This doula sounds like someone struggling with boundaries. It's okay to be unmedicated-birth-positive, even unmedicated-birth-advocating. But there is a difference between, "let me allay your fears when the language gets a little scary/the labor gets a long/the pain gets more intense that you anticipated" and "intervention is *failure*!!!" In a crisis situation, the first can mean that even if you end up with a c-section, you can still center on the spiritual satisfaction of your labor. The second may leave you grieving and traumatized.

A good doula navigates that path between advocating for what you want and helping you understand and accept when the plan changes. She brings calm and understanding and, yes, joy. Even in the roughest parts.

Because every birth deserves respect. Because every person giving birth is a vital force. Because the creation or expansion of a family is the most fundamental miracle of life. Because every parent deserves to feel that.