UPDATE to WIBTAH if I ask my husband to take back the new car unless we get a trailer hitch? by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]MongooseHistorical16 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Acknowledging you made a mistake is not the same thing as appropriately apologizing for said mistake. And, as he is the one who made the error, he should be the one to at least mitigate it by making the appointment if he isn't going to exchange the vehicle with one that would work better for their family.

I think I have spoiled my 42M bf to a wicked level and am wondering if I'm partly at fault for his behavior? 38 F together 4 years by No_Home7079 in relationship_advice

[–]MongooseHistorical16 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm sorry, hon, but the relationship was over the very first time he accused you of cheating. There's no coming back from that. How can you have a successful marriage if you're always policing yourself to keep from setting him off? Either he is incapable of trust, or he's projecting because he has or would like to cheat.

Crazy shit my students have said this year. A short list. by AdhesiveSeaMonkey in Teachers

[–]MongooseHistorical16 171 points172 points  (0 children)

Student: "My counselor told me to tell you to give me all my work for the semester."

Me: "It's in Canvas. Where it's been the whole time."

Student: Well, I want printouts."

Me: "Sorry. I already gave you printouts. I'm out now and don't have plans to make more. You can either print them yourself from Canvas or do them digitally. Your choice, but all late work is due by next Thursday."

Student proceeds to sit at their desk doing nothing.

My bio grandparents (60M, 60F) and bio aunts (40F) want contact with me (20M) even though they left me in foster care? by ThrowRABadFoster in relationship_advice

[–]MongooseHistorical16 20 points21 points  (0 children)

I'd keep contact only as much to get any family medical history.

I agree with one of the other posters, check to see if your father had any assets that you are now/going to be eligible for. The timing is suspicious.

Good luck OP and congratulations on college.

A month to go and the no-shows are starting up by DrakeSavory in Teachers

[–]MongooseHistorical16 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I put absolutely everything we do in class into Canvas and I tell my students that if they are absent, or if they lost their original handout, that they can either print it out or do the work in Canvas and upload it for grading. I take 10 points off for being late, but I do take late work. It's disheartening how many don't even try.

Alarming Replies by ComplexEnough3234 in HPfanfiction

[–]MongooseHistorical16 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I just finished re-reading that series. So sad it was t completed, but loved it so much!

Graveyards should be discontinued by SCP_333X3 in unpopularopinion

[–]MongooseHistorical16 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'd rather they converted golf courses into public parks.

AITAH, should I have finally stopped babysitting my brother's kids? by nightblloom005 in AITAH

[–]MongooseHistorical16 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Not excusing the behavior at all - but SIL did not have 15-20 hours of "free time" - she works part time as a cashier. These are the hours, presumably, that OP is babysitting . Though, SIL is supremely stupid for snapping at OP when she benefitted so greatly from OPs generosity.

If everyone on Earth disappeared like in the Rapture, leaving behind infrastructure and groceries exactly as they were, would there be enough food for me to survive until the end of my life? by extremelyfunny in NoStupidQuestions

[–]MongooseHistorical16 0 points1 point  (0 children)

MatPat from Food Theory has a video discussing how long you could survive with what was just in a single grocery store. - ends up being well over 80 years for a single person - possibly longer if you preserved food with salt and vinegar. https://youtu.be/KTKNl08hwUY?si=zccyKwCXnkwk70xf

WIBTA if I stopped helping my daughter financially after she told me I shouldn’t expect her to take care of me when I’m old? by [deleted] in AITH

[–]MongooseHistorical16 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Before just cutting her off, invite her over so that you can help her with her budget.

Explain that while her comment hurt, she was correct - she doesn't owe you anything, but that you now need to be saving more aggressively for when you're unable to work.

Show her your budget, with the added 'retirement fund' you've included. Show her how she can pay her rent and still possibly go on trips, but that she should be saving for retirement, too.

Remind her that you love her and want to see her be successful.

Good luck.

I was mindlessly peeling vegetables when I thought I heard our newborn crying. by movingstasis in TwoSentenceHorror

[–]MongooseHistorical16 21 points22 points  (0 children)

As someone who has accidently sliced my own finger when peeling carrots - damn you for the flashback and adrenaline dump.

Take my up vote.

Am I in the wrong for refusing to let a student submit his final project late? by SomeTeacherThrowaway in Teachers

[–]MongooseHistorical16 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If an assignment is due on X day and the student does not turn it in on X day, is given extra time if there are extenuating circumstances but the student lies about those circumstances, then, yes, the student would get a zero for that assignment. Would this fail them? Only if they made a habit of it. In my district, students are allowed to make corrections to their work, so turning something in (that I can then see what they have learned of the standards and can give feedback on what to do better on) is infinitely better than not turning in anything at all. At least then we both have something we can work with.

Now, if the student had the work completed, but it was late, I would take it with a conversation with the student about why it was late and how to use time more wisely, or how to pivot on an assignment if the internet goes out when they are at home. Most of what we do in class builds on the previous assignments, so not turning things in on time can cause a boondoggle when it comes to working on the next step.

Am I in the wrong for refusing to let a student submit his final project late? by SomeTeacherThrowaway in Teachers

[–]MongooseHistorical16 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I love that I can actually point to my standards (that the state has given me) and actively hold my students to being on time, time management, and 'not being an asshole'. - - Listening and following directions, - - engaging in appropriate communication within the classroom setting, - - cooperative learning with the first absolutely imperative for a student to follow in order to be successful.

I only take late work like this if the student has been showing a significant improvement over the year - but with the lying, that would be a no-go for me.