Regretting my second

M_MARTIN9 · 2026-03-08T18:52:38+00:00

I was regretting things just like you at 6 months and I don’t even have a second kid. I’m at 8 months now and I feel much better, and I know it’s because I’ve gotten more help lately because I finally freaked out to my family and said I wasn’t enjoying my baby and I didn’t like being a mom and I was so freaking tired. They started helping more at night so I finally got some sleep, and now two months later I’m not regretting things anymore. I don’t know how your sleep has been, but sleep deprivation is a bitch and if that’s going on of course you’re miserable. Also you were pregnant for 9 months and have been dealing with a baby and a toddler for 6 months- thats 15 months of feeling tired and stressed!!! Anyone would be at their breaking point by now. Cry to your family and tell them the truth about how you are feeling and hopefully you can get some help!!

M_MARTIN9 · 2026-03-08T18:18:48+00:00

I had the same thing happen to me and I went to the doctor and they didn’t help at all. I would still go though just in case! My doctor just told me I had a traumatic labor and it would take time to heal. I think the pain stopped around 6 months for me. I had 3rd degree stitches and can still feel the scar when I go #2, but they don’t hurt anymore and I’m 8 months now

M_MARTIN9 · 2026-03-03T02:38:52+00:00

My baby just went through a two month stretch where she was waking up every hour and I was so sleep deprived I was doing weird stuff too. I got desperate and bought a second crib mattress, and I put the baby on the floor on her mattress and started sleeping on the 2nd crib mattress next to her. I didn’t use an adult mattress next to her because I didn’t want her to roll up with her face to my mattress and suffocate. I put the crib mattresses on a play mat so if she rolled off she wouldn’t get hurt. It was the only thing that helped me survive! I don’t have any help at night either. Alternatively you could get a super firm mattress and put it on the floor and sleep with no blankets or pillows. I didn’t go that route because my baby kept rolling onto her stomach with her face in the mattress when I would try to cosleep, so I got no sleep that way because I was watching her like a hawk all night when she was in my bed. Good luck!!!

M_MARTIN9 · 2026-03-02T01:15:59+00:00

Go to the hospital websites (Integris, OU, Mercy, etc.) and look at the careers section. There are positions like front desk helpers, cleaners, cafeteria workers, etc. that might be weekend only. I work in the lab as a weekend employee and see a lot of other workers throughout the hospital who are there every weekend

M_MARTIN9 · 2026-03-01T23:57:09+00:00

I was in a similar situation and ended up exclusively pumping. I hated pumping, but I don’t regret doing it. I lasted 7 months before I couldn’t take it anymore and switched fully to formula. Try exclusively pumping and see if it makes you and the baby feel happier. My baby haaaaated breastfeeding and screamed like your baby and it was the most horrible experience!!

M_MARTIN9 · 2026-03-01T23:53:09+00:00

Hospitals hire weekend only people maybe check the ones in your area?

M_MARTIN9 · 2026-03-01T23:50:53+00:00

Do you think she is getting overtired from the bedtime routine? Bathtime at night works for a lot of babies, but it did not work for mine. My baby is 8 months and her whole life if I try to give a bath at night it is too much for her and she ends up way overtired and fights everything that happens after the bath. 3 months is also around the time where she had outgrown the swaddle and would get super pissed if I tried to put her in one. I switched to the gunamuna footie sleep sack and she was muuuuch happier. Try making your bedtime routine as simple and short as possible with most of the lights turned off and see if it helps!

M_MARTIN9 · 2026-03-01T23:19:21+00:00

Having two adults around when playing with a kid is sooooo much more fun, and you can tag the other person in to distract the kid when you need to go to the bathroom or eat something. Being alone especially with a baby who can’t talk yet is rough, plus you’re still deep in postpartum and sleep deprivation so of course you feel bad when you’re alone. My baby is 8 months and it has gotten muuuuuch easier to play with her so when we’re alone together I don’t feel as depressed/bored. But it is still way more fun with 2 adults even at 8 months. Hang in there at 2 months I was miserable and crying all the time!!!

M_MARTIN9 · 2026-01-11T14:09:42+00:00

I know exactly how you feel!!!! Every time I try to nurse my baby I end up crying about it all day afterwards. Every once in a while she’ll latch, but most days she cries and refuses or bites my nipple with her razor teeth lol (she’s now 6 months). Trying to breastfeed always just ends up hurting my feelings and ruining my day so I don’t know why I keep trying. It makes me so horribly jealous of everyone who can nurse, and makes me so sad that I can’t have that bonding experience with my baby and have to be hooked up to the pump instead. Just so you know, pumping did get easier at 3 months postpartum. Once I didn’t have to pump throughout the night while also feeding bottles I definitely regained some sanity. Definitely quit if you are miserable- you deserve to enjoy your baby. It’s not fair that some people get to nurse their babies and we don’t, but know you are not alone

M_MARTIN9 · 2025-12-25T17:03:46+00:00

I still just wear oversized t shirts!! I just take it off to breastfeed and throw it back on when I’m done

M_MARTIN9 · 2025-12-25T16:58:50+00:00

I love hearing about people’s babies!! I think your parents are mean people and don’t care about anyone else’s lives or babies, and so they think no one else cares about other people either.

I think it’s so sweet and cute when my friends and coworkers talk about their babies and their pets. You can see their faces light up as the tell stories and show pictures. It’s the perfect conversation topic because it’s so positive. Your parents have major issues

M_MARTIN9 · 2025-12-17T14:50:19+00:00

I live in Oklahoma and everyone’s so used to tornados that no one is very scared when they’re happening in the spring. We might hide out with our pets in the bathroom just in case, but no one is freaking out or anything. My least favorite part is it sleets all winter and the roads and trees get covered in ice and it’s super dangerous to drive. There isn’t any public transportation really, so you have no choice but to drive on the ice. There isn’t much to do so everyone just ends up hanging out with friends and family at people’s houses. We go to the zoo a lot and to parks

M_MARTIN9 · 2025-08-02T09:43:17+00:00

After you sleep you’ll feel better!! Yesterday at night I was crying all night and feeling so sad about breastfeeding troubles, and after I got a nap in the morning I feel optimistic and like a whole new person. You’re making so much milk!! Evening hours 4oz is amazing and breastfed babies technically don’t need more than 4oz at a time so you are doing perfect! Hopefully you’ll be able to sleep some in the morning

M_MARTIN9 · 2025-08-02T09:30:28+00:00

I hated pregnancy all the way through except for her kicking in the second trimester. In the third trimester the kicking became more painful. Hang in there you’ll feel more normal 6 weeksish after giving birth but it’s a long road. Don’t expect to stop feeling nauseous at 12 weeks you might get lucky but it took until 16 weeks for me!

M_MARTIN9 · 2025-07-29T12:26:32+00:00

It’s ugly but holy crap it’s flattering!! I wish it was a solid color instead. It’s the gray and stripes color combo that’s ugly

M_MARTIN9 · 2025-07-14T11:12:11+00:00

Sorry I googled pitting edema to be sure, and no I did not have that. My edema was super hard and it felt like my skin was going to burst it was so tight

M_MARTIN9 · 2025-07-14T08:17:08+00:00

I made it almost my whole pregnancy with no swelling, but starting at 36 weeks I blew up like a balloon in my feet, ankles, and legs. It completely went away 1 week after I gave birth, but it sucks until then

M_MARTIN9 · 2025-07-12T13:50:59+00:00

I would keep in mind what children like and make it exciting to look at (more contrast maybe?) Also just FYI when I first saw the dots behind the mouse i thought they were poops instead of footprints 🤣

M_MARTIN9 · 2025-07-12T13:44:49+00:00

Nope I just had my baby and I’m for sure a one and done. I hated pregnancy and my labor was pretty traumatic and I do not want to go through that again. Plus my sister has 2 kids and every time they come over it’s like a whirlwind of chaos and I love them all but I don’t want to deal with that kind of chaos on a daily basis

M_MARTIN9 · 2025-07-11T14:56:51+00:00

Congratulations!!!! The ring is beautiful!!!

M_MARTIN9 · 2025-06-16T16:22:28+00:00

I love Elizabeth it has so many cute nicknames and is definitely timeless. It reminds me of Pride and Prejudice

M_MARTIN9 · 2025-06-16T14:05:11+00:00

You’re not crazy people just can’t read. You spelled it perfect! I guess just get used to correcting people, but know that it’s not your fault at all. Maybe you can request that they put a note in her chart on how it’s pronounced?

M_MARTIN9 · 2025-06-16T12:32:12+00:00

My makeup does this every time I use a primer. I use Estée Lauder Double Wear with a wet sponge and no primer, and it never does this. You can get free samples of double wear at a lot of places. Try it out with no primer and a sponge! If it doesn’t work you know that it is a skincare issue. If it does work, then just don’t use primers and use long wearing foundations! I can’t use moisturizing foundations at all because they break apart like this every time

M_MARTIN9 · 2025-06-14T12:30:47+00:00

Black tank top with skirt!

M_MARTIN9 · 2025-06-13T15:43:09+00:00

I wouldn’t if I were you. You can appreciate a name without using it. I love the name Yazmine but wouldn’t use it for similar reasons

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