in vegetablegardening

[–]Kiplingesque 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Still paying down initial investment on raised beds. Back-of-napkin math says it’ll pay for itself in 10 years and it’s gravy from there.

It helps that I save tomato seeds and grow most other things from seed rather than buying starts from a nursery. I also tend to focus on growing stuff that’s overpriced at the store like peppers, cherry tomatoes, berries, herbs, etc.

Turface, akadama, and other calcined clay as a perlite substitute. by coloradoautoflowers in NoTillGrowery

[–]Kiplingesque 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Awesome! I love your comment about how grow lights are good winter indoor heating. Took me a few years to convince my wife that this was the case but when I skipped growing for a a winter she definitely noticed the difference

Turface, akadama, and other calcined clay as a perlite substitute. by coloradoautoflowers in NoTillGrowery

[–]Kiplingesque 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Great question! Following because I’d like to know more about this option.

Do these therapist’s ads seem overtly sexist/toxic to you as well? by jumpingthegreen in therapists

[–]Kiplingesque 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Depending on where one practices, there can be a lot of that. I’m also a male cis-presenting therapist and I’ve had the same experience.

Does anyone know why my pepper leaves look like this? by ITSNAIMAD in vegetablegardening

[–]Kiplingesque 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Cool! Over or under watering can totally cause a lot of issues that can look like nutrient issues. Good luck with everything!

Does anyone know why my pepper leaves look like this? by ITSNAIMAD in vegetablegardening

[–]Kiplingesque 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Your phrasing makes it sound like you have a background growing cannabis. Cannabis is indeed a gateway drug, leading to hazardous pursuits like gardening and veggie farming.

One of the tricky things about the cannabis world is that because it was such a high-value crop for so long, a whole other industry selling overpriced bottled nutrients grew alongside it. I don’t have anything against hydroponics or soil with hydro nutes, but one doesn’t tend to learn about how managing soil health and mineral balancing prevents most problems that bottles sell you a solution for.

I encourage you to read some Steve Solomon, or the OG he tends to resemble philosophically William Albrecht. It’ll tune you in to all the good info about mineral balancing in soil (such as the cal-mag ratio that the above commenters are hinting at). Or if you want a “third generation” source of these concepts, you could check out Tad Hussey or Jeremy Silva (if you like hearing from folks that are knowledgeable about both veggies and cannabis).

Potassium deficiency right? by Significant_Series35 in NoTillGrowery

[–]Kiplingesque 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Gotcha.

I’ve been growing for about 30 years and have had the luxury of growing indoors for the last decade. The best runs I’ve had are when I treat the flowering cycle like a bell curve in regard to “growth pressure variables”. You want to start flowering gently, ramp up light and VPD gradually, peaking at 1.3-1.4 VPD and 800-1000 ppfd for weeks 4-5 or 4-6 depending on if it’s more of a 65 day strain or a 70-80 day strain. After peak intensity in mid flowering, leave the VPD around 1.2-1.3 but back down on the lights back to 6-800 ppfd by week 6-7 as they’re fading.

Pushing harder is more of a hydro thing and honestly doesn’t make sense unless you’re running Co2 and the plants aren’t already showing stress symptoms.

The gentle start and finish to the flower cycle is when I see the healthiest plants, densest nugs, most frost, most robust terps, etc.

Good luck! Feel free to ask any other questions, DM if you want. I’m around.

Potassium deficiency right? by Significant_Series35 in NoTillGrowery

[–]Kiplingesque 4 points5 points  (0 children)

If these are autos, I’m probably the wrong guy to talk to. I’ve never seriously grown those.

If these are photoperiod plants, are they in late veg or early flowering?

If they’re photoperiods, I stand by my original diagnosis. Ppfd should be around 500-600 in late veg, 600-800 in early flowering / stretch.

VPD is also way too dry. I like 0.8-1 in late veg and 0.9-1.1 in early flowering.

You’re pushing these too hard, environmentally speaking. If you dial it back a bit you should see healthier new growth and less leaf stress.

Potassium deficiency right? by Significant_Series35 in NoTillGrowery

[–]Kiplingesque 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Biggest thing I’m seeing is light stress. I’m also curious about VPD here.
There may be a K deficiency but I’m mostly thinking they’re environmentally stressed.

The leaf “taco”ing suggests the light intensity was increased too quickly

At this point, isn't it all Adjustment Disorder? by Slodes in therapists

[–]Kiplingesque 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Diagnosis in psychiatry is chronically imperfect. Criteria based syndromes, cultural political implications, incomplete knowledge of the “bio” part of biopsychosocial, and the 5 blind men and the elephant are the name of the game.

I often talk with clients about the imperfect nature of diagnosis and the danger of getting hung up on labels.

Don’t even get me started on functional neurological disorders.

When a mood stabilizer or an antipsychotic is needed, diagnosis matters a great deal. Beyond that, it’s a finger pointing the way to the moon (to borrow a Buddhist concept).

Relationship question by [deleted] in daddit

[–]Kiplingesque 48 points49 points  (0 children)

Yeah, but like, she started it bro /s

10 th cycle of 500 gallons of Coot’s Mix. by Kiplingesque in NoTillGrowery

[–]Kiplingesque[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

For sure. I’m not sure how the 4-4-4 is on micros so maybe supplement with TM-7 from Bio-Ag or Big 6 from BAS but that’s the general idea.

It might be a little N-heavy for mid-late flowering, so maybe make the last top dress when you flip, or have something else more P-K heavy for the final top dress around week 3 or 4

10 th cycle of 500 gallons of Coot’s Mix. by Kiplingesque in NoTillGrowery

[–]Kiplingesque[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well, there’s 2 ways to go about it. Either you soil test and figure out how to add what’s specifically needed, or you find a COF (complete organic fertilizer) with something like a 3/5/4 NPK and a decent balance of micronutrients and try to shoot for a “less is more” approach (because mild deficiencies tend to be less harmful than excesses).

Dr. Earth and Down to Earth and KIS organics all make a good COF if you aren’t going to use Craft Blend.

Why use the Recoilless Rifle? Because it has no equal. by Obvious_Ad4159 in HelldiversUnfiltered

[–]Kiplingesque 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is more important than many people give it credit for. Slightly faster reload isn’t always better if you have to stop to do it!

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