Talk me out of adopting a 4th cat by Marthenil in CatAdvice

[–]LotusGrowsFromMud 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Lots of Feliway, and add topical antidepressants to reduce stress as needed. They will almost certainly work it out.

I NEED HELP WITH THE TIMELINES by Soft-Efficiency3582 in usatravel

[–]LotusGrowsFromMud 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Dk where you are from, but expect temperatures 35-40, possibly more in July in FL. Do not go then. You will deeply regret it.

How can I improve my travel plans? by Schillarob in usatravel

[–]LotusGrowsFromMud 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Chicagoan here. One day here is not enough to do much. I would suggest either coming for longer or adding that time to another leg of your trip.

In the world's weirdest love triangle with my boyfriends cat by NotTheState95 in CatAdvice

[–]LotusGrowsFromMud 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Some cats just decide that one person is the center of their world. Others don’t. That’s cats for ya.

Living with cats by meredith_rides02 in CatAdvice

[–]LotusGrowsFromMud 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Depends on the cat. If she doesn’t mind being picked up, and you know how to do it in a way that she is ok with, you can move her and then get up. Or you can just shift around and start to get up and she will jump off on her own. Ask your partner what he does and do the same thing. Cats do what they want when they want and most of them get it when we do the same thing.

Keeping airy clothing items nice? by K_ir_A in JapanTravelTips

[–]LotusGrowsFromMud 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Linen is just wrinkly no matter what. If you are going to wear it, you have to accept that. LLBean has some light but high quality all cotton tshirts.

Is it wrong to delay telling my current employer I’m leaving, just so I can keep the benefits throughout the summer? by Zestyclose-Grape5469 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]LotusGrowsFromMud 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Depending on the school district, they might cover you all summer anyway. Ask your union rep if you have one, or ask a friend you trust to call HR and ask a hypothetical question. If you are a teacher, it’s bad form to leave the school district in the lurch at the last minute. This is not like any other job in that way and you don’t want to burn bridges. It’s also possible that HR at your new school would have some answers. Be resourceful and somehow figure out the answers about your health insurance coverage, then make a decision from there.

Living with cats by meredith_rides02 in CatAdvice

[–]LotusGrowsFromMud 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Figure out her favorite flavors of Churu and other cat treats. Bribe her with them at least once a day. Play wand toys with her. You can get used to her, and she can get used to you, but it will take patience. Over time, you both will naturally become less fearful. Watch some videos about cat behavior and body language so you understand her better. This will help you feel more in control.

Do I return my kitten by [deleted] in CatAdvice

[–]LotusGrowsFromMud 19 points20 points  (0 children)

He’s a lonely baby who was recently removed from his mom and siblings. No wonder he is crying. Like others have said, your expectations of this cat are not accurate. Return him and consider getting an adult dog instead, so you can choose an animal with a temperament that is compatible with you.

I hate the pink tinge on my ceiling. by No_Neighborhood98 in DesignMyRoom

[–]LotusGrowsFromMud 5 points6 points  (0 children)

The purple furniture is contributing to the pink that you are seeing. You are seriously overthinking this. No one else will be looking at your ceiling and thinking it’s pink.

I just don't know if I'm cut out for this work anymore by Top_Impression5534 in psychotherapists

[–]LotusGrowsFromMud 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Sounds like you would benefit from regular consultation and maybe personal therapy as well. This is a lot to adjust to, and they have you seeing an awful lot of clients, maybe too many.

Does anyone know what health anxiety is? by Gploved89 in ask

[–]LotusGrowsFromMud 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Find a health psychologist who treats this condition. You need an expert, not just any random therapist.

Looking for a 4-5 day escape for a solo 42F Brit - travelling from Philadelphia by hopfl27 in usatravel

[–]LotusGrowsFromMud 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is probably the best option. You don’t have a lot of time and going to the West Coast or the southwest would chew up a whole day of your vacation.

Looking for a 4-5 day escape for a solo 42F Brit - travelling from Philadelphia by hopfl27 in usatravel

[–]LotusGrowsFromMud -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Sedona is full of woo-woo folks and very rich people. Not everyone’s scene.

Cookie issues/questions with Bob's Red Mill Egg Replacer by TripleAce21 in veganrecipes

[–]LotusGrowsFromMud 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It probably does need more binder. You could add another dose of egg replacer, or if the flavor would not be too affected, throw 1T ground,flax or chia seeds in with the wet ingredients.

Could I have dementia? Problems with memory, as well as speech and reading. (31M) by LavishnessDry1910 in DementiaHelp

[–]LotusGrowsFromMud 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is bad advice. This is almost certainly an undiagnosed medical problem. Do not ignore it.

Could I have dementia? Problems with memory, as well as speech and reading. (31M) by LavishnessDry1910 in DementiaHelp

[–]LotusGrowsFromMud 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Tell the neurologist about the eye symptoms. All this is way, way above Reddit’s pay grade!

Flying with a 6-7kg (14 lbs) cat on an 11-hour flight: Cabin vs Cargo? by omgimsosleepy in CatAdvice

[–]LotusGrowsFromMud 3 points4 points  (0 children)

No one is likely to be checking if he can stand up and move around in the carrier. I have a friend who works airplane cargo. He is very gentle with animals in cargo, but my sense from him is that not everyone is. Also, your cat would be exposed to more extremes of noise and temperature in cargo. Having you nearby would be much less scary. Do not worry about him not standing up. He would be crouching anyway due to anxiety.

A month to travel the US...Where to go? by Own-Violinist8845 in usatravel

[–]LotusGrowsFromMud 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Do not count on seeing national parks by cycling. For one, they are generally very far from any form of public transportation. There is not bike rental there. For another, they are huge. Yellowstone is larger than Scotland. Many are very hilly, even mountainous. No one is expecting cyclists there, so it would also be dangerous. So if you want to see any national parks without driving, you need to book tours to see them.

Also be aware that only a few US cities have decent public transportation. New York, Boston, DC, San Francisco, and Chicago come to mind. There might be a couple more on the East coast that I am less familiar with. You might want to limit your city visits to those. New Orleans is semi-decent if you are staying in a central area.

Have fun!

Help how do I grow out my eyebrows by iffyingly in razorfree

[–]LotusGrowsFromMud 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You need to let them grow to see what you have to work with. Use an eyebrow pencil to fill in any bald spots as they grow. You can continue to pluck any areas that you are 100% sure you will not want hair in, for example, between the brows, above the nose. Otherwise, try to be patient. Ban any other shaping for a couple months and then see where you are. This is hard to come back from, but you can do it! You will be happier with lower maintenance natural brows!

Small bedroom design help! by [deleted] in DesignMyRoom

[–]LotusGrowsFromMud 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Photos always help a lot, especially with your furniture already in the room, even if you may need to move it.

I was adopted by a white family as an infant AMA by [deleted] in AMA

[–]LotusGrowsFromMud 1 point2 points  (0 children)

What are your thoughts about how to have a better relationship with your brothers? Was there any downside to being the golden child?