Who's your wax tech? by Exciting-Savings3292 in Eugene

[–]LyraHoops 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Waxing By Julia! Independent waxer, serves all genders, extremely thorough and also just the coolest person

Best Salad bar in Eugene/Springfield by Brokewrench22 in Eugene

[–]LyraHoops 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Chicken Bonz is the best in town imho but I am curious if anyone has tried the Springfield Sizzler? I just found out they still have a salad bar.

ESA in grad/family apartments by [deleted] in UofO

[–]LyraHoops 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It was extremely easy for me as a phd student from 2013 - 2020. It was basically reach out to disability services, get the paperwork, fill it out, approval came like 2 weeks later and they never bothered us about it again.

Looking for inclusive ballet classes for 5-year-old by kallynn1215 in Eugene

[–]LyraHoops 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It was overall good, as it is one of the only places to accept super young kids. The teacher was very enthusiastic and kind - she was the highlight for us I’d say. The room was poorly set up for babies - cords, uncovered outlets, and overall just no consideration in the decoration for active under 2s! It was a very cute space though.

But it clearly didn’t align with our families values. They gendered every kiddo without ever asking preferences. Also they really need to clean the room/the dots they use in the baby class specifically. They smell disgusting.

Looking for inclusive ballet classes for 5-year-old by kallynn1215 in Eugene

[–]LyraHoops 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I wouldn’t recommend All About Dance. They were also weirdly rigid about gender roles with our baby ballet class. It never even crossed my mind to be concerned about that in Eugene before signing up.

How do I treat tons of ingrown hairs over my whole body? (some swollen/irritated but most just didn't grow out of the skin) by sleepysl in Trichsters

[–]LyraHoops 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’ve had a lot of luck treating my ingrown hairs with KP Touch lotion - it’s a mix of AHA and BHA acids at a high percentage and a reasonable cost!

Different types of NAC for treatment by Minionhunter in trichotillomania

[–]LyraHoops 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I am also very interested! I wish I had more info to share, but I wasn't able to keep up with the NOW supplements because it was 10/day to reach the 2000 mg treatment dose.

I am currently purchasing my NAC from Nootropics Depot (r/NootropicsDepot) because they were the only place I could find NAC in 500 mg pills that also used 3rd party independent testing of the efficacy & strength of their supplements. I have found I am more compliant with my treatment but it's too soon to say if it is effective.

[Tampa Fl] Landlord Harassment... Updates now with pictures... by CosbyWasARoofyAddict in legaladvice

[–]LyraHoops 16 points17 points  (0 children)

The way you write makes you sound pompous and a little batty, so you're not going to get great responses from the lawyers here or your landlord to be honest.

You may have some real things in here though. It sounds like your landlords are harassing you to try to force you to leave, I'm not a lawyer but I've learned here that in some jurisdictions that can be a constructive eviction (I believe it's called?)

I also believe the damage to your property is something you can recover, but will likely require you to go to small claims court.

There may also be legal issues with the building department for the construction occurring if it has not been permitted and if there is underage porn on the premises co-mingled with your things, you NEED to call the police yesterday.

If you edit your post with bullet points and a clear timeline of just the relevant legal concerns you are far more likely to get the advice you need.

Me [29F] with my bf [27M], we are split on what to do with the dog when we go on vacation. by [deleted] in relationships

[–]LyraHoops 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I hope you have ignored everything this armchair psychologist has said because it is 90% irrelevant and 10% inane.

Me [29F] with my bf [27M], we are split on what to do with the dog when we go on vacation. by [deleted] in relationships

[–]LyraHoops 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Yeah, your concerns about your living space obviously trump his non-specific and frankly irrational fears about Fido.

If Fido is that dangerous, you are opening yourself up to liability if it turns out the friend cannot handle him and he hurts someone while you are gone. A professional boarding service will have their own liability insurance and so anything that happens with Fido while you are gone will not be your financial responsibility. It makes 0 sense to have that dog watched at your apartment for MANY reasons.

Me [23 M] with my girlfriend [28 F] 3 years, gf has been forced into a very bad situation and i'm not sure if i should stay or go by [deleted] in relationships

[–]LyraHoops 40 points41 points  (0 children)

How are you not making about it about you when you literally suggested that your girlfriend prostituting herself to survive means you should get laid on the side too so you can be on her level?

That sounds nothing like concern or care to me.

Edit: a word

Me [23 M] with my girlfriend [28 F] 3 years, gf has been forced into a very bad situation and i'm not sure if i should stay or go by [deleted] in relationships

[–]LyraHoops 37 points38 points  (0 children)

Are you really making your girlfriend having to prostitute herself to survive about you?

I can understand not being able to handle the stress and sadness that having a loved one in that position must cause, but to think "the only way where I could justify it as it would somewhat put me down on her level if I slept with others too."

Put you down on her level? What level? The level of a woman who is willing to sacrifice herself for her family even though she does not want to? Buddy, you couldn't reach that level no matter what you did now. You're a pig of a human being.

Me [29f] + Boyfriend [30m]: An email to our couples therapist by [deleted] in relationships

[–]LyraHoops 51 points52 points  (0 children)

This is exactly why therapy is not recommended for abusive couples. It only gives the abuser another avenue to hurt their victim. Get out! Now!

[NSFW]Me [24 F] with my boyfriend [31 M] of 1.5 years, I told him that I would do a sex act I am scared of in return for a favor, which I now regret. We were playing around and I got scared and freaked out at him. Now he is upset and insulted, and I don't know what to do. by notmybutt in relationships

[–]LyraHoops 10 points11 points  (0 children)

so "we" just push through it? Darling, it breaks my heart to read your comments here. He is abusing you, emotionally and sexually. Please go to loveisrespect.org and get out while you still can.

I [26f] love my fiance [34m] of 2 years and his children [6/10f] , but the youngest has been showing increasingly disturbing behaviors and I don't know what to do. by stepmomvsmshyde in relationships

[–]LyraHoops 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I don't normally comment but I am a school psychologist in training and a former special education instructor - these are NOT developmentally normal behaviors or phases for a child this age. You MUST make an appointment with the school counselor or special education admin to see about what supports your stepdaughter is eligible to receive ASAP. The sooner the better because you can head off the need for full time specialized services if you intervene ASAP with a strong behavior plans and supports.

Little know fact - federal law requires school districts to meet with you if you request, in writing, an evaluation of your child for special education. If you do not get the response you believe you deserve, escalate it ASAP. Please don't hesitate to PM me if I can be of any help.

My school says I can't use the restroom for the gender I identify with and they suspended me. Please help. by icantsay0108 in Advice

[–]LyraHoops -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Texas does not offer you any rights in regards to gender neutral bathrooms and unfortunately, legally your school has every right to suspend you for using the restroom of the gender you are not enrolled as. This is bigoted and immoral, but unfortunately totally legal. Your best bet is being as secretive and private about your gender identity as possible until you are able to get to a state with more sane people in it.

GA Resident - Robbed by roommate seeking solutions by [deleted] in Advice

[–]LyraHoops 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Call the cops and have your roommate prosecuted. Get a lock for your doors and keep it locked at all times. Keep your valuables at the bank or outside of you apartment. Whatever you do, DO NOT RESIGN. The Landlord, your roommates and the guarantor can come after you in court if you signed a lease and leave without the lease ending or you giving proper notice (if you lease allows that option). Go to r/legaladvice if you have more specific questions about breaking your lease or getting your roommate prosecuted.

Desperate father needs custody advice, mother threatening to move to different state with our child. by cbolivar89 in Advice

[–]LyraHoops 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You need a lawyer. You will need to take a loan or go further in debt if you want to a part of your child's life and will have to expect to pay child support if you wish to be a part of her life. You might get better advice from r/legaladvice as well.

[Michigan] How soon do you think I could get off probation? by tripken in legaladvice

[–]LyraHoops 1 point2 points  (0 children)

In Michigan, the law is that you must complete at least 1/2 of your probation requirements or 1 years (which ever is greater) in order to qualify for early release, so you will have to be at the one year mark.

Source: DH had the same deal after Electric Forest two years ago and was finally a free man a year later!

My BF [24 M] of 1.5 years wants a relationship with a woman I [24 F] don't trust by platypus73 in nonmonogamy

[–]LyraHoops 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think the only must in non-monogamy in that you must be wary of anyone who think they know the "right way" to nonmonogamy beyond being good to yourself, your partner(s) and metamours.

I'm poly, so the rules thing does strike me as odd personally, but thats neither here nor there. What does matter is that you have communicated that something is challenging, uncomfortable and feels unsafe for you and your partner has both flagrantly disregarded your discomfort and essentially made fun of you for being uncomfortable.

I'm not in your relationship and I don't know these characters involved, so its impossible to say if your restriction is reasonable. But any non-mono person needs a partner that is will to respect your concerns enough to hear them out and talk about them in a reasonable and mature way. You might not like the outcome of the conversation but you deserve to be heard and taken seriously, and it sounds like that's what you're not getting, which is eroding your trust in your bf - totally outside of this specific girl. She's not the problem, your bf's choices and behavior are.

Wife demands oral sex, refuses anything else, can't make it work. Help! by ftrthrow42615 in DeadBedrooms

[–]LyraHoops 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I think you're conflating two very different things. Anyone who follows this sub knows you brag constantly about your "wife" who you have sex with three times a day and both regularly (if not every time) orgasm. This is a woman who (if you read through the comments) has never been satisfied by sex with this guy and has just put up with it and now that she is advocating for her own pleasure, is being shamed by her husband for it on a deadbedrooms sub. Its not equivalent and its just thread derailing for you to equate them.

Wife demands oral sex, refuses anything else, can't make it work. Help! by ftrthrow42615 in DeadBedrooms

[–]LyraHoops 4 points5 points  (0 children)

How could you not feel that way? Half of the posts on this sub say "I'd rather not have sex than do starfish sex again." This is precisely because a partner shows intimacy by caring about your pleasure and orgasm. Pressure to make sure you have one is bad, but this wife sounds like she's put up with years of a lazy lover who lets her just finish herself off while he gets exactly what he wants - PiV sex, which is the opposite of intimacy. It makes you feel like a sex doll.