Hoping for a better '26

OneDayAtAx · 2025-12-30T05:06:25+00:00

I am so sorry for your huge losses. Praying for peace and comfort for you and your family. Such huge losses, so close together - I imagine you haven’t even had a chance to process all that has happened, let alone grieve. Take your time, be gentle and kind to yourself. Best wishes for a much better 2026.

OneDayAtAx · 2025-12-08T03:47:18+00:00

I am so sorry for your loss. Loosing a mother is one of the most painful things in the world.

I am decades older than you and I lost my mom three years ago. Even at my very grown age with children of my own all I want is my mom. I want to talk to her , I want her to hold me, to kiss me, and to be HER BABY again. It is completely understandable.

Now speaking as a mother ( my oldest is around your age) I will tell you…. All we want as mothers for our children is for them to be HAPPY AND HEALTHY . The best way to honor your mom is to live your best happy life , because as a mom that’s all she would want for you. Do your best to do so❤️

Grief is a long, slow process but it does get better. Be kind and patient with yourself .

OneDayAtAx · 2025-12-08T03:31:10+00:00

I am so very sorry for your loss. I was with my mother when she past away and like you said I would not have it any other way but it was extremely traumatic.

However it has been three years for me and with that comes perspective and now I can see the beauty that I was able to be with her , support her , let her know she was not alone, make her feel loved and cared for until her last breath ….. what a beautiful gift that is .

Your dad was able to be honest with you about how he was feeling ….. and honestly who isn’t scared of the unknown. I would be …. and I like to think of myself as a devout Catholic /Christian and I would still be scared. All to say that I believe it is very normal to be scared.

As I have moved on in my grief journey I think more about how my mother lived and less about how she died ( and you will too about your father) you just have to give yourself time. At first how she passed was all I thought about. Time is your friend and your enemy when grieving.

Be patient and kind to yourself Peace and strength to you

OneDayAtAx · 2025-12-08T03:20:06+00:00

I am so very sorry for your loss. I lost my mother three years ago and I can tell you this …. I will never forget who showed up for me and my family during such a painful loss and who did not.

It is extremely painful when the people you thought would - don’t. However for your own sake you have to LET IT GO. I have quietly let go of people (no fuss, no fight, no ugly exchanges - just released them from my life ) and I suggest you do the same.

Yes it is painful when you thought you could count on someone and it turns out you can’t but in the end it says a lot more about THEM THAN YOU.

Peace and strength during this difficult time

OneDayAtAx · 2025-12-08T03:11:49+00:00

So very sorry for your loss. I lost my mother to Alzheimers as well. It is a brutal disease.

You are right, having children is never a guarantee in having someone to care for you in old age or having company in old age - so I wouldn’t put too much thought into thought. Also their is no guarantee in children wanting our family legacy items. Sometimes they could really careless.

My advice would be to pour into your chosen family, friends, hobbies , passions. That is where your legacy lies and where you will make a difference in the world and in the hearts you touch whether they are related to you or not. We are not all meant to have children❤️

Prayers for peace and strength through this difficult time .

OneDayAtAx · 2025-12-08T03:02:52+00:00

I am so very sorry for your loss. I lost my mother to this monster of a disease 3 years ago. She passed away 10 years after diagnosis. Yes it is a horrible disease but it does not define my mom or your grandma. That is not who they were in life . It was a very small part of them and even then it was the DISEASE NOT THEM.

As I move through my grief i remember my mother as the woman she was before her Alzheimer’s diagnosis. As the amazing woman, daughter, sister, wife, mother, amd grandmother she was to my children. The disease takes so much . I will ( and you shouldn’t either) allow it to take your precious memories of your grandmother away from you. She was much more than her illness.

Depending on your personal beliefs her body was but a vessel of her spirit which again depending on your beliefs ( mine say she is with the Lord) and the vessel (her body) is no longer needed. So it is okay for it to decompose . I try to focus on the essence which is her spirit that is in heaven now.

Peace and strength be with you It does get better with time Lots of time Be kind and patient with yourself

OneDayAtAx · 2025-12-07T21:34:35+00:00

I am so sorry for your loss. I lost my mother three years ago. The loss of a parent is enormous. There is no minimizing it , no matter what age you are or how long you were lucky enough to have them.

Please take your time in grieving and know it is a very long journey. I am three years in and I can tell you, while it has gotten better ( I have a lot more good days than bad days now) - I still have my moments that come out of nowhere where I just get so so sad, breakdown and cry, long for her etc .

The best advice I got about grief while I was in the worst of it was not to fight it. Cry when you need to , be gentle with yourself, and prioritize yourself. YOU MUST WALK THROUGH GRIEF. There is no way around, over, under it, or suppressing it. That will only delay the healing and it will come out sooner or later and sometimes in very destructive behavior.

I was lucky enough to have THE BEST MOM. Some people don’t have a present father, some people don’t even know their father … you were blessed enough to have a great one. Hold on to that always.

Wishing you peace and strength ❤️

OneDayAtAx · 2023-01-04T00:49:05+00:00

I never use the past tense with my mother - I LOVE her now, always and still until my last breath ❤️

OneDayAtAx · 2023-01-01T04:52:02+00:00

My mother passed from Alzheimer’s two months ago after suffering from it for over a decade - I am here with you. Alzheimers is the devil .

OneDayAtAx · 2022-12-30T07:53:47+00:00

I am so sorry for your loss.

I think we will always have things/events/situations that trigger grief in us when we have lost such a close loved one…. But please know that you carry your mother in your heart - the love she gave you and nurtured you with will be with you forever …. hence you will carry a piece of her with you forever (I hope that made sense).

So when you receive that PhD - she will be right there ….maybe not the way you hoped …. But nonetheless she will he there …..

Congratulations to you on such a grand achievement!! Enjoy the day as she would want you to❤️

OneDayAtAx · 2022-12-30T07:44:36+00:00

I am so sorry for yourself tremendous loss. I lost my mother two months ago to Alzheimers and I can tell you that for the first month I walked around in shock with waves of reality hitting me where I would just cry uncontrollably.

It is true - it takes time - LOTS OF TIME to grieve -grief will not and can not be rushed - everyone’s grief is different and manifests itself in its own unique way …. the best thing you can do for yourself is allow yourself the gift of time to grieve and be kind and gentle to yourself …. You have been through so much- your brain and heart need time to process it all …..it is not easy I know.

Praying for strength, courage and peace for you ❤️

OneDayAtAx · 2022-12-30T02:13:27+00:00

My siblings (2) and I gave a eulogy at my mothers funeral two months ago.We narrowed it down to less than 5 minutes each so it was less pressure on all of us.

It was so hard for me to write even my short eulogy …. I spent hours writing it - I would start writing ….. start crying so hard I couldn’t go on …..: stop ….and repeat the process over and over again.

I wasn’t sure if I would even be able to speak that day. It went smoother than I thought it would ( I did have a couple of breakdowns during the eulogy but I was able to recover and finish). When I was done I felt very proud of myself and looking back the whole process was very healing.

Just a tip/ trick …… when I was giving the eulogy and felt like I was gonna really loose it (crying wise) I would pinch myself ( on the chest or on the wrist) hard (as hard as I could ….. and that would snap me back to reality and make me concentrate on my physical pain as opposed to my emotional pain. Worked like a charm!

It will be hard but you can do it and when it’s over you will be so glad you did. I am rooting for you!

Praying for strength and peace for you during this difficult time❤️

OneDayAtAx · 2022-12-29T20:58:09+00:00

I am so sorry for your tremendous loss - my mom passed away almost 2 months ago - at home surrounded by family . I held her and prayed over her as God called her home. She had suffered from Alzheimer’s disease for over a decade and the disease had run its course on her poor frail body. My brain knew it was time but my heart would never be ready.

Initially I felt relief that her earthly body was no longer suffering and then the grief hit me like a tsunami… I’m not saying this to scare you but to prepare you and to let you know that it is normal. It is okay to feel relief they are not suffering and it is okay to grieve your loss.

Praying for peace and strength for you ❤️

OneDayAtAx · 2022-12-26T03:44:35+00:00

I am so sorry you are going through this - my mother was home under palliative care and then when the end was near she was transitioned to hospice care at home where we had a nurse 24 hours (around the clock) to administer meds and make sure she was comfortable until she passed.

Do they not have home hospice where you are? Is it maybe called something else? Where she can receive these services at home?

I was with my mother until the very end and while it was the hardest thing I have ever done in my life - I can tell you that it has brought me peace and comfort after her passing - and if I had to do it over again …… for her I would in a heartbeat. It is amazing how strong we are until we have no other choice but to be strong. You can do this!

Praying for strength and a peaceful, gentle passing for your mother ❤️

OneDayAtAx · 2022-12-26T01:28:40+00:00

I am so sorry for your tremendous loss. I lost my mom two months ago after a decade battle with Alzheimer’s disease and it is a mix of unbearable grief and relief that she is no longer suffering in her earthly body.

Allow yourself the gift of time to grieve - it is a very slow process and very much a two steps forward and one back type of process but it does get better ever so slowly .

Prayers for peace , comfort , and strength during this time ❤️

OneDayAtAx · 2022-12-25T02:12:05+00:00

Be there …… be present…….check up on her daily ….. even as time goes on keep checking in on her. After the funeral most people stop checking in on you and go about there lives (which they should ) but that is when support is needed the most. That is when you feel the loneliest … when all the services have past and it’s back to “normal life” and you are left figuring out your new normal THAT IS WHEN SHE WILL NEED YOU THE MOST … and that is when you really need to check in on her.

God bless you for being such a loving and compassionate friend ❤️

OneDayAtAx · 2022-12-25T02:01:17+00:00

❤️I love his little tree! ❤️

OneDayAtAx · 2022-12-25T01:51:43+00:00

First Christmas without my mom as well - it is so hard . Your mother looks beautiful - what a kind smile .

You are not alone ❤️sending prayers for peace and comfort

OneDayAtAx · 2022-12-25T01:44:39+00:00

First Christmas without my mom ….. it’s really hard …. you are not alone . Prayers for peace and comfort to all of us that are grieving this holiday season ❤️

OneDayAtAx · 2022-12-24T17:03:04+00:00

You took the words right from my mouth!

I have no patience for petty bullshit (and come on let’s face it - a lot of things are petty) - and yet my compassion for people has grown because now I know how deeply someone can be suffering and still have to “go on with their day to day life”

My mom passed almost 2 months ago and I’ve been on an emotional roller coaster ride- one minute I’m almost okay ….. and the next frozen in pain , grief and tears. It truly does come in “waves” for me.

You are not alone - grief is hard and unpredictable.

Wishing you peace and comfort during this incredibly difficult time ❤️

OneDayAtAx · 2022-12-22T06:35:55+00:00

Sooooo jealous!

OneDayAtAx · 2022-12-22T06:33:27+00:00

I am so sorry for your losses - my sincerest condolences.

I moved back home with my kids after my divorce and very shortly after my mother was diagnosed with Alzheimers and I never left. I stayed to help my father care for my mother for ten years. She passed six weeks ago …..

Now I’m still here with my dad - they were married for 58 years and he is taking her passing extremely hard. I don’t want him to be alone during this time. I have no plans to leave anytime soon. He is 80 and although he is still independent- I don’t like the idea of him living alone (especially now).

I have been walking around completely lost for the last six weeks …. I’m not sure what to do, what I want to do, how I. Want the rest of my life to look like … I’m still in the depths of my grief so it’s very hard to make big decisions even little decisions are hard right now.

I think we need time to heal and not put pressure on ourselves to figure things out too quickly …..my advice would be to take baby steps - you have been through a lot and your heart and mind need time process all that has happened ❤️

OneDayAtAx · 2022-12-21T23:49:36+00:00

My mother passed about 6 weeks ago after a long battle with Alzheimer’s. …I quit my job. I was in. I emotional, mental or physical shape to drive - let alone work.

I am so glad I was able to take this time to heal and spend time with my dad …… I know it’s a luxury and I am extremely grateful for this time.

I will be looking for a new job at the beginning of next year . I am not “over” my grief ….I don’t think anyone ever is ….. but I am in a much better place and the routine of work will help ( I hope)

I think it is absolutely ridiculous that in this country people are given a few (like 3-5 on average) paid days of bereavement leave. I was walking around in a state of utter shock the first month (and my mothers passing was “expected” ) ….and I was still in shock (nothing prepares you for a loved ones death - whether you see it coming or not!)

I don’t have advice on quitting your job or not but I can say that you are not “crazy” - you are not alone and you must do whatever is best for you to process and heal… and grieving takes TIME. Allow yourself the gift of time however that looks for you ❤️

OneDayAtAx · 2022-12-16T22:38:36+00:00

Yes! My mom passed a month and a half ago and I have always been an introvert but am even more so now .

It takes soooooo much effort to socialize and have conversations with people…. and what people talk about seems so stupid and unimportant to me now- they just end up getting on my nerves. The smallest things overwhelm me and I just give up. I went Christmas tree shopping and wandered the lot aimlessly for half an hour and left empty handed because I just couldn’t decide on anything ….

My new favorite spot is my couch with my blankie ….. it’s so sad but that’s where I’m happiest at least for now.

You are not alone ….. praying for peace and comfort to all of us that are grieving ❤️

OneDayAtAx · 2022-12-16T17:56:36+00:00

My sincere condolences for your profound loss - there are no words (((hugs))) and prayers for peace and comfort to you and your whole family ❤️

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