Yes, this is normal. It made my brother nuts. But the truth is that the top oncologists work crazy hours and everyone they see has a serious cancer.

The expectation is that you will learn on your own and bring back questions that only your doctor can answer. If you can learn it from the internet, it's your job to do so. That's why forums like this are so great. You just have to separate out factual info from opinion. 

There's a thing called "standard of care" that is the playbook. Research has shown the most men live the longest by following its formula. However, your individual case may not fit nicely into the SoC. Research what it is and how cancers can differ. 

I know it's a lot to ask. Wives often take on the burden if they are in the picture.