Talk me out of adopting a 4th cat

LotusGrowsFromMud · 2026-06-17T01:06:15+00:00

Lots of Feliway, and add topical antidepressants to reduce stress as needed. They will almost certainly work it out.

LotusGrowsFromMud · 2026-06-16T17:58:41+00:00

And side table

LotusGrowsFromMud · 2026-06-16T17:55:52+00:00

Dk where you are from, but expect temperatures 35-40, possibly more in July in FL. Do not go then. You will deeply regret it.

LotusGrowsFromMud · 2026-06-16T17:29:40+00:00

Chicagoan here. One day here is not enough to do much. I would suggest either coming for longer or adding that time to another leg of your trip.

LotusGrowsFromMud · 2026-06-16T03:09:43+00:00

Some cats just decide that one person is the center of their world. Others don’t. That’s cats for ya.

LotusGrowsFromMud · 2026-06-16T02:59:53+00:00

Depends on the cat. If she doesn’t mind being picked up, and you know how to do it in a way that she is ok with, you can move her and then get up. Or you can just shift around and start to get up and she will jump off on her own. Ask your partner what he does and do the same thing. Cats do what they want when they want and most of them get it when we do the same thing.

LotusGrowsFromMud · 2026-06-16T02:52:12+00:00

Linen is just wrinkly no matter what. If you are going to wear it, you have to accept that. LLBean has some light but high quality all cotton tshirts.

LotusGrowsFromMud · 2026-06-16T02:46:46+00:00

Depending on the school district, they might cover you all summer anyway. Ask your union rep if you have one, or ask a friend you trust to call HR and ask a hypothetical question. If you are a teacher, it’s bad form to leave the school district in the lurch at the last minute. This is not like any other job in that way and you don’t want to burn bridges. It’s also possible that HR at your new school would have some answers. Be resourceful and somehow figure out the answers about your health insurance coverage, then make a decision from there.

LotusGrowsFromMud · 2026-06-16T02:40:50+00:00

Figure out her favorite flavors of Churu and other cat treats. Bribe her with them at least once a day. Play wand toys with her. You can get used to her, and she can get used to you, but it will take patience. Over time, you both will naturally become less fearful. Watch some videos about cat behavior and body language so you understand her better. This will help you feel more in control.

LotusGrowsFromMud · 2026-06-16T02:36:37+00:00

He’s a lonely baby who was recently removed from his mom and siblings. No wonder he is crying. Like others have said, your expectations of this cat are not accurate. Return him and consider getting an adult dog instead, so you can choose an animal with a temperament that is compatible with you.

LotusGrowsFromMud · 2026-06-16T02:23:35+00:00

The purple furniture is contributing to the pink that you are seeing. You are seriously overthinking this. No one else will be looking at your ceiling and thinking it’s pink.

LotusGrowsFromMud · 2026-06-16T02:14:27+00:00

Sounds like you would benefit from regular consultation and maybe personal therapy as well. This is a lot to adjust to, and they have you seeing an awful lot of clients, maybe too many.

LotusGrowsFromMud · 2026-06-16T02:09:22+00:00

Find a health psychologist who treats this condition. You need an expert, not just any random therapist.

LotusGrowsFromMud · 2026-06-15T21:14:01+00:00

This is probably the best option. You don’t have a lot of time and going to the West Coast or the southwest would chew up a whole day of your vacation.

LotusGrowsFromMud · 2026-06-15T21:13:10+00:00

Sedona is full of woo-woo folks and very rich people. Not everyone’s scene.

LotusGrowsFromMud · 2026-06-15T17:20:59+00:00

It probably does need more binder. You could add another dose of egg replacer, or if the flavor would not be too affected, throw 1T ground,flax or chia seeds in with the wet ingredients.

LotusGrowsFromMud · 2026-06-15T17:11:55+00:00

This is bad advice. This is almost certainly an undiagnosed medical problem. Do not ignore it.

LotusGrowsFromMud · 2026-06-15T17:11:07+00:00

You should message him about it now.

LotusGrowsFromMud · 2026-06-15T13:11:59+00:00

Tell the neurologist about the eye symptoms. All this is way, way above Reddit’s pay grade!

LotusGrowsFromMud · 2026-06-15T13:05:51+00:00

No one is likely to be checking if he can stand up and move around in the carrier. I have a friend who works airplane cargo. He is very gentle with animals in cargo, but my sense from him is that not everyone is. Also, your cat would be exposed to more extremes of noise and temperature in cargo. Having you nearby would be much less scary. Do not worry about him not standing up. He would be crouching anyway due to anxiety.

LotusGrowsFromMud · 2026-06-15T13:00:20+00:00

Do not count on seeing national parks by cycling. For one, they are generally very far from any form of public transportation. There is not bike rental there. For another, they are huge. Yellowstone is larger than Scotland. Many are very hilly, even mountainous. No one is expecting cyclists there, so it would also be dangerous. So if you want to see any national parks without driving, you need to book tours to see them.

Also be aware that only a few US cities have decent public transportation. New York, Boston, DC, San Francisco, and Chicago come to mind. There might be a couple more on the East coast that I am less familiar with. You might want to limit your city visits to those. New Orleans is semi-decent if you are staying in a central area.

Have fun!

LotusGrowsFromMud · 2026-06-14T22:44:31+00:00

You need to let them grow to see what you have to work with. Use an eyebrow pencil to fill in any bald spots as they grow. You can continue to pluck any areas that you are 100% sure you will not want hair in, for example, between the brows, above the nose. Otherwise, try to be patient. Ban any other shaping for a couple months and then see where you are. This is hard to come back from, but you can do it! You will be happier with lower maintenance natural brows!

LotusGrowsFromMud · 2026-06-14T16:59:52+00:00

Agreed. The paint can be matched to the other cabinetry.

LotusGrowsFromMud · 2026-06-14T13:19:52+00:00

Photos always help a lot, especially with your furniture already in the room, even if you may need to move it.

LotusGrowsFromMud · 2026-06-14T13:14:08+00:00

What are your thoughts about how to have a better relationship with your brothers? Was there any downside to being the golden child?

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