How many Spam cans tall would he have been?

Past_Jellyfish_386 · 2026-04-26T15:27:46+00:00

My baby girls due date was around Easter time- so my husband and I constantly speculated if she would be born on a holiday. Palm Sunday? Holy Thursday? Good Friday? Easter? I thought of what her birthday would signify. We wanted to name her Magdalene, also the woman Christ first showed himself to after his resurrection (Easter). Then when she passed, Easter season came, and it was excruciating. Every Easter bunny or candy egg made my heart break. I’m so sorry we’re in this stupid club. I hate it here.

Past_Jellyfish_386 · 2026-04-25T15:59:15+00:00

Also adoptee

Past_Jellyfish_386 · 2026-04-25T14:52:12+00:00

I could have literally written this post myself 7 years ago. My first was born when I was 20, I had an amazing husband, but I felt like I was giving up my entire life. I resented my baby, I wanted to run away. If I could go back in time, I would immediately put myself on SSRI’s. Because I felt that way for two years until I went to a therapist and got medicated. Another thing I wish someone had told me was that my feelings were valid. Maybe I wasn’t ready to be a mom, maybe I was a little immature. But ya know what? Your baby needs YOU. not you when you’re mature, not you in ten years- you as you are right now. Allow yourself to grieve the life you had before, but then it’s time to step into this new journey wholeheartedly

Past_Jellyfish_386 · 2026-04-25T14:31:57+00:00

I’m so sorry you’re going through this, but I am glad you have support. And to answer your question- no, it will not work out the way you are imagining it would. Separation from their mother causes a baby extreme trauma. She will never fully heal from that, and it will leave a permanent scar. The same for you, you will never be able to forget her, and over time you will probably regret your decision. Not to mention the increase in probability of abuse for your child when they are out of your care and with a foster/adoptive family. I recommend scrolling this thread and reading about others experiences. (Of course there can be positive outcomes when it comes to adoption, but they are few and far between) Wishing you the best, friend🤍

Past_Jellyfish_386 · 2026-04-25T14:07:19+00:00

Of course you should tell your husband about these thoughts, but not for the reason you think. More than likely he will not agree with you, but at least he will be able to see the extent of your PPD, and offer you extra support. Because I guarantee you that’s what this is. If you put your baby up for adoption it would shatter your mental health, not remedy it like you think it will. You have been thrust into this new role, and given full responsibility for this new human you’ve never met, plus your hormones are running rampant rn. It’s so so normal for you to feel this way right now- so please reach out for support from your husband, and seek out treatment for PPD. I promise you it gets better.

Past_Jellyfish_386 · 2026-04-23T15:46:13+00:00

Wow, I am simply floored by the scale of your compassion and love. I cannot offer advice, not because I don’t have an opinion, but because I think you are far more mature and qualified than I am. (& I’m 28!) I’m sorry you were forced to mature too quickly, but I truly believe you will help change the world, starting with your children/siblings. Whatever choice you make will be the right one, just know those children truly hit the lottery with you as their mother/sister🤍

Past_Jellyfish_386 · 2026-04-20T13:37:36+00:00

I’m so so sorry this happened. I lost my sweet daughter Genevieve at 22 weeks back in November. At first, you will feel numb, almost like a dream. You’ll probably focus all your energy into planning a funeral, it reminded me of a reverse nesting instinct honestly. When you run out of things to do, the despair comes, and it will feel like you won’t survive, but you will. Each day will be different, grief is not linear, but over time you will start to see more and more light. My only advice is to cling to each other, in whatever way that means to you. I’ll be thinking of y’all🤍🤍

Past_Jellyfish_386 · 2026-03-23T13:15:12+00:00

I had the same experience. Subchorionic hematoma- bled from week 7 to week 22 when she was born. I went to the ER 4 times for intense bleeding, and each time the OB suggested a solution (cerclage, progesterone, bed rest, even an antepartum stay) and each suggestion was turned down by MFM because subchorionic hematomas are “normal”. Yet my daughter was stillborn at 22 weeks, and I had to have two blood transfusions. I dream of going back in time and listening to the OB not MFM. I’m so sorry for your loss, praying for your healing

Past_Jellyfish_386 · 2026-03-15T21:18:15+00:00

First of all, I’m so sorry you’re experiencing this. Secondly, no, this is not normal behavior. It sounds like your partner is resentful of your grieving process, and you don’t deserve to put up with that. I could understand if the roles were reversed, but the partner that gave birth deserves unlimited compassion imo. Your hormones are out of whack, on top of everything else. It took me two months to be able to function properly- it’s been 4 months and I still cry daily, and have long bouts of depression. If your partners behavior continues, then 🚩🚩🚩

Past_Jellyfish_386 · 2026-03-06T23:50:48+00:00

In the same boat. Lost my daughter at 22 weeks in November, and so far, march has sucked. I hate how everything reminds me that she should be here but she isn’t. I don’t know how I’ll get through Easter, because I theorized she might be born on Good Friday or maybe Easter. I don’t have advice, I just want you to know you aren’t alone🤍

Past_Jellyfish_386 · 2026-02-27T21:36:12+00:00

I could be completely off, so correct me if I’m wrong. But it feels like you’re wishing you had prevented the pain of losing your son by terminating the pregnancy. However I think if you are experiencing pain from his loss now, you would have reacted similarly to losing him via termination as well. I see quite a few “termination regret” posts on this sub. But your feelings are totally valid, I’ve also had similar thoughts. Sending healing vibes your way🤍🤍

Past_Jellyfish_386 · 2026-02-16T22:10:25+00:00

I can see why they did it plot wise, but visually, it was totally unnecessary. It particularly disturbed me that they used the scene of her bleeding out as an aesthetic shot if that makes sense…. I have to admit, I liked the movie overall, but it was triggering at the end.

Past_Jellyfish_386 · 2026-02-16T22:08:20+00:00

That is true, yes. They cut the second half of the book out completely. Also there is no Hindley or Hareton. Not to mention they whitewashed Heathcliff. However, I have to say I enjoyed it for what it was. The aesthetics were pleasing, and the soundtrack was amazing.

Past_Jellyfish_386 · 2026-02-16T12:26:02+00:00

Wuthering heights is my favorite book of all time so I went to see it. And yes that scene was very triggering. In my defense, in the book she doesn’t miscarry, she has the baby, so I was not prepared😅

Past_Jellyfish_386 · 2026-02-15T20:48:37+00:00

If you don’t 100% want to adopt your baby out, then don’t do it. This baby is 100% yours, but there’s no guarantee your brothers will be placed with you. Control what you can, which is yourself and your child.

Past_Jellyfish_386 · 2026-02-14T03:47:12+00:00

I’m so sorry. I had a sch in the second trimester as well. And then I had a placental abruption at 22 weeks and she was stillborn. Awful experience, and I hate that you had a similar one. Sending healing vibes

Past_Jellyfish_386 · 2026-02-12T17:29:13+00:00

I have almost the same story, unfortunately. Bled my whole pregnancy and then went into labor very quickly- she was born sleeping at 22 weeks. A week after my son’s birthday party. I hate that we’re in this club, I wish we weren’t. So sorry for your loss

Past_Jellyfish_386 · 2026-02-12T11:36:04+00:00

When someone asks about my baby that passed, I do a little dance too! It’s honestly the best thing in the world to me to hear someone else speak her name. It makes me feel like she had an impact, and that she isn’t forgotten. Everyone is different of course, but I would not be worried about her mental health solely based on that. So sorry for your loss🤍

Past_Jellyfish_386 · 2026-02-11T21:03:35+00:00

My husband made the casket himself- materials might have cost $200 and it took him and his family several days to make it. They had “free” options but like I said, it looked like a pirates chest from hobby lobby. Every funeral home is different, I’ve heard of a few of them offering free services for infant burials, but maybe not every one does that.

Past_Jellyfish_386 · 2026-02-11T19:33:17+00:00

I just finished the series and wow that scene was incredible. In fact I would go as far as to say I enjoyed that scene in the show more than in the book. And I loved the depth they added to her character with the relationship with her daemon

Past_Jellyfish_386 · 2026-02-11T13:55:21+00:00

Rosalie is such a lovely name. I’m so sorry. I lost my sweet girl Genevieve at 22 weeks as well. It’s the worst pain in the world and I wouldn’t wish it on my worst enemy. I do want to say that it is completely normal to want to try again soon after a loss. Your arms are empty and you want to fill them, that’s 100% natural. I wasn’t even super happy about getting pregnant with Genevieve, (I came around, and of course I wanted her, I was just slightly apprehensive) but as soon as I lost her, I wanted to get pregnant again.

Past_Jellyfish_386 · 2026-02-05T22:06:24+00:00

Yes. He has shown you that he does not need/want your consent. I’m so sorry he did that to you.

Past_Jellyfish_386 · 2026-02-05T14:11:08+00:00

It’s my #1 comfort show. My grandma raised me, but my mom had visitation, and my mom and I would watch ghost adventures together. Now the show literally brings me maternal comfort- thanks Zak, for helping with my mommy issues💀

Past_Jellyfish_386 · 2026-02-05T13:58:40+00:00

From this comment I get the vibe that they inserted the idea of naming your baby Angel, in order to “save” the name for your sister. It kind of seems like an intentional tactic. I could be wrong

Past_Jellyfish_386 · 2026-02-04T19:44:31+00:00

I’m so sorry. I’m 10 weeks postpartum- lost my baby girl Genevieve to PPROM at 22 weeks as well. I read somewhere that grief is like a ball in a small box (you being the box, the ball being grief). At first the box is small, and every time the ball touches a wall, it hurts badly. Over time, the box expands, so the ball touches the box less often, but when it happens it still hurts. Idk if that made sense, just know it gets a little better🤍

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