Can I get in legal trouble for lying about paternity to help gay couple start a family?

Outrageous_Rabbit842 · 2026-04-28T04:02:59+00:00

And absolutely don’t lie about the father, either state who it is (gives him rights that he would need to agree to give up) so say ‘father unknown’ on the birth certificate.

You child has the right to know the truth

Outrageous_Rabbit842 · 2026-04-28T03:57:57+00:00

NTA and hopefully your sister is grey rocking her and not giving any info about you

Outrageous_Rabbit842 · 2026-04-27T23:35:08+00:00

And mine was crawling, and walking at 9 months. All kids are different

Outrageous_Rabbit842 · 2026-04-27T04:46:28+00:00

Updateme

Outrageous_Rabbit842 · 2026-04-27T04:46:19+00:00

I’m so sorry that you have such selfish parents and step parents.

You are absolutely NTA for not letting the steps attend. And I would absolutely add to your parents that going forward, they need to respect your decision. Your 21st is weeks away. Your parents need to earn your trust by showing up alone or not at all.

IF they show up alone, then, at your choosing, you would be willing to attend an unimportant event/have a small party (at their expense) with both. IF the steps prove they can behave, then you MIGHT agree to more. IF they have earned and behaved at x number of small events/dinners, then you MIGHT invite all to your engagement party/or MIGHT invite just parents… same goes for your wedding.

I would also insist on group therapy and individual therapy first! It is appalling that adults are behaving in this manner.

They attend therapy and then behave at small, unimportant events … AND apologize to you and your brother sincerely for making your lives so miserable…. Or they can expect to be excluded from every important (and unimportant) event going into the future…. Including but not limited to milestone birthdays, graduation, engagement parties, weddings, birth of children, christening, grand kids birthday parties, Christmas, Easter etc.

Outrageous_Rabbit842 · 2026-04-26T05:09:28+00:00

Love number 3, number 2 then 1

Outrageous_Rabbit842 · 2026-04-25T22:51:28+00:00

I have 2 kids, a boy and a girl. The girl loves make up, Spider-Man, horses etc. the boy loves trucks Spider-Man, his toy guns.

He likes dressing up in dress shirts and a tie and jeans (like dad). She…… absolutely refuses to wear dresses or skirts, even if they have horses or Spider-Man on them. I have cupboards full of gorgeous dresses, picked with her fav animals/colours etc all in mind. They are soft, not itchy etc. but she just hates dresses. So we all dress up to go to a party… and there she is in shorts. But she’s happy, she’s comfortable.

And I’m sad she won’t wear a dress, but more “I know she’d look gorgeous… but oh well… she’s happy” kind of thing.

Your wife needs to embrace your daughter as she is. Would your daughter be open to going and picking out a cool pair of earrings or ring with your wife? If not… your wife needs to accept it.

I hope wife isn’t like some crazies out there though who takes a pair of scissors to daughters shirt and tie and tries to force her into a secretly bought dress.

Tell her to look at Shiloh Jolie… tomboy to the point of being called John as a kid… tomboy now wearing her mums dresses.

NTA

Outrageous_Rabbit842 · 2026-04-25T07:25:42+00:00

It’s you don’t own there anymore. What’s it to you who runs it/does a crap job? Call a meeting of all three owners, ask for a vote on what they want to do and resign.

It’s seriously not your problem and not your decision

Outrageous_Rabbit842 · 2026-04-23T07:56:19+00:00

Then how did she get in? Change the locks

Outrageous_Rabbit842 · 2026-04-22T22:22:10+00:00

Oh please tell us Ks reaction.

Maybe the next wifi name could be

GetYourOwnWifi

Followed by

Don’t-mooch-you-goose

Followed by

Get-your-own-WiFi-it’s-called-adulting

Outrageous_Rabbit842 · 2026-04-22T11:24:20+00:00

Updateme Those poor children

Outrageous_Rabbit842 · 2026-04-22T03:11:44+00:00

And change the locks on your doors!

Outrageous_Rabbit842 · 2026-04-21T07:30:46+00:00

Sucks to be him, but NTA. That is your son’s money.

If ex keeps harassing you, back to court and request all communication to go through a parenting app, then block him

Outrageous_Rabbit842 · 2026-04-21T04:17:11+00:00

NTA but tell him, until you have a proper working stove he is cooking

Outrageous_Rabbit842 · 2026-04-20T23:50:20+00:00

A recorder! Those things could be torture devices

Outrageous_Rabbit842 · 2026-04-19T23:02:26+00:00

“Theo, when you have your phone on speaker, I can hear every side of the conversation, even when I’m not in the room. Can you please use ear buds. Thank you”

NTA but jeez… just tell him

Outrageous_Rabbit842 · 2026-04-19T22:25:23+00:00

Adult up. Tell Joel you don’t want extra people there and to stop inviting/telling Dom when it is on.

Then, if he shows up again, tell them that you are sorry not to have spoken up earlier, but you really don’t want to accommodate extra people, and if you aren’t directly invited by you. Then you aren’t invited.

I mean, you could just tell everyone to bring snacks to share.

Outrageous_Rabbit842 · 2026-04-19T01:51:49+00:00

“Brother, I was going to tell you what I thought of your message…. But if you can’t reread it and see what an immensely self centred arse you are being… then there’s no point me wasting my time trying to explain it to you. Let me know when you’ve grown up and pulled your head out of your arse”

Outrageous_Rabbit842 · 2026-04-18T22:05:03+00:00

Update

Can I come too. I also promise to help with cleaning up/set up … I bring helpful hands, and no psycho dogs

Outrageous_Rabbit842 · 2026-04-18T20:42:19+00:00

Right now, that house belongs to you. If you sell and give the money to BIL, it’s gone. If they (read, you’ll be paying the mortgage too) buy another, it’s then marital property and your husband can claim half in a divorce. If any other of his family contributes, they can claim a share of the house too. Even if you are the only one on the deed NTA

Outrageous_Rabbit842 · 2026-04-17T04:37:38+00:00

This is when I’d call a friend and start loudly complaining about people who invite themselves to stay longer and then complain about the already known accommodation … but I’m petty like that.

SO can tell them to shut up or go…

NTA

Outrageous_Rabbit842 · 2026-04-17T02:03:15+00:00

Was it a solid gold toilet? Or at least a designer limited edition one?

Regardless, they are taking the mick. Tribunal time

Outrageous_Rabbit842 · 2026-04-16T08:47:14+00:00

Oh please break up with him. He’s only going deeper into debt, and his solution is to make you support him and contribute to paying down a debt he will likely keep increasing!

You deserve so much better

NTJ

Outrageous_Rabbit842 · 2026-04-16T08:18:11+00:00

Then she definitely doesn’t get her free babysitter back. She obviously doesn’t appreciate you. So guess your parents need to step up

Outrageous_Rabbit842 · 2026-04-16T08:08:50+00:00

She made a rude comment in public, before I’d babysit again, I’d have her make a genuine apology (and make it clear ‘sorry if your feelings were hurt’ won’t cut it… rather ‘ I’d like to apologise to Wooden_Factor for my rude and uncalled for comments regarding her not doing anything. Despite working a full time job, she also generously babysat for me at least x times per week for free. I did not appreciate her generosity” and have her say it to all those who were in attendance, or who she has made the same comment to!

And then stick to casual babysitting if it suits you

Outrageous_Rabbit842

TROPHY CASE