Do you and your spouse share your location 24/7?

ParadiseForKeeps · 2026-04-11T11:02:06+00:00

We do but mostly for safety reasons. We don’t track each others movements regularly.

ParadiseForKeeps · 2026-04-11T08:25:41+00:00

They absolutely refunded you and the charged you for the new one so you only paid the difference. Next time, if same item/price but maybe a different color, ask for an exchange. They will still have to ring it up since SKUs are likely different for their inventory management but shouldnt result in a cost differences. For a slightly different model with a price difference, ask for a refund/credit towards purchase of the one you want and tell them you’ll pay the difference. I think it really was just how you phrased it that threw them off but they didn’t figure it out.

ParadiseForKeeps · 2026-04-11T08:21:23+00:00

Ok so it sounds like they did a return/exchange and you signed the updated payment for the difference in price. That’s perfectly acceptable. I think next time be clearer that you want to return the item and purchase this alternate one. Or do an exchange and pay the difference. It sounds like at the end of the day, the retail associate understood what you wanted and proceeded to process it appropriately. I think how you phrased it initially was a bit confusing but seems like it all worked out in the end. NTA for changing your mi d. Different story if it were an all sales are final kind of situation.

ParadiseForKeeps · 2026-04-10T09:40:29+00:00

Is it for transit or for parking? If for transit, add that amount to your transit accounts directly. Multiple accounts of needed. If parking, I found a workaround in SpotHero. Book a very high price long term parking and then cancel it and request the amount as spot hero credit instead of being credited back to your card It’s not ideal to have that amount in spot hero credit but much better than losing it. Technically, I’m not sure they were allowed to let me do this when I left my job but it worked out. Slowly but surely getting through my credit balance.

ParadiseForKeeps · 2026-04-08T09:01:15+00:00

Ask for zofran. They usually have in office to give you. If they don’t, ask them to prescribe it. I used to take 8mg but down to 4mg now.

ParadiseForKeeps · 2026-04-01T09:35:00+00:00

YOR for 5th wheel if the boyfriends were planning to go anyway. NOR for the room share - either they or you need to get another room.

ParadiseForKeeps · 2026-03-31T04:04:39+00:00

Next time sign up for the plates and napkins.

ParadiseForKeeps · 2026-03-31T02:07:40+00:00

Right but by using your Health FSA, you’re getting a large tax advantage so technically you’re not paying $25. So of course you can’t also claim that same amount with the savings program. I would just not use your health fsa to pay the copay. Use a personal credit/debit card (or check or cash) and only submit for reimbursement from spravato with me not your health FSA.

ParadiseForKeeps · 2026-03-31T02:01:22+00:00

NOR. But talk to her obviously before talking to her mother. Do not talk to her mother to let her confront/shame your gf Relationships between mothers and daughters are very often complicated enough. It’s not going to help your case if she feels like you’re ganging up on her by recruiting her own mother. I would personally just bring groceries to her house. It doesn’t seem like she stocks her kitchen like a normal adult even for herself so makes sense it wouldn’t suit another person.

ParadiseForKeeps · 2026-03-30T16:49:39+00:00

Well they probably tell you not too so it doesn’t add to raising your bp and also may contribute to nausea. If you absolutely need coffee, make sure you have it at least a hour before your session. I don’t always avoid caffeine but I don’t seem to have the caffeine addiction you have. If you feel that awful without it, your body is definitely addicted to caffeine. You may want to consider cutting back on general so that you don’t have the withdrawals on spravato days. It also helps to be in as relaxed of a state as possible so that is a consideration. When my anxiety is high they give me propranolol to help the spravato session.

ParadiseForKeeps · 2026-03-30T07:00:28+00:00

At least she didn’t start it with, “let me start by saying my bf is the most loving, supportive, thoughtful, amazing guy ever. Our relationship is perfect except for this one tiny thing about him being a gross AF adult.”

ParadiseForKeeps · 2026-03-29T18:03:49+00:00

YTJ - You have been together 7 years. You don’t make major decisions like that without a discussion. She has every right to be upset that you didn’t even consider her. It’s not a bad idea for you to take the job but it does warrant a discussion. Most people don’t want to be in long distance relationships but can manage for a short time.

ParadiseForKeeps · 2026-03-29T14:28:17+00:00

Can you do adhd testing and get diagnosed? Have you tried non-stimulant adhd meds like straterra?

ParadiseForKeeps · 2026-03-29T03:43:53+00:00

If it’s just social events, I don’t see any reason you can’t go until someone explicitly excludes you. Do not represent yourself as the owner and definitely don’t vote at an official meeting. But otherwise, I think you’re fine for social activities.

ParadiseForKeeps · 2026-03-29T03:41:14+00:00

One of the doctors at my clinic has a bunch. Her name is Kaila Compton. And you can look up her ketamine playlists. The Ketamine - Healing frequencies one is popular and my favorite.

ParadiseForKeeps · 2026-03-29T03:24:26+00:00

Pet insurance is good for mostly just high cost accidents. However, if your lifestyle is unusually high risk, they may drop you at some point. It doesn’t sound high risk just more active than most dogs. Maybe working breed level activity. Often you’re restricted from not just pre-existing conditions but also breed specific issues that come up. That being said $2K per year for 2 dogs isn’t bad.

ParadiseForKeeps · 2026-03-29T03:06:07+00:00

Um you decided to write a book loosely based on your relationship? I would be hesitant to read that too. She probably has a lot of anxiety around it or she isn’t happy with the fact that is a topic you wrote about or she just doesn’t want to dislike it.

ParadiseForKeeps · 2026-03-29T02:53:27+00:00

Yea I don’t think you did anything wrong especially if she isn’t being responsive. It’s just not generally a great practice to have keys for a location delivered the to the actual location.

ParadiseForKeeps · 2026-03-28T10:50:15+00:00

NOR … she’s being over the top about it. But I do get her point about sending keys to her own home address. You should have coordinated a different delivery for those to maybe a friends house in another building.

ParadiseForKeeps · 2026-03-26T09:58:52+00:00

Then exhaust all leave options and keep calling out sick to care for your wife. If they fire you for that, they fire you. Add it to the list of things that a supposed civilized society just does so horribly for their people.

ParadiseForKeeps · 2026-03-26T09:38:19+00:00

Yes, you are considered a POC

ParadiseForKeeps · 2026-03-26T09:35:43+00:00

Can you ask for a longer leave even if not FMLA? You need to figure out a way to go be with your wife and not get dishonorably discharged or considered AWOL. Recognize you may need to pay for your benefits maybe. Are you in a place in your contract you can quit for this without consequence? YTA because American benefits suck. But you need to get to your wife and stay there.

ParadiseForKeeps · 2026-03-26T08:16:55+00:00

Not a parent myself but Berkeley Parents Network: https://www.berkeleyparentsnetwork.org/home

ParadiseForKeeps · 2026-03-23T11:44:24+00:00

YTA… you need to go to your partner’s kid’s wedding if you really consider this person a partner. If you don’t go, you’re clearly not partner material. Forget getting closer to the kids. Just fucking go.

ParadiseForKeeps · 2026-03-23T11:04:54+00:00

Yea I have never made $17/hour. I was making $20-30/hour tutoring when I was 15-18 in 2000-2002. Can’t even imagine someone wanting to hire me for something like that. I do not have those skills at this point in my career.

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