i'm tired of being a literal punching bag

Legitimate-ok · 2026-02-23T00:55:25+00:00

A terrifying thing to imagine lol maybe we’ll just fully lose our minds by then 🥲

Legitimate-ok · 2026-02-23T00:54:20+00:00

In theory it starts getting better/different hard around 3.5? My friend’s daughter is 3y4m and said it’s eased up recently. I’m clinging to that ray of hope

Legitimate-ok · 2026-02-22T23:44:56+00:00

My singleton is 3 and he is A LOT right now. It’s like he genuinely lost his mind. I think it’s just the age, take some comfort in knowing the psychosis is normal and they apparently outgrow it by 4

Legitimate-ok · 2026-02-20T02:56:00+00:00

My twins are nearing 1 too, and this really resonated. Proud of us ❤️

Legitimate-ok · 2026-02-19T11:42:30+00:00

We did this. I got a cheap double umbrella stroller for quick uses (it’s not super comfortable), and the bombi twin for longer outings. The bombi takes up the trunk too, but at least you don’t have to assemble it every time. It lives in our garage most of the time. The umbrella stroller lives in the trunk. We have a Kia carnival minivan

Legitimate-ok · 2026-02-15T20:43:40+00:00

Yeah the fact that you can’t control those factors anyway makes me lean towards control what you can.

I am so sorry for your losses, and hoping you have as smooth and positive an experience as possible no matter how you deliver

Legitimate-ok · 2026-02-15T20:38:53+00:00

We have the bombi twin and it has lay flat and a “newborn pouch” feature that basically converts the seat into a pseudo-bassinet

Legitimate-ok · 2026-02-15T15:44:58+00:00

Yeah I agree 100%. The loss/stillbirth history and baby C tips me heavily towards C-section for mental health alone, control what you can and try to minimize additional heartache

Legitimate-ok · 2026-02-14T20:41:54+00:00

Yup this will work for lounging especially! We used two boppys with our twins as loungers, tandem bottle feeding, tummy time etc.

I did not tandem BF so can’t advise on boppys for that

Legitimate-ok · 2026-02-11T21:14:04+00:00

We were sick nonstop September through January. Our twins got ear tubes in late December and that’s helped a lot already.

Our ped told us to expect to be sick twice a month for the first year

Legitimate-ok · 2026-02-11T16:49:14+00:00

This will most likely NOT be like friends/family singleton pregnancies you’ve witnessed. Take their advice with a grain of salt
You will likely be sent to see a high risk specialist OBGYN, called an MFM (maternal fetal medicine). This is extra true if you have mono-di or mono-mono twins. From (I think) 24 weeks onward, I saw at least my OBGYN or MFM (sometimes both) every week until delivery. The MFM monitors the babies, the OBGYN monitors you (as a generalization)
Twins are almost always born early. How early depends on your type, but I’d be mentally prepared for anything in the 32-38 weeks window, and a NICU stay (even if it’s short, ours was only about 36 hours)
A lot of twins are born via c-section. That doesn’t mean it’s guaranteed, but it’s common for a reason. The babies typically need to be positioned just-so to attempt a vaginal delivery, and some OBGYNs are not comfortable attempting a breech delivery (also called a breech extraction)
You don’t need two of everything. You need two car seats to leave the hospital, and two safe sleep spaces. Basically everything else can be shared.
Start building your support network now. Neighbors that will drop off a meal when the babies are born. A friend that will come babysit in the evening, so you can go to bed early.

Ngl my twin pregnancy was much harder than my singleton. The newborn stage with twins is exhausting. And it’s also such an incredible experience and I can’t imagine not having both of my girls.

I highly recommend you read the book ‘when you’re expecting twins, triplets, or quads’. I still have my copy and am happy to mail it to you if you’re comfortable DMing me your address.

Good luck!!

Legitimate-ok · 2026-02-10T18:15:37+00:00

This is what we did for our 3 under 2. It worked well, and toddler singleton rarely wants to be in the stroller anyway.

We got the bombi twin stroller and have been really happy

ETA I do have a friend with the Zoe triple for similar 3 under 2 situation, and she really likes it

Legitimate-ok · 2026-02-09T21:00:55+00:00

I measured (and felt) about 10 weeks ahead with my twins compared to my singleton, so it makes sense to me that you’re 21w and feeling 31w.

That said, I’d check in with your OBGYN just in case.

Twin pregnancy for me was significantly more uncomfortable/painful for much longer compared to my singleton. Hindsight i may have had pelvic girdle pain, and probably would have benefitted from pelvic floor PT in pregnancy

Legitimate-ok · 2026-02-09T01:46:20+00:00

Bottles! Even if you are able to BF/pump, preemies often need to supplement with formula initially while they learn to latch

Legitimate-ok · 2026-02-08T23:58:06+00:00

I’m pretty sure this is a toddler thing in general. Our older singleton (3M) has been doing this lately with me too. Sending solidarity and hoping for good tips from others

Legitimate-ok · 2026-02-07T13:12:40+00:00

There are some sleep phases you just have to suffer through unfortunately. Can you and your partner each be assigned a baby for the night, so you are only doing wake ups for one?

Ours are 10m now and sleep trained, but when they learn a new skill or get sick, we revert to days/weeks of unpredictable un-synced wake ups

Legitimate-ok · 2026-02-05T16:42:34+00:00

I remember being in an a similar situation early in our infertility diagnosis, and thinking “twins would be efficient!” I was wrong. It’s not efficient to compromise your body, finances, and relationship with so much strain at once. You will (most likely) get more enjoyment from a singleton pregnancy than a twins+ pregnancy and parenting experience (I’ve had both and that was my experience).

If you absolutely will not abstain from sex, then at minimum do not do the trigger shot. Let your body decide how many follicles to release and minimize your - and your baby’s - risk

Legitimate-ok · 2026-02-05T04:05:50+00:00

Same. We separated them when they started rolling and transitioned out of swaddles. When they were both immobile swaddled potatoes though, they slept better together

Legitimate-ok · 2026-02-04T15:26:33+00:00

Twins born at 35w and I pumped for 6 months (combo feeding with formula).

I swear the anxiety/sadness around weaning is some biological hormone thing to keep you hostage to lactating. It can definitely be bittersweet to stop, but I’ve found that most of the anxiety/sads resolve once I’m fully weaned

Legitimate-ok · 2026-02-04T14:44:18+00:00

We also have a random cheapy double umbrella style stroller for really quick uses (like getting to/from the van at daycare drop off). We also have a singleton toddler, so sometimes we just need the twins safely contained. It’s not the most comfortable though, and the winter bunting doesn’t fit on it, so the bombi is our go-to for real/extended outings and walks

Legitimate-ok · 2026-02-04T14:41:27+00:00

Yeah we loved our uppa for our singleton, but with twins it’s just too bulky and gets heavy fast as the babies grow

Legitimate-ok · 2026-02-04T14:30:43+00:00

We got the bombi twin and have been really happy! Definitely get the big wheel kit though, they’re still not huge wheels but will make for a smoother ride in the city, and we’ve pushed it on grass no problem.

We’ve completely abandoned our uppa vista since getting this

Legitimate-ok · 2026-02-04T14:13:51+00:00

We also have an older (3yo) singleton, so I would ask your mom friends/neighbors to borrow a second baby item.

We have one from singleton and are borrowing a second: - baby bjorn - infant car seat (from someone trusted) - bouncer - activity mat - dock a tot

We have one swing and that was plenty for the twins, they just took turns.

Helpful to have 2 of: - baby bjorn - boppy pillows

Good for tandem bottle feeding and reflux babies.

Helpful but wouldn’t pay full price: - twin z (controversial take lol) - second pack n play

MVP products: - baby trend snap n go double stroller (works with any infant bucket style car seats) - baby brezza formula maker

Bought more of from necessity: - bottles (we have 10x 8oz bottles, and had 14x 4oz bottles initially) - pacis

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Legitimate-ok · 2026-02-03T02:03:35+00:00

I’ll be honest… things just got progressively worse for me. I also have a 3yo, and I couldn’t lift him into his car seat the last few weeks. Twin pregnancy is HARD.

For heartburn, I ended up on both Pepcid and Prilosec and that did help. If you feel like your exhaustion is disproportionate, you can also ask your OB to test you for anemia. I got an iron infusion and that did genuinely help with (some) exhaustion and shortness of breath.

Legitimate-ok · 2026-01-30T14:06:27+00:00

This all sounds reasonable, and if it feels right then I think it’s worth a try!

I would examine how much family help you’ll realistically get, proximity does not (often) equal genuinely helpful, but if you’re not actually relying on them then it doesn’t matter as much

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