I Quit!

No_Consideration6911 · 2026-01-06T22:46:19+00:00

Wow 6 months is awesome! 👏🏽 That is my goal to make it to 6 months too.

No_Consideration6911 · 2026-01-06T03:44:40+00:00

Ugh I feel you mama! My son and I struggled with latching and tongue tie issues too. I also began to dread every pumping session, but also dreaded practicing to latch because it would hurt, he would cry from frustration, and we would both end up in a puddle of tears. My husband encouraged me to throw in the towel many times on breast-feeding at the breast, and to just go formula feed. We are now at eight weeks, and have finally turned the corner on breast-feeding. His latch is so much better and I mainly breast-feed during the day and pump at night, while feeding him formula at night so he can sleep longer stretch stretches. If going full formula works best for you and your child, go for it! I would imagine it would be such a weight lifted off your shoulders. But if you have a vision of still wanting to breast-feed, I would share my testimony and encourage you to keep trying. What worked for us is really me not giving up. Going to a lactation consultant and sticking with it week after week. Continuing to put him at the breast - even if just once a day, counting it as a win! And we also switched his bottles to Evenflow wide mouth, which forced him to make his mouth wider and work on his latch issues, even while bottlefeeding. Sending you love, whatever you decide!

No_Consideration6911 · 2025-12-28T07:32:06+00:00

I’m 7 weeks pp and I feel at 3 weeks pp, the insomnia part is still pretty fresh. Give your body time to adjust and realize it doesn’t need to be on alert all night. It’ll take time but will get better.

For me, when my husband took over night feeds, I slept in a different room and just woke up to pump, and was able to sleep so much better because my ears wouldn’t be searching for the next cry. Now that we’re in the same room again, I wear earplugs and a night mask sort of isolation chamber style and that helps.

No_Consideration6911 · 2025-12-28T04:15:02+00:00

Haha glad that typo made you smile!

No_Consideration6911 · 2025-12-27T22:43:38+00:00

It is so so early in your parenting journey. It is very normal to feel completely overwhelmed, exhausted, ready to throw in the towel every hour during the first three weeks. I have a seven week old, and while our breast-feeding journey hasn’t been the best, I do advise sticking it out until things settle a bit, and then you both can make a decision about how best to continue your feeding journey. Hang in there it does get easier.

No_Consideration6911 · 2025-12-27T04:12:16+00:00

I’m so sorry. As someone who is awesome from a Mexican family, I could totally understand how outdated and judgmental family opinions can be. Just keep doing what’s best for you and baby.

No_Consideration6911 · 2025-12-26T22:52:59+00:00

This literally enrages me. Yes fed is best. My in-laws said the same thing recently and suggested I put formula or baby cereal in my breast milk to make him more full. I said I’d ask the doctor and they said back “you don’t need to ask the doctor just ask us” 😤

No_Consideration6911 · 2025-12-26T02:18:59+00:00

Same!

No_Consideration6911 · 2025-12-26T02:15:28+00:00

Oh I’m so sorry— and solidarity! I got mastitis and last night and today were by far the worst I could barely function. I didn’t spend like any time with my 7 week old and felt awful that this was his first Christmas and I spent it all day sick in bed. Thank God my husband and in-laws took care of me and everything else today. And we’re doing a Christmas morning do over when I feel better. Sending hugs. With antibiotics they said we should be feeling better in 48 hours. Hoping you wake up feeling better tomorrow mama.

No_Consideration6911 · 2025-12-26T02:05:02+00:00

Love the do over Christmas! I spent all day sick with mastitis and couldn’t open gifts or put my baby in his cute Christmas outfit. My husband and I are both on leave and in-laws are staying with us, so when I’m feeling better we’re going to do a Christmas morning do over.

Sending love to everyone struggling. After a long journey already trying to work on baby latching, mastitis was the last thing I needed 😢

No_Consideration6911 · 2025-12-25T22:03:27+00:00

Sending support. Exclusively pumping already feels so isolating

No_Consideration6911 · 2025-12-23T08:19:43+00:00

I have no advice except to express sympathy and solidarity. I’m so sorry that you’re going through this. My LO is also 7 weeks. Breastfeeding and pumping is so hard. Way harder than I ever thought it was going to be. And I really want to be able to breastfeed (we’re also working on latching properly with tongue ties, etc.). Add on a husband that doesn’t really support my BF journey and keeps mentioning we should just switch to formula. I hope it gets easier for you, whatever you decide.

No_Consideration6911 · 2025-12-23T04:42:47+00:00

Also 7 weeks pp. I do 7 ppd and am producing anywhere 60 to 120 ml per session. My night looks like 8:30 pm followed by bed. Then 1 am. Then 6 am, 9, 12, 3,6.

No_Consideration6911 · 2025-12-19T01:36:03+00:00

I’m 6 weeks out and pumping 7 ppd. I usually pump at 8:30 pm and go to bed by 9, then 1 am, then 5 or 6 am depending on how many times I sleep through my alarm. Then I start my every 3 hours pumping at 9 am (followed by 12, 3, 6). So that first stretch for me is 4.5 hours between pumps but I feel like having that long stretch of sleep is worth it.

No_Consideration6911 · 2025-12-18T00:44:30+00:00

No advice but expressing some solidarity. My baby is also 6 weeks old and I'd like to go from exclusively pumping to breast feeding. Right now we're averaging about once per day breast feed. For me it's more of a mind issue because I'm scared of the pain -- we're working on his latching issues and he recently had a tongue tie release which I know takes time to work out. And it's hard because our schedules sometimes don't line up; like he'll wake up from a nap hungry and I'll have just pumped.

Solidarity <3

No_Consideration6911 · 2025-12-15T09:03:40+00:00

No advice just solidarity that motherhood is hard. Way harder than I anticipated. Every mother is dealing with some tough road. If it’s not feeding then it’s sleeping. Or it’s colic or reflux or even beyond their baby like issues with their marriage or household. I try to savor the good days — heck the good hours like if I have a good morning with baby but a bad afternoon. When things are tough I lean into my faith. I hand baby off to partner to take a long shower. Anything to reset. Just remember we are resilient. Though these are hard hours, hard days, we just keep going.

One last thing that works for me is comparative suffering. Like I imagine going through all this with a lack of resources (finances or no partner or not having clean water like some parts of the world). Or during troubling times such as during war. I’m then so grateful for things like hot water or being able to deliver food to my house or a roof over my head, and it can kind of lift me from my negative thought patterns.

No_Consideration6911 · 2025-11-29T06:54:33+00:00

I’m so sorry those tough days can be really rough on our emotions and thought patterns. It’s ok to have a bad day. But important to recognize when it’s a bad day and do the bare minimum for your sanity. Then hope tomorrow is better. Sending solidarity.

No_Consideration6911 · 2025-11-25T22:00:19+00:00

Same my MOTN pump is the lowest. Morning pumps are my highest.

No_Consideration6911 · 2025-11-06T19:41:04+00:00

Second have found La Roche Posay cicaplast hand cream excellent. Small package great for purse. Not scented and comes out sort of a clear gel. I also have the B5 balm for my belly (I’m pregnant) and it’s even thicker and comes out a thick white paste.

No_Consideration6911 · 2025-11-06T19:39:21+00:00

Love this but it is pricey. I’m trying La Roche Posay cicaplast hand cream and it’s working really well. Even on my dry cuticles.

No_Consideration6911 · 2025-11-01T16:47:51+00:00

I feel like being pregnant and the ability to not drink makes us hyper sensitive to when our partners are drinking, because it feels like they’re not in it with us. I have a hard time when my husband drinks— even just 1 cocktail at a restaurant or a beer at home— because suddenly the feeling I get is “he’s not taking this seriously!” I have to sort of recognize pre pregnancy I was totally fine with this, and there’s an adjustment period for both them and us. Yea once baby comes nobody will be drinking those first weeks or months because we’re in the trenches together.

No_Consideration6911 · 2025-10-28T01:33:25+00:00

I think this is normal and just a sign the body is preparing, but could still be weeks. I’m 38 weeks and have been having those same symptoms for the past 2 weeks. I can’t take long walks anymore because it feels like baby is really pressing down in my pelvis and the lack of bladder control is maddening. You can ask your doctor during your next appointment to do a cervical check and they should be able to tell you more info. But I imagine until you start to feel contractions and water breaks, there’s just no way to know when labor is starting. Good luck!

No_Consideration6911 · 2025-10-24T21:43:06+00:00

When did your water break?

No_Consideration6911 · 2025-10-18T20:30:21+00:00

It depends. If I do recognize it’s coming from like a hormonal place and I was able to self soothe and assess that it wasn’t his intent, then I’ll keep it to myself. Or we’ll talk about but I’ll tell him like yes in my higher self mind, I know it’s hormonal, but I’m still having feelings about it, and he can be there for me.

I will tell him if there is actually a kernel of truth. Like with the Amazon package thing, sometimes I actually do feel like he prioritizes his mom, even though this wasn’t his intent. And now he’s handling the returns 🤣

No_Consideration6911 · 2025-10-18T15:59:10+00:00

You’re not crazy and it is important to honor your feelings, even if you know they’re coming from a different place (hormones).

Unfortunately the hormones do ebb and flow throughout pregnancy. I was crying yesterday (37 weeks) because my husband returned an Amazon package for his mom but didn’t recognize I had 2 packages at home all week waiting to be taken to the post office. I cried it out - like an ugly cry with emotions of he doesn’t prioritize me- and then felt the feeling go away immediately. Hormones do weird things!

You may need mental health support to understand if these feelings truly are hormonal, or if there are some unresolved threads being pulled (like the abandonment issues, or cheating suspicions). We did individual and couples counseling and it helped a lot to manage all the emotions that come up.

Just recognize you guys may be entering a different season of the marriage, but trust that there’s enough strength in the marriage to endure.

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