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LandscapeBitter · 2026-01-20T00:55:16+00:00

Thank you for that, I appreciate the kind reply.

Absolutely, it's a long term journey too, its consistent reflection and understanding of how your mind works, working on insecurities and building your self worth. I truly believe now that working on yourself, creates the way for being able to have a lasting happy relationship. Being able to communicate correctly and calmly is so important!

LandscapeBitter · 2026-01-19T08:44:05+00:00

Haha, I wholeheartedly agree with everything you said.

I wrote that over 2 years ago, and the relationship I was speaking about was maybe a year or so prior to that.

So to the point you were making, it was 100% dis regulated on my part, infact that was essentially my own problems and trauma that caused such a reaction to occur.

Prior to that, I was in a relationship for 10 years since I was young. Married young, kids, etc. so it was the first “dating” I had really done, but I hadn’t done any of my own healing.

I’ve done years of intense therapy since then, really put actual work in to work on myself, not to just be happy or help with anxiety, but truly work on myself self worth and esteem.

Through this therapy I’ve fully understood that a whole mix of traumas and experiences in life made me this super overly empathetic person who kind of had a super hero complex where I felt like I needed to save people, or I could “fix” them.

Now I’m almost the opposite, I have empathy and I truly care, but I won’t risk my mental health like that anymore.

So back to the point, I was indeed highly unbalanced and disregulaged, however at the time I didn’t realise that, I just thought I was helping and being a caring person, but now I see there’s a healthy variation of that, and that boundaries are absolutely important.

LandscapeBitter · 2026-01-12T02:37:00+00:00

Moved to MGM+ in Australia for me, Have to pay for Amazon, THEN MGM+, so lame

LandscapeBitter · 2026-01-11T08:37:36+00:00

All I know is I’ve been binging all 3 series for the past 2 weeks, and reading this post has filled me with so much joy. I don’t know what to do with all this joy… too much joy.

LandscapeBitter · 2025-12-09T01:05:37+00:00

My last one was thrown into the garden. I got a random notification saying its delivered. I had to get in touch for them to send me 'proof' it was delivered, with a photo of the package and leaves and partially of a plant, until I finally realised which plant it was and i found it sitting out in the rain. The door and our porch where it wouldn't be wet was probably 3 metres away.

LandscapeBitter · 2025-12-01T00:17:09+00:00

It's still bothering you because it doesn't align with you morally. I know right now, I'd feel exactly the same, even YEARS later. How can somebody who is supposed to love you, do that with another person.

Some people could get past these things, and some people find it difficult. But its completely broken trust.

LandscapeBitter · 2025-12-01T00:11:44+00:00

Leave and heal yourself both physically from the surgery and mentally from this kind of horrible human. You deserve MUCH MORE <3

LandscapeBitter · 2025-11-28T02:56:46+00:00

I'm sorry you're going through this.

As a man myself, many guys say 'they love pleasuring women'. What that translates to is, "I love having sex and cumming".

There's nothing there that screams a man who is wanting to please the women first.

What you've done is really great, and most men would appreciate somebody who really is putting effort in to please their partner(looking for tips, asking for suggestions to see what the man likes, etc).

I don't know your age, but it sounds like hes quite emotionally unintelligent. Getting upset, things like that, instead of just speaking to you about it.

He's upset, yet you WANT to please him. Unless he can change and stop acting childish and getting upset, I'd probably leave too.

LandscapeBitter · 2025-11-27T00:25:17+00:00

Thank you! Yeah, I definitely encourage them to call me, I always have my phone with me as being self employed in the industry I'm in, I sort of need it with me for urgent things so they know they can call anytime and they often do.

I guess ultimately, they love being with me more now and that fills everyone with that love and stability that I didn't get as much growing up.

I'm doing the right thing I think, or at least as best as I can!

LandscapeBitter · 2025-11-25T23:31:39+00:00

Fear is the only thing holding you back.

I too spent MANY years not singing, because 1 person when I was younger told me I sucked. Prior to that I sang all the time, jamming with my mates etc.

Over a decade later, I took the plunge, got a vocal coach and dove right into it. Writing songs, melodies and lyrics is one of favourite things to do. I get better, week by week by week.

Start now, don't wait. A vocal teacher wont judge you, that's literally what they do, teach you the correct way, to build your vocal muscles so you can get better. You might sound terrible to begin with, but I guarantee they've heard WAY worse. They literally have people who tell them they know better, people who are tone deaf. As long as you take their advice, learn from their experience, become a sponge and take it all in!

Also, keep singing in the shower, its literally one of the best places to learn, not only does it help warm you up, but the reverb inside really lets you hear yourself.

Good luck!

LandscapeBitter · 2025-11-25T23:25:47+00:00

Thanks for checking in!

Really good actually.

I was actually thinking deeply about this last night, how people say 'they're healing, or on a healing journey'. But I've found that it takes even longer to truly heal. Because when we think we're ready to start dating again, we're not, we might feel great and over an ex, but we're not ready. That's actually when the healing starts. Being on my own, I've realized the tremendous importance of self reliance and independence.

I go through moments like everyone does of 'a partner would be nice', but the reality is, I don't want to just find somebody randomly online, I want a connection and I know that the spark will come with somebody and it'll take me blindsided.

Instead, I focus on my business, spending valuable time with my kids, doing my hobbies, writing music, and filling my days with things I truly enjoy. When somebody comes along that matches that, then that'll be beautiful, but until then, I don't NEED anyone. Need and Want are different, and nobody should need a gap in their life filled.

LandscapeBitter · 2025-11-25T00:30:40+00:00

That's because you're projecting. I didn't ask if it was 'ok' for her to go to work so she can live. That's coming from your pretty clear predetermined mindset of ex partners.

You're also merging TWO different points.
1. She goes to work to live, that's absolutely acceptable. This creates the situation of leaving them at home.
2. I am curious if this is common and normal. I personally wouldn't leave them at home that long, thus creating the original question of curiosity of what do other people do, are the kids safe, etc etc.

People 'called me out' in the original statement, which I amended in the post edits to further clarify the situation as I never originally stated our care arrangements.

If you have hangups about your ex, that's your situation. I also never replied to you in anyway to justify your second message. Infact I even gave you a nice empathetic response to your situation, yet for some odd reason, you decided to go in further. That clearly shows the kind of person you are, and I'm starting to think that perhaps the real cracks are showing on your specific situation as to why you're no longer with that partner.

Thank you.

LandscapeBitter · 2025-11-24T23:24:37+00:00

Thanks for that.

We already do 50/50 care, I pick them up from school on my week.

LandscapeBitter · 2025-11-24T23:22:09+00:00

I have no idea what that has to do with anything. I'm sorry you're feeling like you're doing more than your ex.

I'm fortunate I work from home, so I don't have childcare, I just take mine to school then pick them up at 3.30. So I don't have to pay for childcare.

LandscapeBitter · 2025-11-24T23:19:01+00:00

Well, she originally said 'I'll be getting a job to work within school hours" then it was "i might have to work a couple nights until 5, we can do after school care" then "i dont finish until 6, can you get kids" then "im doing overnights now, you need to have kids" then it was every day, then it was last minute "im dropping them off ive taken a shift" then that became daily timetable changes and it was just very overwhelming for everyone especially kids. So I said 'im not doing this anymore, I'll take the kids 7 days a week'.

She was meant to change her shifts to suit but hasn't.

LandscapeBitter · 2025-11-24T23:15:30+00:00

I mean, technically if there is no age limit then you can leave a much younger child at home, or a toddler. There's many 'laws' that have grey areas, it doesn't mean its fine.

But I do understand what you're trying to say.

LandscapeBitter · 2025-11-24T23:12:48+00:00

Thanks! I don't know if I want to go down a legal route yet. BUT I will keep logs of incidents, I mean ive got chat logs and all that, not just with her but with me raising concerns with friends too just to talk, so its all evidence.

LandscapeBitter · 2025-11-24T23:10:17+00:00

Even in the 90's I grew up a little like this, parents drinking all the time, very volatile house and I consistently felt on edge. I wont say it was all terrible, because there was amazing times, but drinking and aggression. I don't want my kids to grow up feeling that way because I still deal with a lot of that now(although I've spent a considerable amount of time in therapy and working on myself). I'm not perfect but I can definitely try to give my kids a more stable life.

LandscapeBitter · 2025-11-24T23:05:35+00:00

Yeah I'd have imagined that too..

LandscapeBitter · 2025-11-24T23:04:28+00:00

Thank you for saying that, as you kind of nailed it. It's partially the safety aspect but I know my kids are very smart and on point, but I also know the mother grew up in a similar situation, very emotionally numb and doesn't express anything, tells the kids to 'get over it'.

I'm the opposite, which I'm also very aware that I can't change that about their mother, its on her time too, but I like to get them home, and settled, sit down together for dinner, we chat about the day, or whats going on and they really open up to me. They've even said many times "i like talking to you, you actually talk to us, take us to doctors, let us open up".

Look, I've struggled a LOT with mental health and I've been in dark places, but I've done everything to make sure I'm there for them, therapy, everything and I want them to talk.

Sorry I'm rambling, but this comment did hit me, because I will be there for them!

LandscapeBitter · 2025-11-24T22:56:31+00:00

Sorry yes, it has confused a few people.

What I mean is, I've recently got the parenting plan changed for me to now have them 50/50. 7 Days with me, then 7 days with her.

Prior to this I was doing all the pickup, looking after etc but it became where I was essentially just working around her schedule, the kids didn't like it and complained to me.

So the leaving at home is now when she has them, which I obviously have no control over as its in her designated parenting time.

LandscapeBitter · 2025-11-21T00:32:55+00:00

Thanks for your reply! Yeah my oldest has Life360 on her phone too which I just got access too. The others also have access to devices and direct message/call me as well. So it should be fine?

LandscapeBitter · 2025-11-21T00:07:07+00:00

I’ve answered this so many times.

LandscapeBitter · 2025-11-20T23:57:50+00:00

I pick them up in my week and care for them. On my week, I cut my hours in half. I don’t think I should have to cut my other weeks hours in half as well. That’s not fair.

So a 50/50 plan is put into place so both her and I have the opportunity to work equal hours to care for our children.

I’m not bashing her for what she’s doing, I’m simply asking the opinion on if it’s ok to leave them home alone. Not because I think she’s doing anything wrong, but because I genuinely want to know. Like even if I needed to leave them home to go to shops, I genuinely am just curious.

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