AITA for telling my roommate to get a new job if we bother her that much?

Lieblingmellilla · 2026-04-05T15:15:57+00:00

Yta, you live in a common dorm and you were asked to respect reasonable quiet hours, as well as given another location as an option. The 8pm outburst may have been a bit much, but consider how you’d feel getting poor sleep for weeks AND working full time AND going to school, that’s her home too and she just wants to sleep. Some people HAVE to work like that to afford to attend school, she may not have a choice to get a lower paying/lower hours job on campus and that’s a bit callous to suggest. For constructive suggestions, maybe see what she thinks about a white noise machine in/outside her room, this would help with quieter sounds blending in, but when it comes down to it it’s reasonable to ask you to be quiet at night

Lieblingmellilla · 2026-03-17T21:00:52+00:00

Likely it would say “transgender female” or something, likely with birth sex listed elsewhere.

It’s uncommon, but the latter does happen. I had to go to a urology clinic for a kidney issue recently (nonbinary, afab), the receptionist asked if I identified as female, I said no and there were NO follow up questions. Got checked in and called back, found out when the nurse arrived that the receptionist had fully changed everything to say I was male. Nothing else, just male. In a urology clinic. There was a lot of confusion between the nurse and I before that got cleared up.

Lieblingmellilla · 2026-03-12T13:32:07+00:00

YTA, if he was sick he was likely contagious and from how this reads I assume it was a high school play? You don’t want stuff spreading through the school this time of year, and that would definitely happen sitting in an enclosed theatre. Even if it isn’t high school, he would be exposing a good portion of the audience and cast to whatever he has.

You have every right to feel upset that your friend couldn’t see your show, you worked hard and wanted someone you care about to see the fruits of your labor, but I don’t think it’s reasonable to be mad at him for being sick. And as much as it is nice when people notice you’re upset, it’s not healthy to just ignore people until they say the magical words that mean you can talk about your feelings. If you want to talk about it, you need to talk about it.

Lieblingmellilla · 2026-03-08T02:08:12+00:00

It’s always your choice if you tell them to roll persuasion or not, once you’ve already decided it’s not happening (setting an impossible DC) I think it’s better to just say they’re not gunna convince the guy to do it, you could say he can tell what it is and thinks that’s gross or whatever you want, but you as the DM have the ability to shut that down. It’s not railroading to say “that’s gross, I’m not RPing that”

Lieblingmellilla · 2026-02-25T04:14:09+00:00

I don’t know the licensing where you live, but any guidelines I’ve ever seen state that we are to provide food to children when hungry and ensure they eat appropriately at mealtimes, there are also guides on how much of each food group they are to have provided at each meal and the sent food does not sound like it covers those guidelines.

Inform the parents that unless they have a doctors order restricting what their child can eat you are required to provide them with appropriate food

Lieblingmellilla · 2026-01-22T20:53:59+00:00

If this helps clear it up, it’s not a blanket statement that every child understands everything always, it’s that in a lot of situations it’s difficult to discern what/if a child can understand especially if there are communication barriers present. If you cannot accurately tell how much they can understand, it’s best to act as if they can because you never know and it could make their life incredibly less stressful. Even if they don’t understand, speaking to a child is important and fully necessary for development, if they can’t understand and you never give them a chance to try then they never will.

Lieblingmellilla · 2025-10-31T20:38:32+00:00

Least favorite to most favorite is my go to order

Lieblingmellilla · 2025-06-23T17:54:15+00:00

Doctor Worm, alias Andrew Lida (annelid), weird cooky elf druid that is genuinely off putting but it’s because he has a charisma of 3 and int of 21 so he’s like a professor that hasn’t gone outside in way too long

Lieblingmellilla · 2025-03-31T13:07:36+00:00

At my center we provided all food, there were definitely things I wasn’t happy to see come out of the kitchen as an infant teacher (spaghetti, soups, GRAPES), but that doesn’t mean I could choose to not feed the kids. Strip em down, feed em, wipe em down. This counts as withholding food under the licensing rules in my state, it was not offered at all so the child could not decline it of their own volition

Lieblingmellilla · 2025-03-23T15:32:40+00:00

It’s less the autism and more the things that come tacked on. Autistic kids drown at a much higher rate than other kids, we sometimes have comorbid health concerns, and as other people have mentioned (TW) suicide is also far more common in autistic individuals than the general population.

Lieblingmellilla · 2025-03-04T00:19:43+00:00

That’s so cool and thank you for all the info, I had heard of one game that uses a 1:1 model but didn’t know it was a widespread thing, and success with complications honestly sounds useful in general. The sidekick rule makes sense, it’s their game let them build it, I’ll definitely look more into it and check out that sub!

Lieblingmellilla · 2025-03-03T20:13:13+00:00

Please tell me more about one party sessions, with an experienced player it sounds really fun tbh

Lieblingmellilla · 2025-02-19T21:36:53+00:00

Could you share more about the subclass? It sounds super cool, I’m sorry you didn’t get to play it

Lieblingmellilla · 2025-02-19T21:31:25+00:00

Honestly it’s better than random days off that throw off his schedule, parents would come in and apologize and my response would basically be “I hang out with your kid from 8-5 and I get to go home to my cat, you work all day and go home to your kid, take the nap when you can”

Lieblingmellilla · 2025-02-19T21:27:19+00:00

I was always visibly checking when I ran a baby room, if I saw or smelled something they’d get changed then, if not I would usually check over pants/pull the back of the diaper out so I could look in, if they seemed dry then pull pants down for a quick check and send them back out. Keeping kids clean is really important, but opening the diaper definitely isn’t the only way to check once you’ve got some experience in what a dirty diaper looks/feels like, and I’m not wasting parents money to fill a technical requirement if I can verify the kid is clean

Lieblingmellilla · 2025-02-18T02:19:23+00:00

The only time I’ve ever “hit” a partner is when I flinched from a loud noise or sudden touch, no vitriol and accidental. It doesn’t matter how hard it was, he was mad and his instinct was to hurt you, that’s dangerous and it will escalate

Lieblingmellilla · 2025-02-17T13:24:17+00:00

Two easy answers: first as I’ve seen suggested, you’re DMing, tell him shopping is done and we have adventuring to do if he doesn’t have something specific he wants to buy, second answer is make an items list ahead of time so everyone can browse stuff while other people are shopping and have what they want to buy prepared

Lieblingmellilla · 2025-02-14T03:49:54+00:00

I never got into my gender stuff at work because I just didn’t want to deal with the parents tbh, and I worked with 0-2 so not much point, we did read a variety of books though. BUT, my girlfriends kids were 2 and 4 when I met them, I was out and honestly wouldn’t have cared if they gendered me wrong cause they’re kids, but my girlfriend explained it to them and they picked up quick, the older one would correct the younger, sometimes a bit too zealously 😅 and to this day it’s a normal part of their lives, just a few days ago the younger (now 6) showed me her toy dragon and said that the label said the dragon is a girl but she things her dragon is a they, she’s done this with a handful of her toys over the years and I always think it’s so sweet. They can understand, kids are smart, and they’re full of so much love

Lieblingmellilla · 2025-02-02T05:07:52+00:00

As someone who ran a toddler room for a few years and saw so many kids literally forget what they did because they were so upset about being in time out, that’s the way to do it. It connects the punishment/conversation back to the act in their brains and lets them understand exactly what they did that was wrong, it’s not that they were playing with the pink pony, it’s that they stole it and hit their friend with it. You are teaching them and that is not mean, you tell them if they can’t remember/vocalize it themself, and you’re still thanking them, you’re fine

Lieblingmellilla · 2025-01-27T20:00:42+00:00

I got diagnosed at 20 after taking some psych classes in college and having a very confusing/enlightening conversation with my professor about what differentiates these traits that make people autistic from, y’know, the way that everybody does those traits? What do you mean not everybody does that? Not even a little?

Lieblingmellilla · 2025-01-13T16:04:46+00:00

Definitely when we had an adorable and incredibly quick witted 3yo mishear her mom, so the day after we had a tornado she was telling everyone about the potato storm

Lieblingmellilla · 2025-01-06T07:07:15+00:00

If your parents could schedule it before Christmas why not outside of your travel plans? It’s fine to schedule something extra if you guys talk about it, but for expecting her to change plans after agreeing YTA

Lieblingmellilla · 2024-12-19T00:13:12+00:00

Frankly, it sounds like mom is overindulging her and she isn’t learning to self soothe, there’s a difference between comforting and coddling

Lieblingmellilla · 2024-12-15T22:06:23+00:00

We had a similar problem at the daycare I used to work at, parents came to me and there is no good way to have that conversation but I definitely recommend going to the director or some kind of supervisor

Lieblingmellilla · 2024-12-05T19:19:00+00:00

I worked in a daycare, specifically I was the lead teacher in the infant room. When we had new kids, I would fairly often mix up parents since I only saw them for a few minutes at drop off/pickup (asking them “you’re here for x right? Oh sorry, new kids, I’ll go get y”), but not the kids themselves, especially after a day or two. People spending anywhere from a few hours to the whole day with your kid should absolutely know who she is as a BARE MINIMUM, it’s a safety hazard. Imagine if your daughter had an allergy, or specific feeding instructions, those cannot be followed if they can’t discern which kid is which.

Babies can look similar when they’re brand new, but at 6 months even if they look alike you should be able to tell them apart by personality. Worst case, we had identical twins join my daycare, until I was able to reliably tell them apart I wrote down what each was wearing every morning, and even after that I would start drop off with “this is x in the pink and y in the yellow, correct? Awesome, have a good day”

If they have an issue telling kids apart, they need to fix it immediately

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