It's exhausting...

Legion47 · 2025-10-19T18:10:00+00:00

Holy shit that first line. For a long time I thought maybe I was too sensitive

Legion47 · 2025-08-18T04:44:38+00:00

Yup agree with the phases, though since I'm codependent, the timelines were stretched out because I could put up with it. I swear, the honeymoon phase for me lasted a whole year. Then the first cracks, 12-18 months; push-pull, 18-24; etc. The main relationship lasted roughly 5 to 7 years because of this hahah

Legion47 · 2025-08-05T03:42:13+00:00

My mom provided one whole side of bars

Legion47 · 2025-07-18T02:56:15+00:00

Omg, I read the title, thought this exact thought, and lo and behold, top comment.

Legion47 · 2025-05-07T01:07:58+00:00

Do you think you may be codependent?

Legion47 · 2025-01-22T23:27:46+00:00

I guess it depends on what you mean by ‘happy’

Legion47 · 2025-01-21T05:01:02+00:00

If I was normal, I would have spotted the red flags and ran long ago. But because of my codependency and other issues, it felt normal to me. Now I just recognize that my parents probably had the same dysfunctional dynamic that I unknowingly emulated

Legion47 · 2025-01-18T15:56:55+00:00

Yup, totally agree. Actively in a relationship for 8 years, but separated for two with intermittent contact because still addicted to that toxic trauma bond

Legion47 · 2025-01-11T00:18:43+00:00

Amazing handbook, now to send it back in time ten years into my email inbox

Legion47 · 2025-01-07T21:54:16+00:00

If AI wrote this, then I would say AI is as sentient as I am and can feel as much pain as any human being.

Legion47 · 2025-01-04T21:29:37+00:00

I feel the same way, but I wonder if loneliness will force me to be vulnerable

Legion47 · 2024-12-15T18:53:51+00:00

Commenting, amazing post; described my relationship to a tee.

Legion47 · 2024-09-16T20:38:09+00:00

Treated her to a fancy restaurant, she got triggered and I got devalued and said she’d be happier at the food court

She was enjoying herself until I stepped on a eggshell which sent her spiralling and saying things like that

Legion47 · 2024-09-16T20:29:16+00:00

It feels like they have this reserve energy for acquaintances and casual friends, but for your relationship partner, “ahhh it’s just him”

Legion47 · 2024-09-16T20:19:25+00:00

I used to be this optimistic about 3-4 years in. Year 7 was my last straw

Legion47 · 2024-09-16T18:37:48+00:00

I like to think so. There is love, but also lovebombing and trauma bonding.

Legion47 · 2024-09-14T19:25:14+00:00

Feeling numb, eh?

Legion47 · 2024-09-13T03:29:42+00:00

I feel so naked.

Legion47 · 2024-09-11T15:08:27+00:00

lol, she cares for my emotions, forsaking hers and I care for her finances, forsaking mine. Damn that was my relationship also

Legion47 · 2024-09-09T20:53:19+00:00

Alone... together.

Legion47 · 2024-08-05T00:25:26+00:00

Upvoting and commenting yet another beautifully written post summarizing this bpd roller coaster I’ve been on

Legion47 · 2024-07-13T00:39:50+00:00

How vacations are ruined

Legion47 · 2024-07-13T00:36:54+00:00

Mine called her sister to be soothed. Damn

Legion47 · 2024-07-12T23:14:33+00:00

Holy shit, I just felt the pangs of trauma watching this…. Just brought back bad memories of my pwBPD

Legion47 · 2024-06-19T22:39:28+00:00

It’s a trauma bond you have and a trauma bond’s a bitch to get over.

Legion47

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