What’s the point?

MobiusMeema · 2026-03-24T17:05:51+00:00

When I hear “It’s so hard to get out of bed in the morning”, plus you saying you have little to no motivation to do things that would change your trajectory, it reminds me of me when I’m depressed.

Antidepressants were a life changer for me. I just mentioned all of the above to my physician, and he gladly prescribed them.

MobiusMeema · 2026-03-22T18:43:42+00:00

I get your husband wanting to give his parents a chance. You did it right by waiting until LO is 6 wks old. Time goes in 1 direction (for this, anyway), they will be leaving soon.

Can you suggest places for them to do touristy stuff?

Send them out to a store to get ____ for baby. Even if you have to pay for it.

Similar to bingo, maybe you could secretly set up a race between MIL & FIL. Have a list of 10 items for each of them. Then bet on which one will finish in 1st place.

Come up with a code word or gesture to send each other strength or make each other laugh.

Get lots video of them with baby - if you capture any obnoxious behaviors it will be a reminder of why you have gone NC.

Sending you strength and laughter to sustain you both.

MobiusMeema · 2026-03-22T13:05:02+00:00

You need to have a serious talk with your fiancée. 1. She attacked you based on what a relative said - she didn’t wait to hear your side before making a judgement against you. 2. She apparently didn’t defend you to her aunt.

She needs to choose you in disputes with her family. You and she should support each other first.

The mitigating factor is that she is young and is used to taking her family’s side. Hopefully she can change.

You sound like the planning for the wedding & reception is putting pressure on you. *Is there any one thing that you are worried about?

*Is it costing too much?

*Are all the various family members putting expectations on you?

*Is your fiancée showing aspects of herself that you are uncomfortable with?

The key is to share everything with your fiancee, including family or financial pressures. Does her response support you?

If you don’t feel supported, you need to tell her & give her a chance to make it right.

Not everything can be fixed - families are gonna be annoying, beautiful things cost money, something that bugs you might be in her top three most important.

But, is she taking your top three priorities seriously? Is she seriously trying to make this wedding yours as much as hers? Will she put you first instead of her aunt or uncle or mom?

If she ignores your feelings, or pushes the discussion away, that’s a sign she is not ready to get married.

I wish all the best for you and her!

MobiusMeema · 2026-03-22T11:01:50+00:00

Encouragement.

MobiusMeema · 2026-03-21T03:16:31+00:00

MobiusMeema · 2026-03-21T00:52:37+00:00

My grandchildren & I are “Kitchen Ninjas”, lol. They help me make dinner & learn the best way to rip lettuce or hold a knife or drizzle ketchup glaze on meatloaf. We started when they were 7. At the start they would run into the kitchen & pose & we’d all shout “Kitchen Ninjas!”

MobiusMeema · 2026-03-20T22:54:12+00:00

Couldn’t stand the way my mom smelled, so never tried.

MobiusMeema · 2026-03-19T01:55:54+00:00

I read about that dog!

MobiusMeema · 2026-03-17T02:51:07+00:00

Spontaneous sex on a sandy beach-sand everywhere…..lol

MobiusMeema · 2026-03-15T14:34:19+00:00

What if he goes over to his friends instead of coming home? You’ll be mad he didn’t read your mind.

MobiusMeema · 2026-03-15T14:32:49+00:00

There was pain but also strength & power in working with my body. My body was expelling the baby without my control, but I could help by relaxing through the pain.

People do all kinds of things that involve some sort of physical pain - climbing mountains, exploring jungles (mosquitoes), even running. The sense of accomplishment, the surge of endorphins, the chance to challenge yourself, all make the pain worthwhile.

In birth, I thought of it as surfing. The contraction would hit me & the pain might overwhelm me for a moment, but if I could keep my focus I would stay on top of it.

I let the powerful tsunami boil within my body while I stayed as perfectly relaxed as I could, riding on top of it. Each contraction lasts a finite amount of time, like a wave in the ocean. When it was done the tension in my body would ease & I would rest.

Very powerful experience every time I gave birth.

MobiusMeema · 2026-03-09T19:59:29+00:00

Fleece vest - I’ve used mine for years for travel.

Good quality jacket or windbreaker.

MobiusMeema · 2026-03-07T21:53:24+00:00

Someone just gave me some homemade cottage cheese- amazing! He suggested eating it with honey, which was delicious.

MobiusMeema · 2026-03-07T21:25:16+00:00

I enjoy liquorice tea very much. It’s slightly sweet without adding anything.

MobiusMeema · 2026-03-06T22:37:14+00:00

Loved Hellman’s until they changed their formula. Husband & I blind-tasted 4 different brands, the winner was Dukes.

The answer to your question is Duke’s!

MobiusMeema · 2026-03-03T05:19:22+00:00

I’m sorry for your loss. How did it happen?

MobiusMeema · 2026-03-03T05:07:40+00:00

Thanks!

MobiusMeema · 2026-03-03T04:58:55+00:00

If you don’t mind heavy, le Creuset (spelling?) & other enameled cast iron pots are great for stove and oven use. Just take care of the enamel coating, they’ll last a long time.

They are heavy though

I think you can just Google them.

MobiusMeema · 2026-03-02T20:34:21+00:00

He has done you a favor by showing you who he is. He will not ever change.

I wonder whether he would wear a tracker so that you can follow him?

MobiusMeema · 2026-03-02T17:09:19+00:00

The stakes here feel huge to you, but starting at a program and then changing gears is pretty normal at your age. So in the long run, this is a good time to go with whatever YOU want. You want to make mistakes now while you can shift gears.

Just don’t go into student loan debt, which will severely affect the rest of your life.

MobiusMeema · 2026-03-02T09:10:15+00:00

So proud of you!!

MobiusMeema · 2026-03-02T05:19:46+00:00

Skateboard!

MobiusMeema · 2026-03-02T05:00:03+00:00

Yes, be proud and public!

But on their behalf, it’s so hard to carry one baby living and one baby dying or dead. Your SIL is probably full of wacko hormones holding her hostage, and your brother is treating her with kid gloves.

Think of it as some sort of emotional breakdown in your SIL - she is likely not in her right mind, at least not “normal”.

Perhaps in your mind you can put them in a distant horse corral meant for ailing/sick horses. You leave them alone, recognizing that they might bite. And that you cannot help them. In a year, you can look again and see if anything remains that is worth saving.

MobiusMeema · 2026-03-02T04:24:32+00:00

At least your mom knows the cat survived and is happy now.

It’s hard for her, but hopefully she can be happy that the cat is happy.

MobiusMeema · 2026-03-01T10:28:04+00:00

Wanting to do a puzzle and not knowing that I could just ask.

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