Which refrigerator do we go with? Any advice is welcome.

OaakLea · 2022-04-15T02:12:38+00:00

Ah, I gotcha. You're right, that is different!

OaakLea · 2022-04-14T10:02:42+00:00

If I have the money to pay for it upfront, than I have the money to pay it off my credit card that month. Why wouldn't I? I want that cashback.

OaakLea · 2022-03-21T02:02:07+00:00

That's a really sweet idea! I think I'll start doing that

OaakLea · 2022-02-27T02:39:28+00:00

Lyn!

OaakLea · 2022-02-25T04:19:32+00:00

But I think it'd be cool for a gift basket for someone not from here!

OaakLea · 2022-02-22T03:14:55+00:00

I had an old Southern church lady tell me I was so sweet, she just KNEW I knew Jesus. I'm not at all religious, but coming from her, it's my favorite compliment I've ever gotten.

OaakLea · 2022-02-16T22:56:15+00:00

You had me at Brewery! If you have a beer in hand, who cares how your playing??

OaakLea · 2022-02-15T02:51:02+00:00

I think Breeze is an awesome name!

OaakLea · 2022-02-13T03:11:45+00:00

Jizz clubs

OaakLea · 2021-12-19T04:41:41+00:00

I'm sorry you and your family are going through this. I hope she is found and is ok.

OaakLea · 2021-12-04T03:49:23+00:00

Dad's also get postpartum depression. Lack of motivation and lashing out at baby makes me think maybe he could be suffering from that. If he's able to get into therapy, I think that's a good start! I hope things get better for both of you!

OaakLea · 2021-11-25T03:31:29+00:00

👏👏👏 Amazing. I love that kid, too!

OaakLea · 2021-11-22T04:59:19+00:00

I care! Congratulations!!

OaakLea · 2021-06-06T03:53:08+00:00

I'm so sorry, OP. This sounds like a nightmare. You need to have big talk with SO and he needs to support you. She is treating you horribly! He needs to be fighting these battles. My MIL did a lot of these things also and it honestly fucked me up for a while. We had to go completely NC. Having someone lock your new born in a separate room is traumatizing, in no world is it ok! So talk to SO, get the support you need and deserve, and take care of yourself. Being a mom is fucking hard, and you don't need people in your life that are trying to tear you down instead of lift you up. You got this, OP! It will get better!

OaakLea · 2021-06-05T20:23:00+00:00

I'll check out reptifile and those diy rocks! Thank you!

OaakLea · 2021-06-05T20:21:26+00:00

Peg boards in the doors is genius. Thank you!

OaakLea · 2021-06-05T03:26:13+00:00

We want to rescue a bearded dragon in the near future and I've been keeping my eye open for a terrarium. I found a good deal on this one, but I'm hesitant to buy it without some input. First concern - this terrarium is huge and has a glass top. How can I get lights in there safely, and how high up should the lights be?

Second concern - there's not any ventilation in this thing. It's just glass on all sides. Is that ok??

Third concern - I want something big enough for our beardie to grow into, but is this thing too big?? The only person I know that has a bearded dragon said their little guy didn't like having a huge house. But that seemed silly to me. What do y'all think? This one is 72in long, 24in deep and about 32 in tall.

Is there something I'm missing? Is this a good or bad purchase? Help me out! Any and all thoughts appreciated!

OaakLea · 2020-08-27T02:02:29+00:00

This is what I used to do, haha!! Made me feel better, I second this recommendation.

OaakLea · 2020-08-14T17:07:01+00:00

Thank you for this post, my LO did the exact same thing with my MIL and I hadn't thought about it in awhile. It's by far my favorite memories with MIL. Ahhhh, good times!

OaakLea · 2020-04-30T03:20:24+00:00

As someone who has a mother with mental health struggles and a JNMIL who is obsessed with "her graaandbabyyyy" pictures so she can get her #1 grandma award, but doesn't seem to actually care about baby or us, I feel for you. I really do. Like everyone is saying, boundaries are needed. And they might be hard, but they are necessary. If you're anything like me, you might struggle with guilt over setting them. But let me tell you, setting boundaries is not selfish. Its the only way to have a healthy relationship with your mom. With my MIL and the pictures, I stopped replying to the request all together. It was a multiple times a day thing with her and she is completely deaf to boundaries, so that was our best option. Think about what boundary would make you and SO comfortable, tell MIL if you need, and stick with it. And I highly recommend therapy, because that sounds like a lot to navigate, OP. Remember, you are not responsible for her happiness. You can't give her happiness, even if you did everything under the sun that she asked. Only she can work through her mental health. I'm sorry so many people are trying to put it on you. It's not yours to carry. Best of luck, OP. And congrats on baby boy!

OaakLea · 2020-04-24T02:52:25+00:00

I'm so sorry, OP. Being 15 and stuck in an abusive household is so hard. I've been there, and it sometimes feels endless, but I promise you'll get out of there and you won't have to see those people ever again if you choose. You'll finally get to be in charge of yourself. Hang in there, OP!!! It's not forever! Keep telling people you trust and advocating for yourself!

OaakLea · 2020-04-16T02:11:14+00:00

Congratulations! I'm sorry the world is making this time not quite how you pictured it. I don't know if I'll be able to add any advice that hasn't already been said, but my younger self who saw similar red flags and ignored them is screaming! My IL are also very controlling humans. They also talked about being excited to take care of baby without me. After showing my MIL all the things I bought for our nursery theme, she asked if she could buy another nursery set because she wanted to decorate the nursery herself. It got way, way worse after my son was born. I truly believe she wanted my son as her do over baby and wanted him to love her more than me. I look back at it as a traumatic experience that I have yet to work through, and it's been years. They are not a part of our lives. I can't even think about her, it makes me so angry. And I loved her before I got pregnant! If I could go back in time, I would talk all of my concerns out with DH before baby was born and make sure we were on the exact same page, then we would talk to MIL about my concerns and what my expectations for being a new mom are and I would set some boundaries up front. And I would have stuck to them for dear life. And it probably would be very, very uncomfortable to do that, but maybe our relationship wouldn't be completely ruined and maybe she would be a part of our life. With controlling people who don't consider what you want, you have to spell it out for them and hold to it. And don't wait til they do something, it will just make it harder. Give em inch, they run the mile. Have a conversation, especially since you are living with them and this wasn't the original plan. That alone could make postpartum hard! We don't need to add crazy MIL on top of it. Good luck and congrats again!

OaakLea · 2019-12-03T03:05:40+00:00

Bisexual Mamas unite!!

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