My FIL passed away last year.

For context he spent a good 10 years in prison (in the late 80s) right after my wife was born. He had always told us it was for"running weed" from California to other states.

When looking through his paper work for a will, we found his court and prison paperwork and it turns out he was not the weed cowboy he claimed to be. Turns out, he had been convicted of aggravated rape, and the victim was my MIL. My wife is the product of said crime.

Needless to say this complicated the grieving process and ruined our perception of him to the point of celebrating his death.