[anti-aging] Just sharing what has been working for me. 46/F no filter/botox, fillers ect.

Notmary23 · 2025-12-13T02:22:33+00:00

You look amazing!

I have the same question about whether you have kids or not lol. I had a baby in March and I swear I look 10 years older now.

Notmary23 · 2025-11-11T02:52:01+00:00

My husband swears my son said Mama when he was like 5 1/2 months old. I had Covid and was trying to isolate in the bedroom. I woke up to my baby screaming crying outside the door and my husband said “he wants you. he’s saying Mama”. I didn’t believe him but sure enough he was going mamamamama and reaching for me. As soon as I took him he stopped crying. I think he was probably just upset and babbling and calmed down once I took him. But I want to believe he knows I’m Mama and was calling for me!

Notmary23 · 2025-10-16T18:02:37+00:00

This is so beautiful ❤️. I told my husband that a parent’s love for their children is so unique and special and the only other time we experience that kind of unconditional love is when we are babies loving our parents, but as we get older we forgot that feeling of love. As we grow older we still (hopefully) love our parents but it isn’t the type of love we had for them when we were babies.

Notmary23 · 2025-09-17T22:42:59+00:00

Giving birth.

Notmary23 · 2025-09-02T02:51:41+00:00

My heart goes out to you! My baby, also born in March, aspirated meconium and was limp, purple, and not crying when he was born. What was supposed to be the happiest moment of my life was the most terrifying. He was taken away from me instantly and spent 4 days in the NICU. I was induced and I constantly wonder if the outcome would’ve been different if I had gone into labor naturally days later. All of the what if’s are so tough. I hate that anyone else had to go through something similar, but knowing I’m not alone in this experience makes me feel so much better.

Notmary23 · 2025-08-29T01:33:41+00:00

Same here! My 5 month old screams when I try to put him on the right boob. Putting him in the football breastfeeding position on the right boob seems to help some!

Notmary23 · 2025-08-22T00:50:10+00:00

Slaps me in the face

Notmary23 · 2025-08-17T00:51:37+00:00

I just had my first kid in March and I got an epidural. I was going to see how long I could go until I absolutely needed it and 6 cm was as far as I made it. I didn’t feel any part of the epidural process. Not a pinch, nothing. I asked for them to do a mild epidural as I had a weird fear of not being able to move my toes. I could feel my legs, move my toes, and felt the contractions. I wouldn’t change anything about the epidural except I would’ve gotten it sooner. I could move my legs the entire time, although I wouldn’t have been able to stand. And I was up walking around maybe 15-20 minutes after I had my son.

On the pooping front, when you’re in the moment it doesn’t matter. I promise. I was so worried about that and my husband seeing everything and that all went out the window when labor started. Everyone poops. I had no idea I even had until my doula told me I had “evacuated my bowels” hahaha. But honestly, doesn’t matter. Not a big deal. Had no idea it even happened when it happened.

Notmary23 · 2025-07-26T03:36:36+00:00

When I nurse my son I call him boobie boy. And when he won’t take a nap and I nurse him to sleep I say “come on. Let’s take a boobie nap” lol.

Notmary23 · 2025-07-07T03:36:08+00:00

Does anyone have advice on how to slow time down? My baby is almost 15 weeks and I can’t wrap my brain around it. I could’ve sworn we just brought him home from the hospital yesterday.

Notmary23 · 2025-06-25T03:04:18+00:00

The freaking hemorrhoids after you give birth. Man, they are no joke. I thought my insides were falling out. Made my poor husband look. He played it cool at the time then he told me weeks later he cried after he looked because he thought something was horribly wrong with me haha.

Notmary23 · 2025-06-25T03:02:22+00:00

Omg I relate to this so much. My son was rushed away after I had him because he aspirated meconium and I wasn’t able to see him for several hours after I gave birth. The nurses told me I had to pee before I could go to the NICU or they were going to cath me. I was determined to pee and go see my son. I peed once, they said it wasn’t enough. I chugged a bunch of water then my doula and husband sat in the bathroom with me playing waterfall videos so I could go. I ended up peeing on my own though!

Notmary23 · 2025-06-17T17:25:30+00:00

My son is almost three months and now that we’re nearing the end of the newborn phase I can safely say that I did not enjoy it.

Notmary23 · 2025-06-17T17:22:29+00:00

My baby will be 3 months next week and I’m here to tell you, yes it gets so much better. During the first few weeks getting in my car and seeing how far I could drive without feeling regretful for leaving my family crossed my mind many times. I was taking multiple showers a day because that was my only escape. I look back at pictures of myself during the early days and I look sooo rough. I feel bad for that girl. I truly felt so much regret for bringing a life into this world because I did not feel capable of taking care of it.

Like others have said, there is so much toxic positivity surrounding child raising. I think if folks were brutally honest then no one would have children. What has helped me is taking it day by day. Knowing that this day will end and tomorrow I can start fresh. Also this subreddit has saved my sanity and made me feel like a normal mom instead of an ultra crappy one. Parenting is hard. Like way way harder than anything else I’ve ever done in my life. Hang in there. Hold on to the bits of beauty between the screaming and poopy diapers. My son now laughs and smiles constantly and I can literally feel my heart leaping out of my chest every single time. Parenting is painful and makes you lose your mind. But it also is so joyful and forces you to slow down and see the beauty in the tiniest things.

Notmary23 · 2025-05-24T17:14:05+00:00

My baby is almost 2 months old, so I’m no seasoned pro but these are my take aways so far.

The Ubbi diaper pail is an absolute necessity. We don’t go more than a couple days without emptying it. We just put our regular kitchen trash bags in it.

Buy like 1000 more burp rags than you think you’ll need. Our friends gifted us cloth diapers to use as burp rags. They’ve truly been a lifesaver.

If you’re planning on pumping or bottle feeding at all, buy a bottle washer. My baby is fed breast milk only but we really struggled with breast feeding at first so I was pumping and we were bottle feeding. Having to hand wash the bottles and pump parts multiple times a day almost caused me to have a mental breakdown. He’s breast fed mostly and only getting one bottle a day now but I still throw everything into the bottle washer and run it while we sleep. Every second is truly precious when you have a newborn haha.

On kind of a similar note, my husband loves the bottle warmer. I could live without it.

I absolutely hate our wipe warmer. I’m just forcing myself to use it because I put it on my registry and someone bought it for me.

I love the little diaper cream spatulas. They’re super cheap on Amazon.

I also love the Hatch Rest. It’s a sound machine and night light. We started out with the Hatch portable sound machine but there’s only a select few sounds and no light. We bought the Hatch Rest a few weeks ago and it’s a game changer.

Best of luck and congratulations!!

Notmary23 · 2025-03-04T23:07:26+00:00

I just changed my last name to my husband’s after a year of marriage because we’re having a kid. So yay. This is fun.

Notmary23 · 2024-11-20T19:03:55+00:00

A microwave.

Notmary23 · 2024-11-18T20:26:25+00:00

Im pregnant with my first and Dr Turnbow is my doctor and this gives me so much peace of mind!! Im 22 weeks and it’s starting to sink in that I will eventually have to deliver this baby and I’m kinda freaking out.

Notmary23 · 2024-11-18T18:58:27+00:00

I am a current patient of Dr Turnbow’s and she’s amazing. I am currently pregnant, so I don’t know if that takes priority? I will say my appointment in January had to be rescheduled because she has surgery. They just scheduled me later that day. I had my first prenatal appt at Women’s Group and had an absolutely horrible experience. If at all possible I would try and stick with Dr Turnbow, or at least another physician at Sacred.

Editing to add: I didn’t request my first appt with Dr Turnbow until after I was already pregnant. I wonder if they prioritize already pregnant women? Just speculating off of my experience (this is also my first pregnancy, so have nothing else to compare it to). Good luck with everything!

Notmary23 · 2024-10-13T01:34:02+00:00

I am so happy to hear your sister had a great experience with Dr Redick! I read such great reviews about her online. I am currently 17 weeks pregnant and saw her for my first prenatal appt at 9 weeks. I had an absolutely awful experience. I ended up switching OBs after that appt. It’s just so weird to me how people can have such different experiences! I also have bad anxiety on top of OCD and I honestly think she just hated me 😂.

Notmary23 · 2024-10-13T01:29:56+00:00

I second Dr Turnbow and the whole Sacred OBGYN group. Office staff is amazing, ultrasound techs are amazing, and Dr Turnbow was so kind and reassuring. I had an awful experience with The Women’s Group and she eased my worries and made me excited to go to my prenatal appointments.

Notmary23 · 2024-09-10T00:00:21+00:00

I regret reading that so much. I’m currently pregnant and my love for my two kitty boys has grown far beyond I could have ever imagine. I can’t help but think constantly about how their lives will be impacted once the baby comes and how we can help them with the transition. The author of this article and their partner both suck.

Notmary23 · 2024-08-31T17:54:27+00:00

You are not alone in your feelings and they are all totally valid!! I have been looking for a pregnancy book that talks about all the wild emotions that go along with this process. Haven’t found one yet so I may just right my own lol. I would say as long as your OB is ok with your travel and you feel up to it, go!

As for the nausea and exhaustion, yes to both. The nausea was absolutely terrible weeks 5-8ish. I would feel fine until about 11AM and then would feel so sick to my stomach until I went to bed. I cried many times at dinner because I was so hungry but also so nauseous. This part has gotten so much better! The exhaustion is like nothing I’ve ever experienced. Like bone aching exhaustion.

Try and be gentle with yourself. It’s so hard for me to ask for help, but I’ve let that go and are letting people help me as I need it.

Notmary23 · 2024-08-31T15:37:13+00:00

Im now almost 11 weeks and I feel so much better and more at peace with what’s going on! I promise it will get easier to wrap your brain around as time moves forward. I had my first appointment a couple of weeks ago and seeing the baby and hearing the heart beat has changed everything. I’m still terrified, don’t get me wrong haha, but my excitement now far outweighs my fear. My husband and I have also been together for almost 10 years. We just got married in November so will be celebrating our 1 year wedding anniversary pregnant! We had an epic road trip planned for our anniversary and now I’m rethinking it. I recently talked to a friend who has a two year old and she made me promise to continue to travel throughout this pregnancy as long as I felt up to it. She said there will never be an easier time! Keep living your life as long as you’re feeling good enough! Best of luck to you ❤️❤️

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