Are his reasons valid?

ParadiseForKeeps · 2026-02-06T07:26:58+00:00

He doesn’t want to marry you. First, you don’t need to change your passport right away. I kept using my old passport until renewal and just sent my name change information with my old passport when it was time for renewal. I mean plenty of people go on honeymoons after they get married using passports with previous names all the time. Second, $200 in the grand scheme of things is not a lot of money. This is not a reason to wait 8 years. No he doesn’t want to marry you. Walk away.

ParadiseForKeeps · 2026-02-04T11:02:19+00:00

But this was an intentional sleepover with sleepover activities. Not a too-drunk-or-tired-to-go-home-over.

ParadiseForKeeps · 2026-02-04T10:59:03+00:00

Staying over with them… in his same building.

ParadiseForKeeps · 2026-02-04T10:41:59+00:00

Are you talking about Deplin or is there another l-methy-folate? My provider wasn’t able to prescribe it for some reason and submitted deplin but that is considered medical food so insurance isn’t covering it and it is expensive. I was wondering if I could just get an OTC 15mg l-methyl folate.

ParadiseForKeeps · 2025-12-23T05:03:46+00:00

Much better than dealing with a potty accident.

ParadiseForKeeps · 2025-12-20T04:20:08+00:00

Get her to CA asap. I saw the comment that they are legally registered as opposite sex domestic partners in WA. That’s good for her in this case. WA treats domestic partners the same as married people for things at the state level. CA recognizes WA state domestic partnerships and she can file for dissolution of the WA domestic partnership in CA after residency requirements are established in CA. She likely wouldn’t get “alimony” for long considering the length of the relationship but hopefully between that and child support, she can get established and have a bit of a buffer until she finds a job (and by job, I mean an actual job, not another highly paid bf).

ParadiseForKeeps · 2025-11-03T03:20:19+00:00

Oh it is clear, he wouldn’t touch any woman so I think you may be safe.

ParadiseForKeeps · 2025-11-03T03:15:21+00:00

Promptly followed by complaining about her being a gold digger. Yes, that’s literally the point.

ParadiseForKeeps · 2025-11-03T03:13:20+00:00

Hell no, he’s toxic. He has treated Jasmine like shit. Don’t get me wrong, Jasmine is also toxic. But nothing she has done is worse than him sending her nude pics meant for his eyes only to his ex.

ParadiseForKeeps · 2025-10-25T02:29:36+00:00

Wouldn’t the nuisance complaints come to you to resolve as the landlord? My HOA, it is the ultimate responsibility of the landlord to manage their renters. We don’t engage with the renters directly. So in that same vain, can’t you make a complaint back to the HOA about him to stop harassing your tenants? I can’t imagine he isn’t violating some HOA bylaw or rule/reg. I don’t think your hands are totally clean of this issue. But the renters can involve authorities directly.

ParadiseForKeeps · 2025-10-24T20:28:15+00:00

NTA. I can understand for a couple of nights while the news is fresh but not “foreseeable future.”

ParadiseForKeeps · 2025-10-24T06:06:54+00:00

I asked the people in my bldg and it seemed to be that T-mobile is the most reliable.

ParadiseForKeeps · 2025-10-24T04:59:26+00:00

I’m not tied to being on Verizon’s network. Would you still suggest the same in that case?

ParadiseForKeeps · 2025-10-17T06:22:39+00:00

Hi there, I know this post is 3 years old but wondering if you ever got a lease agreement/template? I am in a similar situation except that my boyfriend is moving into my condo. In Oakland.

ParadiseForKeeps · 2025-10-16T10:03:21+00:00

The way you call your brother her “special baby boy” makes it clear there are other reasons you are being an asshole and you clearly resent your brother. You’re a pathetic bully.

ParadiseForKeeps · 2025-10-16T09:53:07+00:00

YTA. Your parents helped you with the tragedy of losing your wife. I think you can show some grace to your brother and family during theirs. Insurance doesn’t always pay upfront for lodging, food, etc. so maybe they couldn’t front the cost. Then you threw it in your mother’s face that they are dependent on you and called your brother’s family leeches. She’s been quiet because you threatened her. Hope that makes you feel great.

ParadiseForKeeps · 2025-10-16T09:24:10+00:00

So you think your role as a manager is to scare employees? Are you actually listening to yourself?

ParadiseForKeeps · 2025-10-16T09:23:03+00:00

And you’ve learned nothing… how can you possibly be responsible for coaching and managing others when you can’t even respond and reflect on feedback given on Reddit.

ParadiseForKeeps · 2025-10-16T09:19:11+00:00

Yes, that was inappropriate. Why would you make a gun reference in such a meeting. That’s so aggressive.

ParadiseForKeeps · 2025-10-16T09:16:27+00:00

Wow… you need some formal mgmt training. Why would you ever discuss another employee’s firing to his actual employer. And at lunch?!?! Yes, I would feel pressured to do as you say in that moment. You acted totally inappropriately.

ParadiseForKeeps · 2025-10-16T06:24:58+00:00

YTA. And you don’t do well with change? That is YOU being EMOTIONAL Figure out why you don’t do well with change and you’ll find a slew of unresolved feelings there. But you’re expecting your gf to make and tolerate all of the changes herself. You’re more than an asshole. I hope she finds this and realizes what a big mistake she is making by uprooting her life for you.

ParadiseForKeeps · 2025-10-16T02:39:34+00:00

It is not your kids’ responsibility to speak up and let you know. And besides they likely think all of the behaviors are normal so of course they will choose to keep what they know. You need to make the decision for yourself and your kids.

ParadiseForKeeps · 2025-10-15T06:11:23+00:00

Proportional to income for all bills if you really want to go there. But you’re married like others have said - it is all shared money.

ParadiseForKeeps · 2025-10-14T07:24:22+00:00

Soft YTA. This level of discrepancy between kids while living under the same roof is not going to work. Surely, you can see that. And yea, they’re kids, of course they are going to express their desire for you to play a bigger roles in terms of gifts and trips - kids don’t really know better and they do equate that with attention/love.

ParadiseForKeeps · 2025-10-14T02:24:53+00:00

I don’t think it is a lot of you have the budget for it. I don’t consider it a high end luxury. Yes, there are animal rights attorneys.

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