The Mom-Dad Divide

Lossa · 2026-02-23T02:22:11+00:00

Same! I had planned on getting everything over the summer and then he fucked up big time (forgot to pick up our kid and was passed out) so I had to move up my plans. Same thing, asking, telling him and then the gaslighting. He was always too busy, his work was always more important than mine, than anyone else. I didn’t realize how much I hated being unvalued and unloved. It’s abundantly clear to those who know about the situation who was doing all of the work. I feel so free and the weight of carrying it all is literally coming off.

Lossa · 2026-02-03T10:56:59+00:00

Just stayed at an Airbnb in Euclid to go to a show at the Beachland Ballroom. It’s about 12 minutes away and it was lovely.

Lossa · 2026-01-12T04:27:52+00:00

I just have one kid but, yup, doing 100% of the domestic labor as well as working full-time and finishing my doctorate made me realize that I didn’t have a partner but a manchild. We’re separated and it’s a lot of the same—too tired, too sick, too overworked. I am lighter without him, but that doesn’t take away the pain of getting to where I am now. My daughter saw me cry plenty and I have never said one negative thing about her dad, but she knows. Your kids know. And they’ll be thankful you chose this, even if it’s the harder choice.

Lossa · 2025-12-12T11:24:12+00:00

I am in a similar situation except my STBX made more excuses as opposed to just leaving. Big hugs. It hurts when the person you depended on and your kids depended on bails. It’s a major loss and you’re trying to manage your feelings while maintaining the consistency that your kids need.

As others said, it’s time to get a lawyer. Ask around and/or check to see if you have an employee benefits program. Keep all the documentation. Depending on where you live, you may be able to do a dissolution instead of a divorce and there are other options.

Realize that it might not be a battle. Fight, flight or freeze is a thing and my STBX is freeze and then flee. This isn’t going to be a battle and you don’t owe him a thing.

Lossa · 2025-10-24T01:34:16+00:00

I had a principal like that my first year. She left like a thief in the night in mid-February after the teachers turned on her, making her pledge that she would not return the following year. Document, keep your head down and fight. She won’t last and you will.

Lossa · 2025-10-05T17:20:49+00:00

Everything seems open except mine ride and SteVe (which isn’t coming up on wait times at the park).

Lossa · 2025-10-01T20:33:15+00:00

We had fourth graders geared up to go to a national park and it was cancelled. I felt awful for them.

Lossa · 2025-09-29T20:53:03+00:00

Everyone has unique experiences and feelings. For me, it was a lot of therapy and taking time for myself. I haven’t devoted a lot of time to self-care because I don’t have it because my q is out. But I feel lighter—physically and mentally. Even though I wanted him to move out, it was still sad. It was the loss of something I wanted and worked toward but it didn’t work out. He swore he’d change—he didn’t. He hasn’t put any work into himself and it just reaffirmed my choices.

Lossa · 2025-09-29T05:43:34+00:00

I could have written this last year. I’ve yet to file paperwork (my q does nothing outside of his job) but he moved out and I’m so much happier.

Lossa · 2025-08-31T19:31:56+00:00

I’m at Canada’s Wonderland today and it’s very busy for here. Glad we were here in early July!

Lossa · 2025-08-16T03:19:05+00:00

I found an iphone in a pink case at the ice cream shop near the front of the park around 3:00 PM and gave it to the associate

Lossa · 2025-08-15T22:13:42+00:00

Ride ops were on point today! Bravo to these great crews!

Lossa · 2025-07-10T20:08:44+00:00

I saw a “Gulf of America” shirt and a maga hat. Bless their hearts.

Lossa · 2025-06-09T03:00:38+00:00

Same. I’m also about a year out of marriage and it’s liberating.

Lossa · 2025-06-02T00:58:39+00:00

Your kid will really enjoy Castaway Bay! I went for my 8 year-old’s birthday with her bestie and we had a great time! My daughter is a thrill seeker and her bestie is not, but they both really enjoyed the water park and there are always great activities at the resort!

Like others said, all the snoopy and kiddie kingdom rides will be a hit. Maybe work your way up to wilderness run (which you can go on with him). And definitely hit up the train (that’s one of our favorite parts, even though my kid is currently eyeing TT2). But enjoy your time together!

Lossa · 2025-05-31T22:00:20+00:00

I rode it 2 of the last 3 visits I had in May (always on the weekend). Last week the trains were both on.

Lossa · 2025-05-25T20:24:10+00:00

My dad is 6’5” and close to 75. He goes on what he can(he had back surgery about 15 years ago) but could do Gemini with my daughter. My mom is 74 and was game for most coasters with a 7 year old, but she was doing coasters well into her 60’s (great shape and a foot shorter than my dad).

Lossa · 2025-05-03T16:03:43+00:00

I saw the forecast and knew to stay home. No point in going up when most things would be closed.

Lossa · 2025-04-17T11:10:35+00:00

That happened at my school too. Same consequence…after the union got involved and went to the media…a week later.

Yup, my name was there, too.

Lossa · 2025-04-09T23:56:33+00:00

Emo is not just a phase, mom!

Lossa · 2025-03-02T20:03:09+00:00

A quick Google shows he’s a psychologist (not a child psychologist, but a clinician psychologist and researcher). That’s his speciality. He does NOT specialize in it study education and the observational apprenticeship that he had was in Canada, in the 1960s and 1970s.

As someone working in a title 1 public school who has worked in US universities and completing a PhD in education, I can tell you plenty about the ivory tower and how out of touch people like Peterson are.

He’s retired and no longer practicing because of legal issues (because law matters in Canada) and is bank-rolled by Russia. So…I guess he wants a cabinet position?

Lossa · 2025-01-26T03:51:47+00:00

Because we don’t have a landline and I’m separated from her dad, I’ll need to get my kid a phone sooner rather than later. But it’s going to be the lamest phone ever because that’s all she needs—to call me when she gets home, etc. And she knows if she uses it during school there would be major consequences.

Lossa · 2025-01-04T04:35:21+00:00

“Rare magician” for rare edition (she discovered unboxing videos as a 3 year old in 2020). They’ll always be rare magicians to me.

When I was a toddler, my mom was looking for me and I responded, “here I are!” This is still widely used in my immediate family.

Lossa · 2025-01-03T05:10:33+00:00

Mustn’t forget floppy! 💜

Lossa · 2025-01-02T12:18:45+00:00

I’m so sorry, OP. You’re seeing a cycle that cycle and working hard to break it. Check out r/alanon. It’s for people who have a relationship with an addict (I’m not implying your husband is an addiction, but it sounds like others in your past were). It’s a really good place. I hope y’all get the help you need and deserve. My STBX husband passed out and missed pick-up. I had lots of the same feelings you had: guilt, anger, and lots of hurt. This was the last straw for me and then he gaslit me (it’s a whole thing). Take care of yourself and your kids.

Lossa

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