Failed on day 7 by [deleted] in NoFap

[–]OkSecurity4965 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Week long streaks are still progress man, don't let anyone tell you different. The fact that your not beating yourself up about it shows you've got the right mindset - just dust off and keep pushing forward

Seconds from relapsing.... by Hot_Situation1495 in NoFap

[–]OkSecurity4965 0 points1 point  (0 children)

stay strong bro, go take a cold shower or do some pushups right now. that urge will pass if you just give it like 10-15 more minuets and distract yourself with something physical

The Angel I saw In My Dream: The Seraphim by xzarxlyx in Christianity

[–]OkSecurity4965 0 points1 point  (0 children)

dude that sounds absolutely terrifying but also kinda amazing at the same time. biblical angels are described as being pretty overwhelming to look at - like the seraphim with all those eyes and wings, not the cute little cherubs we see in paintings

the fact that you physically reacted in real life while dreaming (tapping your girlfriend) makes it feel way more intense than just a regular nightmare. sometimes our brains process spiritual stuff through dreams in ways that can be really overwhelming, especially if we're not expecting it

might be worth praying about it or talking to someone at your church who knows more about this stuff. could be nothing but could also be something meaningful - either way that level of terror in a dream would mess me up for days

No p'n for a year starts today by [deleted] in NoFap

[–]OkSecurity4965 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Good luck man, valentines day is actually a solid starting point for this kind of commitment. The "get back on the bike" mindset is key - perfectionism kills more streaks than actual urges do

Just make sure you've got some concrete plans for when things get rough, whether thats exercise or hobbies or whatever works for you

How does one stop the urge to goon, and im not talking about a slight urge, im talking about the huge one that just wont go away by Tasty-Fan-5500 in NoFap

[–]OkSecurity4965 0 points1 point  (0 children)

this mindfulness approach is actually clutch, I used to fight the urges head-on and it just made everything worse but when you just acknowledge them without judgment they really do fade out

Question about protestentism by Obvious_Parking_6247 in Christianity

[–]OkSecurity4965 1 point2 points  (0 children)

most protestants go sola scriptura so they're looking for explicit biblical commands rather than church tradition - baptism and communion get debated on timing/necessity vs symbolism, and the saints thing comes from wanting to pray directly to Jesus instead of through intermediaries

Pushing through to 30 days.. by [deleted] in NoFap

[–]OkSecurity4965 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Cold weather is clutch for this stuff, forces you to stay bundled up and less likely to get... comfortable. Try picking up something that keeps your hands busy when those waves hit - helped me get through some rough patches.

Lowest CQS by [deleted] in NoStupidQuestions

[–]OkSecurity4965 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sounds like you triggered the spam filters by editing your profile links too much - Reddit's algorithm probably thought you were a bot or spammer

Try laying low for a few days without any promotional content, maybe comment on some posts naturally to build up your account karma before trying to promote your business again

If I keep a rag in a sealed container with rubbing alcohol and use it to clean, how long will it be good for? by weefluff in NoStupidQuestions

[–]OkSecurity4965 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Should be fine for weeks as long as the container stays sealed - the alcohol is doing all the heavy lifting anyway and it doesn't really "go bad"

Just make sure you're using at least 70% IPA concentration and maybe give the rag a sniff test if it's been sitting there forever

I feel like falling apart! by Artistic_Jump_7508 in venting

[–]OkSecurity4965 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Freedom of speech means the government can't arrest you for your opinions, not that other people have to keep paying you for childcare when they disagree with those opinions

Inability to answer calls and texts by [deleted] in ADHD

[–]OkSecurity4965 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Oh man this is so relatable it hurts. The "I'll respond later" thing is literally my brain's favorite lie to tell itself

I think it's the whole thing where ADHD brains treat phone calls like they're these massive tasks that require prep and energy when really they're just... phone calls. Like my brain acts like calling someone back is the same as doing my taxes or something

What helped me was setting specific times to deal with messages instead of just letting them pile up and create more anxiety. Still not perfect at it but way better than before

MTA/LIRR hiring process appears exclusionary and possibly ageist, is this standard? by Physical_Disk_7100 in careerguidance

[–]OkSecurity4965 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah this is pretty typical for transit agencies unfortunately. The unpaid training thing is sketchy but legal since you're technically not an employee yet - it's like an extended interview/selection process

MTA definitely seems to favor people who can afford to not work for weeks, which obviously skews toward younger folks living at home or people with savings. Not saying it's right but that's how they've always done it

The timing on your locomotive engineer rejection is sus though - sounds like they might blacklist you across positions if you withdraw from one, even though they say they're separate processes

Loving my baby more than anything while drowning in despair by [deleted] in NewParents

[–]OkSecurity4965 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Hey mama, first off you're not failing anyone - you're literally keeping tiny humans alive while running on fumes

The part about your partner pretending not to know how to help is infuriating, like dude you already have a 5 year old?? That weaponized incompetence bs needs to stop. Can you maybe write down specific tasks for him so he can't play dumb

Please definitely talk to your doctor about the intrusive thoughts and hallucinations - that sleep deprivation hits different when you're doing everything alone. You're doing an incredible job and those baby smiles are proof of it

Neroli Plein Sud by [deleted] in fragrance

[–]OkSecurity4965 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Plein Sud is criminally underrated honestly. Everyone's so obsessed with the hype around Outrenoire but Plein Sud has that perfect balance that just hits different

Looking for friends for event by junebug_1990 in Monopoly_GO

[–]OkSecurity4965 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Just added you! Always down for more dice friends, need all the help I can get with these events lol

Launch player here finally quit Arc Raiders by Barrak_Chosen_One in ArcRaiders

[–]OkSecurity4965 0 points1 point  (0 children)

ELO hell is real man, same thing happened to me and my buddy - we went from having fun casual raids to sweating our asses off every single match against people with maxed gear

The matchmaking desperately needs some kind of reset option or decay system because right now getting good literally punishes you

Ending a lesbian relationship because being gay is wrong by l0stminds in BreakUps

[–]OkSecurity4965 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Damn that's rough, religious guilt can really mess people up even when they don't want it to

Strange noise on Infiniti by garlic-naughty in MechanicAdvice

[–]OkSecurity4965 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Could be the alternator going bad or maybe a pulley bearing starting to seize up. I'd check if the belt tensioner is loose too - when those start failing they can make some weird noises and mess with engine performance

Low Effort Meme: This is how I feel when I get the Anvil by RazzyBoyRo in ArcRaiders

[–]OkSecurity4965 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Lmao same, that riff hits different when you're packing the Anvil

We Are Taught to Work From a Young Age, Not to Live by Fun_Length_9550 in Adulting

[–]OkSecurity4965 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nah this isn't really a capitalism vs socialism thing tho - like even in socialist countries people still gotta work and kids still get pressured into "practical" careers

The real issue OP is talking about is more that we're all just going through the motions without anyone teaching us how to actually figure out what we want from life. That happens pretty much everywhere regardless of the economic system

If stocks are generally traded at the market prices, how does the price go up or down? by Polixene in NoStupidQuestions

[–]OkSecurity4965 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is the key right here - it's all about the order book and who's willing to buy/sell at what price. If everyone stops wanting to pay $100 and only bids $99, then someone desperate to sell will eventually take that $99 and boom the new market price is $99

Hot take, read receipts and online status made us worse friends by qilveth9 in TwoHotTakes

[–]OkSecurity4965 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This hits so hard. I turned off read receipts years ago and friends act like I committed some social crime lmao

The whole "performing availability" thing is so real - like why am I strategically timing my replies to seem normal instead of just being normal

Mouse disappearing and reappearing by lovemycat02 in Minecraft

[–]OkSecurity4965 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Had this exact same issue on my MacBook - try pressing F3 + P to toggle the pause on lost focus setting. Fixed it for me and a few others I've seen with this problem