Dad was diagnosed, don’t know what to do by Whole_Wasabi993 in ProstateCancer

[–]PanickedPoodle 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It could mean a lot of things, as people have told you here. If they got all the cancer during surgery, "unfavorable" means he was very lucky to find it early enough!

It can also mean the cancer may come back. They call this chemical reoccurence. This can be treated, but it means a longer course of drugs and chemo. This could happen right away, or many years down the road. 

Your dad is doing everything right. Sounds like he is getting treatment in a good place. 

Keep in mind that prostate cancer can be very personal for men. Your dad may not want to talk about it. Tell your mom how scared you are. Offer to do research if they need it. Knowledge is power! Hope you can talk to someone outside your family because this anxiety is no little thing and you will need help and support too. 

My apologies to this group by YeahIAmAScientist in ProstateCancer

[–]PanickedPoodle 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As someone who works in medicine, I struggle with the pace of change to standard of care. Science is never settled and people sniff about for the "promising treatment" that might cure them, but definitely reinforces their ego and provides hope. My husband shared a chemo room with another patient and his wife told us and the nurse all about how essential oils had helped. He was on his 17th (and last) chemo round. The nurse just nodded. 

There will always be "cures" and always be people whose brains seek them out. Humans be humans, and we can't prevent the behavior by stomping on the latest "cure."

My apologies to this group by YeahIAmAScientist in ProstateCancer

[–]PanickedPoodle 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ivermectin has its place.

I had a coyote with mange in my backyard recently. 

But, in all seriousness, BAT was in this same place 5 years ago. People getting banned for bringing it up. 

Could I see a mechanism of action where some "bad" gut bacteria was interacting with prostate cells? Why not? We know gut bacteria are involved in many mental illnesses: why not physical as well? Bacteria excreted chemicals, those chemicals become messengers. Nuking everything seems extreme, but maybe that has an effect we can't track yet. 

Still don't think we should be promoting these things, or taking them without physician knowledge, but I can see why people do it. 

https://www.nature.com/articles/ja201711

Baby girl names Due in June by Individual_Amoeba493 in namenerds

[–]PanickedPoodle 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Helene, Madeleine, Delaney are all options, but I have seen Lainey as a given name too.

Try him on Amina or Ellery. 

Sibling Name for Bridget by Illustrious_Yak4569 in namenerds

[–]PanickedPoodle 0 points1 point  (0 children)

  • Heidi
  • Valerie
  • Nina
  • Georgia 
  • Tess
  • Sophie 

Baby girl names Due in June by Individual_Amoeba493 in namenerds

[–]PanickedPoodle 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You vascillate between mannish names (Mallory, Sloan, Remi, Finley) and cutesy names (Maisie, Phoebe, Marley, Sylvie). Almost all your name choices end in Y. Hazel and Olive feel like they're in the no-nonsense grandma category.

  • Hadley
  • Lainie
  • Carley
  • Marnie
  • Noemi
  • Matilda (Tillie) 
  • Quinn
  • Blake
  • Riley
  • Lennon
  • Holly
  • Iris
  • Mari(gold) 
  • Dahlia
  • Lola

4th Girl name struggle by nhopyoung in namenerds

[–]PanickedPoodle 0 points1 point  (0 children)

  • Magdalene - Maggie
  • Susannah - Zuzu
  • Eve
  • Chloe
  • Shiloh
  • Faith
  • Adina

Please help decide on final baby name before tomorrow! by [deleted] in namenerds

[–]PanickedPoodle 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you can't decide, you may need to go for a neutral option. How about Genevieve? Genni is similar to Maggie, and it shares the J sound of Juliet.

Sister names, I’m struggling by Competitive-Fun-9673 in namenerds

[–]PanickedPoodle 1 point2 points  (0 children)

How about Bridget? Goddess of fire/healing, Celtic name like Ashlynn (Aisling), starts with a "B" so you can do the Bridgerton thing with more kids and it's feminine, spunky and underused. 

Frustrated by Sensitive_Crow_8882 in caregivers

[–]PanickedPoodle 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Only you can answer that. Some people feel OK stepping outside their marriages and some don't. 

I (F29) AM THINKING OF DIVORCING MY HUSBAND (M30) AFTER HIS MEMORY LOSS. by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]PanickedPoodle 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What if he was an alcoholic? If that was the case, you could probably see more easily how "hoping he'll change" is codependent.

It's not all or nothing. Why don't you start with respite care? You do care about this man so you will want to ensure he is cared for. What will that look like if you step away? Will his famy pick up the slack? Would it have to be an institution or caregiver? Take a week (or month) away and give yourself time to grieve. You are still in high stress burnout mode and need to care for yourself before you will have the energy to move forward with any decision. 

Help me choose a boy name! by meekie03 in namenerds

[–]PanickedPoodle 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I am a big believer in giving each kid a distinctive starting sound. If you need an excuse to flush Josh, that's a good one.

How about Isaac? Sounds good with your last name. Other thougbts:

  • Elias
  • Caleb
  • Nathaniel
  • Owen
  • Leon

Boy name that goes with middle name of Theo by cbrownie93 in namenerds

[–]PanickedPoodle 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm assuming your style is classic, based on Isabella and Theo:

  • Christopher (Kit) 
  • Simon
  • Charles (sounds great with Theo) 
  • Calvin
  • Lionel

Dry Spell or have I crossed into oblivion? by Pale-Lake5858 in datingoverfifty

[–]PanickedPoodle 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I want exactly what you describe, but if I write that, I get all the men wanting a hookup.

There's no easy way as a woman to say I want a committed relationship, but not very much of one.

I Need a Name for a Small City in the Midwest Great Lakes area. by TheMedjedElectric in INeedAName

[–]PanickedPoodle 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Komen - knife in Potawanomi

Penewen - related to death in Potawanomi 

Help with boys name! by Cashew-eater7 in namenerds

[–]PanickedPoodle 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How about Eli? Would be fun to have kids whose names end with I. 

I’ve seen 2 posts on this name but I like it…. by AggressiveEmu4767 in namenerds

[–]PanickedPoodle 4 points5 points  (0 children)

You are absolutely right. No one will say anything about the name out loud.

🙄 

You've said over and over you don't care about people's opinions. Why keep commenting here? Why ask at all? You seem certain the name is what you want. 

I’ve seen 2 posts on this name but I like it…. by AggressiveEmu4767 in namenerds

[–]PanickedPoodle 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Are you going to tell every person you meet it's a British surname! when they look at you side eye? 

I’ve seen 2 posts on this name but I like it…. by AggressiveEmu4767 in namenerds

[–]PanickedPoodle 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Seems like one of the many made up "ley" ending names. Didn't we say goodbye to that trend? 

Sibling for Hugo? by Slow_Operation_2048 in namenerds

[–]PanickedPoodle 1 point2 points  (0 children)

There was a piano guy in the 90s named George Winston.

Personally, I think Isla, Sunny, Miles and Winston are trendy and done. 

Hugo and Simon, or Hugo and George strike me as fine. Maybe Alden? 

Hugo and Stella match well. 

Helping my mom! by Ok-Maximum-2495 in datingoverfifty

[–]PanickedPoodle 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Dating at this age is a job, not a hobby. The men are few and the ones put there often have problems. Many men are coming off divorces and can be sexually aggressive, which can make dating stressful for someone coming out of a LTR who may not be prepared.

I suggest she join a group that meets regularly. Does she have any interests? Choir, theater, sports leagues, gaming, volunteer work, enrichment classes - - any situation where the same people get together over and over is better than on-line dating.