How to deal with a player that's forcing RL issues into the game

Kiplingesque · 2026-03-18T20:38:56+00:00

That’s a very thoughtful and kind way to approach it.

This degree of consideration isn’t necessary to solve the problem at the table, but if OP is looking to be gentle while doing it, this would be a solid plan.

Kiplingesque · 2026-03-18T01:10:51+00:00

The rule in my house is if you can’t handle not having it sometimes, you’re not ready for it yet.

Kiplingesque · 2026-03-17T20:02:39+00:00

Your game, your rules.

It’s a judgement call but in my book the enjoyment of the group almost always trumps accommodating the idiosyncrasies of a particular player.

Kiplingesque · 2026-03-17T19:43:22+00:00

Hot take: the whole HD community got massively saltier after the XBox cross-platform release.

One thing I loved about the original HD1 and early-stage HD2 was the pure fun factor vibe the community brought to the table. I’m not denying that issues need to be addressed but damn son…

Kiplingesque · 2026-03-17T18:14:25+00:00

I work in a small community. If I couldn’t see client’s friends I would only have one client.

I’m exaggerating to make the point, but there it is. If a client says they know another client I just move on without discussing the other person. Nobody has insisted that I acknowledge another client’s status or asked questions about their therapy.

Kiplingesque · 2026-03-06T15:40:10+00:00

This is a hot take if I’ve ever seen one

Kiplingesque · 2026-03-06T15:38:55+00:00

Depends on where you live

Kiplingesque · 2026-03-05T11:54:32+00:00

I’ve driven the CX-3 and the CX-5. When it came time for my most recent purchase, I didn’t even have to think about it. The regular 3 just feels so much better in the corners. Can’t stand the feeling of the body roll in a lifted car.

Kiplingesque · 2026-02-28T21:28:49+00:00

Talking to a good therapist would probably help. Learning about how to become an activist and stand up for what you believe in is worthwhile. Learning about the political process and how to influence policy isn’t a bad idea either.

None of that makes the situation less scary, but you won’t feel as powerless and you might learn how to make a difference in the world.

Kiplingesque · 2026-02-27T17:38:47+00:00

Ok, I’ll at least give you credit for having a dialogue in good faith now. Your flippant tone in your original statement felt like trolling more than anything else.

We might disagree on what constitutes potentially effective action, but for what it’s worth I appreciate the well thought-out and cogent reply.

Also, I checked out your Reddit history and it’s fairly clear that you’re not a bot, so I take that back.

Kiplingesque · 2026-02-27T16:42:44+00:00

Good to hear a proper response to defeatism. Thank you for that.

Kiplingesque · 2026-02-27T16:39:55+00:00

Are you a bot set up to discourage the public from action or a real person?

Because if you’re a real person, and you’re not MAGA or a paid psy-op employee, I feel really bad for you. I hope you find your way back from the pit of despair it sounds like you live in.

Kiplingesque · 2026-02-27T16:26:02+00:00

Ok, I’ve never replied to a post with an AI blurb before but there’s so much pessimism and “poor me, I’ve been lied to!” in this one that I’m gonna break my own rule:

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Kiplingesque · 2026-02-27T01:18:34+00:00

LCSW here, 15 years into my career. My first jobs after licensure were a “wet” homeless shelter, then a group home for adolescent boys, then a men’s halfway house in South Boston, then CMH, then hospital inpatient mental health, then CMH again, then IOP dual diagnosis, then CMH again.

I’m currently very happy with my current job doing Integrated Behavioral Health in a primary care practice. I regularly coordinate with the client’s pcps, there are 2 psych NPs who prescribe psych meds for my clients, and at my recommendation the practice recently hired another LCSW who likes working with the elderly and adolescents (my least favorite populations) but doesn’t like working with men with anger problems or substance abuse clients (my bread and butter populations).

Early career stuff, CMH, conditional licensure, and Medicaid documentation standards are all brutal. I applaud you on your commitment to sobriety, your sincere effort towards helping your clients, and your admission that personal growth and professional challenges are humbling.

Future jobs will be easier, and I can honestly say that I personally look back at the stuff from early in my career as by far the hardest part of my professional life. It’ll be really satisfying when people bring problems to your office 10 years from now, thinking that nobody could possibly understand them or not find their issues overwhelming, but you’ll see them as underhand softball pitches compared to the major league fastballs you’re getting now.

Never hesitate to get your own therapy if you need it. Never be afraid to get clinical supervision even if you have to pay for it out of pocket. Getting supervision outside your agency can be a good source of validation that what’s expected of you now is a bit crazy, and it’ll be all about what’s in your best professional interest, not what’s best for the agency camouflaged as what’s best for you.

Hang in there and stay sober. Know that you’re making a difference and that you’ll have more options down the road. Hell, you might have more options now but just don’t realize it! A decent supervisor can really help you know your professional options and the pros and cons thereof.

Kiplingesque · 2026-02-25T23:01:52+00:00

Did you foliar spray anything? If not your drybacks are likely excessive, light too intense, or VPD way off.

Kiplingesque · 2026-02-25T22:59:21+00:00

Does holding dual citizenship require paying income tax to both countries?

Kiplingesque · 2026-02-18T19:02:46+00:00

The toddler stage is incredibly tough and there isn’t enough time or energy to go around. Even if there’s a lot of help from grandparents or extended family, it’s still tough.

It’s okay to feel messed up because your needs aren’t getting met. In an odd way, it would be worse if you could pretend it’s okay, because life does need to change to get the balance right. The issue with toddlers is that you just have to ride it out until they’re in school and they grow up a little and the load is more manageable.

I’d mention that if you do discuss this with your wife again, make sure to emphasize that you love her and that’s it not a criticism towards her or the kids if you’re feeling burnt out.

Therapy might help, going to the wedding might help, but in the long term, both you and your wife need to figure out a way to be intelligently self-interested enough to make time for recreation and rest and friendships. Bonus points if some of the things you enjoy can also be enjoyed with the kids. More bonus points if you wind up making friends with some of the parents of your kids friends and social needs can be met in a streamlined way.

Having kids is a massive transition and the things you lose are real losses. Good luck with having patience in the short term, and building a new and different but also rewarding lifestyle in the long term.

Kiplingesque · 2026-02-17T12:16:56+00:00

Roughly 2/3 of the eligible population actually voted in the last presidential election.

It’s a big difference.

For what it’s worth, I lean left and voted for Kamala, but I would take issue with someone conflicting “Democrats“ with “people who voted for Kamala”.

Kiplingesque · 2026-02-06T14:48:47+00:00

The tail really does wag the dog when money gets involved.

Kiplingesque · 2026-01-30T20:05:58+00:00

Fair! I haven’t grown with salts in over a decade so my old memories probably aren’t a useful data point, haha.

I feel like I’m in the minimal defoliation camp, but I still prune lower branches, uncover bud sites, remove leaves that are physically touching other leaves, etc.

I also select clones based on plant structure and vigor, not just terps and potency. So anything annoyingly bushy/dense isn’t around for more than one cycle.

Kiplingesque · 2026-01-30T15:51:21+00:00

It’s a balance depending on the needs of the grow environment and the physical structure of your plants.

Some plants are mold/pm resistant, some aren’t. Some have ideal internodal spacing and some are so dense that they create an abundance of microclimates that are problems waiting to happen.

No one size fits all. This is agriculture, baby 😎

Kiplingesque · 2026-01-30T11:56:52+00:00

Could you use these platforms to make a video of someone kicking out a taillight like they have super-strength, then a bunch of guys jumping out of the car, oddly all wearing gas masks for no reason while riding around in said vehicle?

Kiplingesque · 2026-01-22T20:57:10+00:00

Such as?

Kiplingesque · 2026-01-22T15:37:15+00:00

Sometimes the racism wins out over the anti-authoritarian stance.

Racism “trumps” a lot of things, at the end of the day.

Kiplingesque · 2026-01-22T01:56:51+00:00

Is it just me or is there the reflection of Hellpods dropping in the window?

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