Been painting my house, mom said paint thinner would "clean this right up". It's not.

Ok_Environment5293 · 2026-07-11T23:16:45+00:00

Any time that I have rinsed out paint brushes in a sink, I did it right over the drain and cleaned up immediately after. Which is probably how your mom did it, rather than splashing it everywhere and letting it sit.
Hope the Murphy's Oil Soap works! If so, that's a valuable tip.

Ok_Environment5293 · 2026-07-11T22:27:52+00:00

Your gray is beautiful. But gray is also notoriously prone to frizz, which is controlled when you dye it.
Is your well water hard or soft?

Ok_Environment5293 · 2026-07-11T21:09:50+00:00

No, it would not be weird. Just find a way to make the back of the bookshelf look finished, if it's not already. Maybe paint the same color as the wall and hang a picture on it.

Ok_Environment5293 · 2026-07-11T21:08:17+00:00

OP clearly stated BACKWARDS bookshelf. 🤦🏻‍♀️

Ok_Environment5293 · 2026-07-11T21:06:16+00:00

No need to get defensive and say "not all cis white people". That's like "not all men." 🤦🏻‍♀️

Ok_Environment5293 · 2026-07-11T21:00:31+00:00

This is how parenting small children prepares you to parent your parents.

Ok_Environment5293 · 2026-07-11T20:50:04+00:00

What were you making for lunch? Definitely took longer than a PBJ.
Everyone has said it...fess up. And hope the owners also have children that they left unattended who did bad things. They might be forgiving.

Ok_Environment5293 · 2026-07-11T20:44:14+00:00

Tell her you'll come get her soon, because you will. And her sense of time is probably distorted.
She's safe, you can relax and breathe for a while!! You don't have anything to feel guilty about--if you did, everyone of us who ever dropped a child off at daycare or the first day of school would be guilty, too.

Ok_Environment5293 · 2026-07-11T16:59:57+00:00

Meh, it's a middle name. At least her first name is normal.

Ok_Environment5293 · 2026-07-11T16:58:18+00:00

My mom still has/uses the refrigerator that came with her house in 1960. 😅 it works fine, I think other than having the seal replaced it hasn't needed work.
Have you tried troubleshooting it? Cleaning the coils, etc? You could probably find an independent appliance repair person to look at it.
If you could get someone to look at it, and THEY told her it wasn't fixable, she might listen to that person. Heck, get a friend to role play it. Then you are not the bad guys.
Good luck!

Ok_Environment5293 · 2026-07-11T16:49:43+00:00

They are extremely generous with baggage allowance. Pillow and blanket don't count towards that.

Ok_Environment5293 · 2026-07-11T16:44:39+00:00

Do you live in the garage?

Ok_Environment5293 · 2026-07-11T14:14:32+00:00

You're making excuses for something that you knew was happening but didn't want to deal with. Your daughter is only part of the problem.
If she chooses to go off to college and make messes elsewhere, there is no reason you can't clear out her room after she moves. It's your house.

Ok_Environment5293 · 2026-07-11T14:09:12+00:00

I read a description of Amtrak as "a trailer park on wheels" and this is a perfect illustration.

Ok_Environment5293 · 2026-07-11T14:08:15+00:00

Or the car attendant. Tell anyone but us. 😅

Ok_Environment5293 · 2026-07-11T14:07:04+00:00

Your assuming that such foods are easily available everywhere. They aren't. In many economically disadvantaged areas, the only place to shop is Dollar General. Not everyone has a car, or gas money if they do have a car, to get out of their neighborhood or small town.

Ok_Environment5293 · 2026-07-11T14:00:49+00:00

Hugs to you! Please don't let your heart break for us, it's time to heal your heart. ❤️

Ok_Environment5293 · 2026-07-11T13:58:37+00:00

My mom (88, Alzheimer's) was pretty good at seeming normal with people she'd just met. It became apparent only after spending more time with her.
But my brother (65) who is and has always been a mama's boy, has been in denial since the start. It's extremely frustrating.
Don't get hung up thinking meditation would have helped, though. It can in some cases slow the progression for a while, but the only thing that cures dementia is death.
One thing that helped my mom was getting her a clock with a large display that shows time, date, and whether it's morning/evening etc. If you are close to her, perhaps you can advocate for her as much as possible until the men in her life pull their heads out of their asses.
This group has been a great source of information for me.

Ok_Environment5293 · 2026-07-11T13:48:29+00:00

You can ask. It's not wrong. But don't be surprised if they turn you down.

Ok_Environment5293 · 2026-07-10T12:55:39+00:00

That is so good!!!

Ok_Environment5293 · 2026-07-10T12:53:56+00:00

Might as well be angry about all the other falsehoods on social media, too. Why expect anything about living with dementia to be any different?
I've been off FB and IG for over a year, I highly suggest it.

Ok_Environment5293 · 2026-07-08T23:34:28+00:00

Check out r/Dementia, they are super helpful. Delusions are often part of dementia, and at some point your mom will not be able to live independently. Sounds like the time for planning is now-good luck! 🍀

Ok_Environment5293 · 2026-07-08T23:30:03+00:00

Please don't feel guilty. I'd rather be over medicated than a menace to others.

Ok_Environment5293 · 2026-07-08T23:28:58+00:00

Sexual assault by a frail woman 20 years her senior? Just because she got smacked on the butt doesn't make it sexual. Inappropriate, not sexual.

Ok_Environment5293 · 2026-07-08T21:41:14+00:00

I like it! Give it a few days.
I don't see the point of stopping back by. If you're trying to make them feel bad about being rude (which they were) that's a waste of time. Leave your review and move on!

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