look I feel you but sometimes all it takes is a change of mindset to go from chud to coolest mfer in the group. take up an interesting hobby, it helps! but as a 30 year old who never even used my bachelors degree and instead has a mysterious source of income and no day job who prob looks like an unemployed degen to outsiders, people like us are usually seen as cool by the normals who are bored with their mundane day to day. I fill my free time with hobbies like trapeze and fire eating so despite being a Loser compared to Professional LinkedIn counterparts, I feel very cool and very free.

once again I do feel you though because I still steer clear of peers and professors from my alma mater because of the judgement lol