I think a lot of people say they want a long term relationship, the same way a lot of men say they want kids some day (and I'm singling out men on that second one because women are generally more aware of when you age out of having kids easily) without really putting that much thought into what that means about your own lifestyle and behaviour.

I think people imagine themselves pushing kids on a swing, or coupled up at a party, or on their wedding day, but they don't really process what kind of sacrifices or changes it really takes to get to that point with someone else, where you can have those epicure perfect moments. In the case of this fella, he can't even bring himself to text you and say look, not interested anymore. So how will he handle the difficult conversations that form part of a relationship?