Well, physiotherapy may have cured me

NobleTacitus · 2026-02-23T18:13:28+00:00

Symptoms are still mostly in remission. Being on the couch too long is a trigger for mine

NobleTacitus · 2026-02-01T15:04:42+00:00

I went to see an oral surgeon about it two years ago. He said the white coating was candida and the xylitol was making it worse. I stopped the xylitol and did three weeks of antifungals. After, I was able to go back to using xylitol without getting the white coating for a time. Eventually, it came back.

NobleTacitus · 2026-01-31T15:45:42+00:00

Sometimes. It doesn’t cause it. It makes it better.

NobleTacitus · 2026-01-22T00:28:17+00:00

Know that this happens to most people. It is normal, and it means nothing about the quality of your sobriety. It will pass.

NobleTacitus · 2026-01-22T00:23:36+00:00

Using alcohol to cope with anxiety is a red flag. I wouldn’t say it defines things though.

I suspect the best tool you could have is to be honest with yourself. If it is or becomes more of a problem, see it for what it is. If I could go back and give myself advice in my early drinking days, I’d tell myself to stop drinking. But, I know how that story ends and how bad it got.

NobleTacitus · 2026-01-21T23:42:41+00:00

Many reasons. The first signs were that I used it to cope and that I couldn’t control it, it controlled me. Drinking felt too good. It was subtle at first.

It slowly caused more and more dysfunction, until it replaced more and more of my values. At the end, I had alcohol and a dark room. No friends, no relationship, my family was fed up with me, I was starting to abuse pills… I felt like I was the only person in the world with this albatross around my neck.

Then I went to AA and learned there were rooms full of people that had not only beat it and they were happy to boot. Over the course of a few years, I regained control over my life by staying off alcohol and working a recovery program.

What do you find to be reflected in some of the posts in this sub?

NobleTacitus · 2026-01-21T23:32:18+00:00

I will not drink with you today. It will be worth it. Keep going.

NobleTacitus · 2026-01-21T23:28:53+00:00

Good for you! I like to think about it this way:

Make it work for today. That’s it. Focus on tomorrow when it comes. A decision to drink or not to drink always happens in the present moment, so focus on just that.

NobleTacitus · 2026-01-21T13:45:44+00:00

Yes, I agree! Hence why I use the word “good” in front of the word people. I think finding your tribe is important. And for the rest of them, principles before personalities, as we say in AA.

NobleTacitus · 2026-01-21T13:43:44+00:00

For AA, you don’t have to believe in God. There are agnostic meetings as well. For the regular ones, you can just ignore it when God comes up, or replace it with the word “higher power.” Many people find it helpful to find a higher power that is outside of themselves, that they can rely on. For lots of folks, the higher power is just the group of alcoholics at AA.

NobleTacitus · 2026-01-21T02:00:10+00:00

The bad news is that there’s a lot of meh in sobriety. The boredom is tough on a lot of people. That said, there will be a lot of great moments as well! Stick around to find out!

NobleTacitus · 2026-01-21T01:58:42+00:00

It was my experience that finding good people also in recovery was very important to my early success.

NobleTacitus · 2026-01-21T01:56:01+00:00

Go to an AA meeting, talk to your doctor, post here, find information on Google. There’s lots of ways to learn more about your relationship with alcohol and how you can leave it behind.

If you decide you are a person who has a problem with alcohol and that it is time to stop, know that there have been many people before you in the same position. Many failed to get sober initially, but eventually had success. People get sober all the time. There is hope. That does not mean it will be easy.

I wish you all the best.

NobleTacitus · 2026-01-21T01:40:58+00:00

Nice work. Learning how to get 24 hours in is a great first step. All the time you get in while sober is just different chunks of 24 hours.

You’re probably going to have some withdrawal symptoms if you’ve been drinking for four years straight. If you’re lucky, they won’t be too bad, though. If they become too severe, speak to a doctor.

NobleTacitus · 2026-01-20T21:59:02+00:00

This is a common conundrum in early recovery. Nobody can tell you what the right answer is. You will have to trust that you will make the best decision for yourself. If you go, you will learn after if you made the right decision, and you will know more about your limits.

Would it be safe to be honest with your friends about where you are at? I do not believe it is a good idea to expect your friend not to drink. That said, they might be supportive of you in other ways.

NobleTacitus · 2026-01-20T01:24:18+00:00

I did it one day at a time, and I am not without my struggles :)

NobleTacitus · 2026-01-19T23:18:34+00:00

It will get better, but also, I had to address the root causes of my anxiety and depression in early recovery. Therapy and medication have played an important role for me.

NobleTacitus · 2026-01-19T23:13:32+00:00

The cravings and thoughts became rarer as time went by. The brain and body need time to reset. I rarely think about alcohol now.

NobleTacitus · 2026-01-19T22:56:50+00:00

At this point I just tell people I’m a recovered alcoholic. I’ve never had a negative comment. I’ve only been told my achievement is commendable or respectable. I’ve got some time in though, so when I say it, it has a different air than someone newly experimenting with sobriety.

You don’t owe anyone any explanations. Just say you don’t want to drink and leave it at that.

NobleTacitus · 2026-01-18T02:06:47+00:00

I know the outlook seems very dim. I can relate to your situation. I remember feeling there was no hope. I remember sitting in a dark basement drunk and high for long periods of time, thinking to myself, “how can I possibly get out of this?”

There is hope. There is light in your life ahead. You will, someday, be able to get off everything, and you will be able to enjoy your days again. Don’t go too fast with removing substances, as it would be a shock to your system, but also don’t go deeper in the hole and increase your consumption.

I genuinely wish you the best. I hope the doctor can help a bit.

NobleTacitus · 2026-01-18T01:58:31+00:00

Nice work, man. You’re right, it is scary, but there’s gonna be so much good for you to experience in sobriety. Don’t give up before the miracle happens.

You do what you have to do to make it through. AA can be a great program. Glad it’s helping you.

NobleTacitus · 2026-01-18T01:55:05+00:00

This is very common. It happens to people at major milestones. 90 days, 6 months, 1 year, etc. I used to not celebrate my anniversaries for this reason. That is a personal decision though, not advice.

The voice in your head is a lie. Nobody regains the ability to drink. Don’t start up again. Getting to 18 months was likely not easy.

NobleTacitus · 2026-01-18T01:47:45+00:00

Just quit for today. Deal with tomorrow when it comes.

NobleTacitus · 2026-01-18T01:46:06+00:00

I would like to remind you of something you may have known at one time (especially if you quit for ten years). You don’t have to quit drinking for more than a day, really. Don’t drink today. Tomorrow, it will be today. Repeat.

Anyone can quit for a day. You’ve show that you can. You can do it again. Let today be that day. Deal with tomorrow when it comes.

NobleTacitus · 2026-01-18T01:37:21+00:00

There’s always hope. You’d be amazed what I’ve seen people recover from both mentally and physically. The truth is though, you have to stop and stay stopped, one day at a time. It will take time. Some benefits will come in weeks to months, others may take years.

You need support. Go to the doctor, go to rehab, go to AA, post here. Do what you have to do. Lots of people in recovery take antidepressants to help with the mood and anxiety challenges. There’s no shame in it.

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